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I am thrilled we have Obama as President-Elect. But I am really confused on how a country can elect Obama but still ban gay marriages? It really disappoints me that we as country don't give everyone  equal rights. Even though that is one the foundations of this nation. I don't get it. I have had happy tears going last night and this morning but have some sad tears going now too. I have several friends that got married this past year - I was so happy for them and I hope that their marriages won't be annuled. And I hope that those bans are overturned and others who I love can get married too.



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I’m disappointed, too, but am hopeful that Obama’s election to office is the tip of the iceberg.

      We’ve come a long way, but there is still so far to go.

      We start with our kids, Darby. Just like our parents did with us. Tolerance is learned, just like hatred. But some can only learn one lesson at a time.

      We’ll get there, friend.



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Who teeky? I thought we were posting in support of gay rights here. Did you misunderstand, or did I misrepresent?



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • FEATHER I dont think she meant you or darby..it’s for the comments TO COME...lol



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I hope so!! Can’t have my teeky mad at me!!! :(



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • nah feather..i know so...we’ve talked about this subject already...touchy for both of us...



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Whew. Okay. It’s a very touchy subject for me, too, so I was just sure we had to be miscommunicating somewhere.

      Thanks for stepping back in and setting me straight. Yes, even Ms. Feathermaye needs to be set straight every once in a while. ;)



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      Michelle Rowe wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • My sister is gay as well and I believe that if she wants to get married, she should be able to. I totally agree that we need to stay out of each other’s business and focus on our own!!



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      Acanvas wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • what a lovely thread to see as my first thread...just joined a minute ago. I am bi, have been my whole life, gender is completely irrelevant to me. I have been crying tears of joy since Obama’s win, a few minutes ago I found out Calif. voted against gay marriage and arkansa I think it is voted against gay couples having the right to adopt! New tears, not for joy...such a bizarre mix of emotion after a day of extremely high spirits!



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      Darby wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • acanvas, Welcome!  I am so glad this was your first thread. I am bi and gender is completely irrelevant to me also. I hadn’t heard that about Arkansas.  I heard that Arizona had definition of a marriage on their ballot and it got voted in but I haven’t researched that yet to confirm it.



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      Darby wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Feather thank you for asking Teeky as when I first read it too I was confused.

      Thank you Teeky for cleaning up our confusion!

      It is a touchy subject but I thank you all for commenting on this thread. I was very sad reading about Prop 8 this morning so just needed to express it.



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • I’m hearing from a typically reliable source that this is actually a good thing, because now same-sex couples who have been previously declared as married have a legal standpoint from which to fight. I don’t completely understand it all, but I’m hopeful that something good can still come of this.

      I mean, this is CALIFORNIA we‘re talking about, right? It just doesn’t make any sense to me.



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      Darby wrote Nov 5, 2008
    • Feather, that is what I didn’t get either...that California who usually is very progressive was banning gay marriages? I didn’t make sense to me.  

      Hmm on the legal standpoint. I do really hope it ends up being a good thing.



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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • I think, Jackie, although I can’t speak for anyone other than myself, that the surprise lies in the fact that Obama’s election indicates the advances we’ve made. And, in light of those advances, some of us had expected even more indications of progress, such as equal rights for same-sex marriages.

      In reference to California, with probably the highest number of homosexuals per capita in our country, the lack of support for those rights was downright surprising.



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      Darby wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Feather, Thank you your explaination is exactly why I was surprised!

      Peeper1997, it is too bad your cousin has to jump through such hoops just to get divorced.  

      We have friends her locally in Colorado fly to California last month just to get married. But now with Prop 8 their marriage won’t recognized as it only will allow marriages before June to remain legal. So I feel really sorry for them as their marriage now is cast aside like it doesn’t matter. Like their love isn’t good enough. I have family and friends who are gay who I want to be able to have the rights  other couples do.  This is one of many issues I write the state lawmakers on frequently.



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Parts of California are progressive, but remember places like Orange County. That is extremely Red, and the area that gave us Ronald Reagan.



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      Sandy Ochoa-West wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • I was thinking about something as I was reading this. I can understand why a gay couple would want to get married. What I was thinking is that in this day and age it is suprising to me only because so many heterosexual couples run from marriage. The divorce rate is 1 out of 2 and so many couples have chosen to live together instead of making the commitment and sticking it out. Just a thought. I get them sometimes LOL



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      Mztracy wrote Nov 6, 2008
    • Behind the ‘orange’ curtain.... (orange county)

      My friend, since kindy-garten, is having his ‘commitment ceremony’ this weekend. I hope this does not affect them in any way.

      It is so wrong that anyone can take away our human rights. I am saddened by the ignorance of some that feel they have that right. I guess I have a hard time with this, as why this ia even an issue? Why should it even need to be voted on? Why does is matter, it does not affect anyone but the ones marrying.  

      We are all human, we have feelings, we bleed the same color, our tears are the same.  

      I have been hearing that many are already getting the motions going to over-turn this! I back them 150%!!

      All I can say is “Some people’s kids!!”



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