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I don’t know where to begin.  First my mother-in-law went into the hospital on May 11th.  She was recently transferred to a nursing/rehab home.  Hopefully she will be home soon.  She is 83 years old.  She has arthritis very bad all over her body and it is hard for her to get around.  My  mother was recently in the hospital.  She is a diabetic, has kidney failure and is blind. her right leg was hurting and then about 1 week later her right foot started turning a light purple.  She finally let my dad take her to the hospital.  I did not find this out until that morning.  I talk to them both every day.  Why didn’t they say something.  So thank god that she did not lose her foot and she had some nerve damage.  Then my dad and I checked out a nursing/rehab facility right down the street from my dad’s house.  It was perfect.  When she was released from the hospital and was taken there it was a totally different story. My dad and I met there and waited for my mom.  OMG the room she was going to be in and the service she was going to be receiving was bad.  So my dad said she is not staying here, she is going  home.  So after many phone calls, we were able to get her in-home health care.  Then on June 6th I smashed my finger in the trunk of the car and have a hair line fracture on my right pinkie.  Then this past Sunday night at 11:30pm I found out that my close cousin hung himself.  I am suppose to go to a family reunion this weekend and am torn between going to the memorial service which I do not know when it is, but know that it is in Wisconsin about 4-1/2 hours away.  Going to Missouri for the weekend is 8 hour drive.  My husband says we should go to Missouri since I have not seen them for about 10 years, and we need to get away, but then my heart tell sme I need to go to the services.   I am so torn on what to do.  Please keep my family in your prayers and thanks for listening.

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      Lazylola wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • So sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts.



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      Gypsynitefire wrote Jun 16, 2009

    • What I am actually saying is that we need to be willing to let our intuition guide us, and then be willing to follow that guidance directly and fearlessly!!
      May Angels Watch Over You and Give You The Strength You Need To Endure The Loss As Well As The Tragedy...
      You Are In My Prayers



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      Marie66 wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • So very sorry for your loss.. My prayers are with you and your family..



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      Motherhubbard wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • I am very sorry for your loss.



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      Otmaster wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • wow..what a run..I had like 4 years of difficult/challenging things..I thought it would never stop.I didn’t even want to alk about it to any one since it was so many things that even I couldn’t keep up. But eventually it stopped. Now things are better and boy am I ever appreciative. I try and give thanks every single day for all the blessings in my life. I find it keeps me centered.  I’m a big proponent of rituals and ceremonies because I think we need them to help us through this crazy life however, My humble opinion is you should go to the reunion. 10 years is a long time and we should seize joy when we can.  If possible maybe send a food basket or card  for the funeral for now. Maybe you could go visit your cousins family and spend a day with them after the funeral...like next week. All the people will be gone and having some one around after the funeral may be very nice for them. You could tell them of the reunion and share some happy conversation with them...since they must learn to go on as well. They can tell you about the funeral and have some quiet time with you. Good luck and I will wish peace and joy to come your way...hang in there. Women can do so much and handle so much...it never ceases to amaze me. You’ll get through this...best of luck



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      Sandils1962 wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • You are in my prayers.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jun 16, 2009
    • Sorry, when it rains, it pours; but remember, it can’t rain forever, the sun will shine one day, some day.



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      Smiley1962 wrote Jul 1, 2009
    • Thank you everyone.  I decided to go to the reunion and it was great!  They are having a memorial service for my cousin soon and I was glad to hear that.  Unfortunately with my mother she was just in the hospital again, and I have come to peace with myself that there is nothing I can do but only be there when they need me.  My mother-in-law is still in the nursing home and it will be sometime before she can come home.  However, we are having a family bbq on Saturday July4th and she will be able to come.  As for myself, I am exercising alot to try and get rid of the tension and hopefully get back on track and lose my weight and keep my diabetes under control as well.  I really do appreciate all the encouragement from everyone.  Have a Blessed Day!



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