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I haven’t posted in a little while, but never fear!  I am still “contemplating“; the words just haven’t come to fruition yet.  Meanwhile, I thought I’d share something I posted in a different forum, which I’ve been wrestling with lately:

I was reading in a book how we are powerless over our other’s behaviors, feelings, addictions, etc. Reflecting on this, it really draws a hard line between what is “ours” and what is “theirs“. Another statement the author makes on her website is that “what they do comes out of who they are” not necessarily something against us (though it may be aimed at us, I’m thinking).

These statements got me to thinking (uh-oh!)...I think I really struggle with being powerless sometimes, because I like to be in control! When I’m in control, I have maximum effect over my outcomes (that perfectionist thing again). When I can affect my outcomes, fear is minimized or even eliminated. And of course, the opposite rings true: the less control, the less impact on outcome, the greater the fear.

But I do have to come to terms with the truth of being powerless: there are certain things that I have absolutely no control over, like the sunrise & sunset, the weather, the traffic, but most importantly WHO PEOPLE ARE. The first things are easy to accept; the last one—not so much! But really, there is no difference.

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