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Since the day that I arrived, I've been amazed at the wisdom, strength, talent and beauty of the women at Fab40.  

I'll confess that occasionally I will happen upon a blog, a comment, or something posted in the Q&A, that causes my eyes to roll back into my head.  

It usually happens in the morning.  I'm not nearly as inspired in the morning as I am the rest of the day.    

If I happen to be indulging one of my particularly snarky morning moods, I might even comment to my morning companions, Gentle Ben and Muffyface, about the offending post on my way to refill my coffee.  

When I return to the Dashboard, I follow the path through the threads, made by those who rise much earlier and higher functioning than I.      

It seems I always fall in behind Vicki (UKGirl) and Vikki89. As these two travel through our Fab 40 house, reading blogs of triumph, pride, love, loss and loneliness; they leave, in return, high fives, requests for more information, hair color tips, fashion advice, words of encouragement, and when nothing seems to fit- they leave a smiley face just so the member knows that someone is listening.

I'm usually on my third cup of coffee by this time and I'm feeling convicted about my early morning snarkiness.  I wonder to myself  how many of us are just a little fragile right now.  There's a lot going on in the world.  A lot going on in our personal lives.  Most of it is not obvious to the casual observer.    

There are serious illnesses being fought by our members, some hearts have been broken by a lover and some broken by a daughter.  A couple of the women who market themselves here, through dashboard announcments and email blasts, are earning an income to replace a lost job. Some have discovered a new passion while engaged in their own painful battles against depression, panic disorder, or chronic illness.  

I'm not sure how to respond to a woman who proudly announces that she enjoys creating  discord. I don't get it. Not even a little. Alas, if I've learned anything in my 47 years, it is that other people's thoughts and actions- I can not control.  

So, I look in the mirror, at my own snarky, morning, self, and I vow to follow the examples of Vicki and Vikki- and not just to follow them on the Dashboard.

Life is hard. We‘re all a little fragile now and then.  

Be kind.  

And if you're feeling snarky, get up, refill your coffee and talk to your dog about it.  

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