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Can you really have it all??

That's the question of busy working moms who want to be able to work, have a family and take care of themselves.  

My answer is always "yes, absolutely". However, sometimes there are glitches and life feels out of control. When this happens it's usually because you are not getting your needs met or you are not aligned with your values. When you're out of integrity life feels out of balance.

Balance is a feeling derived from being whole and complete; it's a sense of harmony. It is essential to maintaining quality in life and work. Your life is made up of many vital areas including your health, family, financial, intellectual, social, work, spiritual, recreation, personal growth, romance and more. You won't necessarily spend time every day in each area in equal amounts, but if in the long run, you spend a sufficient quantity and quality of time in each area, your life will feel in balance.

However, if you neglect any one area, never mind two or three, you will eventually sabotage your own success. For instance, if you don’t take care of your health, your family and social life will suffer; if you put too much time into running your business, personal relationships and self care may suffer.

Living a balanced life is about integrating those components of your life that are truly important to you and realizing that sometimes you need to make choices about what has to come first. Making choices is powerful and allows you to live a balanced life that's aligned with what you value.  

By choosing what comes first, sometimes there are sacrifices. But living a balanced life doesn't require you to give 100 percent of yourself 100 percent of the time. There will be times when personal/family life and work collides but by knowing what's really most important to you and making choices based on this criterion, you'll be better able to balance your decisions and feel whole.

When you are ready to bring balance to your everyday life, try these tips:

Focus on your priorities. Concentrate your time and energy on your personal and professional priorities. Be willing to say "no" to everything else.  

Get organized. Create a structured plan each day rather than reacting to whatever comes up. Arrange time in your schedule for other activities besides work so that your days are not only balanced, but rewarding.

Be flexible. Accept that needs will pop up that will require your readjustment and perhaps new choices. Forgive yourself when things don't get done. Stop striving for perfection and allow for more reasonable standards.

Create daily routines. Instill healthy habits into your daily life. Find ways to relax, relieve tension, and minimize stress.

Simplify your life. Being busy 24/7 doesn't mean that you are any more important than anyone else—it simply means that you are busy and probably missing out on the things that would really make you have more joy and fulfillment in your life.

Balance is a continuous process. As you evolve you'll find new ways to integrate the different aspects of your life into a whole. How you combine your significant other, children, and work is a personal process.


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