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I joined the YMCA with my husband. He works out on his lunch hours now. I don’t have a full hour for lunch or a Y close to my work so I work out on the way home a few nights a week. I found myself feeling so sad tonight. I told myself when I joined I would take a class and maybe make some new friends. None of the classes I want to take are at a good time for me, so I have just been going and working out on the machines. I see friends working out together and mother & daughters and I wish I had someone to work out with.My daughter works opposite hours than me at a restaurant. I am a quiet person and don’t make friends easily. I gave myself a pep talk on the way home and told myself to give it time and maybe I will make a friend or two. If I were to go on past experience, I would say this isn’t likely to happen. I have volunteered and thrown myself into social situations, even tried to be more outgoing but never seem to making lasting friendships. Now that I am in my 40’s it seems even less likely,because people my age are busy with work and family, husbands etc. My husband and I play tennis together and swim together but decided to work out separately. I wanted some me time, some girl time. Any way,I don’t mean to sound whiny. I just wish I knew what the secret is to making and keeping friends? Oh well, I am going to keep going. I like working out and I want to be healthy, so friend or no, I will keep going.




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      Marion Licchiello wrote Nov 16, 2011
    • Okay... so here’s what I would do... I’m not sure if you were looking for advice.

      Make a list of all the things you want in a great friend.  Then focus on those things and finding that friendship and here’s the most important part...be that person because  people who like us are like us.  Whatever you put out there is what you will get in return.



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      Tuliplady wrote Nov 16, 2011
    • It’s easy to get to feeling down when you see other people around you having a great time with someone and you are alone.  I know, I get that way a lot of times too.  Marion gave you great advice.  I’d also add, enjoy that “me” time.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 17, 2011
    • I understand how you feel. Even in the best of marriages and enjoyable “me” time, it’s nice to have a few girlfriends to get together with. I like what Marion suggested. There’s really power in positive thinking and feeling that you already possess what it is you want. Hang in there - quality friends are worth the wait.heart



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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 18, 2011
    • I also agree with Marion..and I have been in your shoes for many years.  Guess what finally hit me a couple of years back?..that I am my own best friend, and if others like what they see in me, we will click..focus on your strengths and desires and the good vibes will reach others, trust me!heart



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