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One of the hardest things for older people looking to get back into relationships is the actual entering into the world of dating.

It can seem very different and strange after not dating for a long time. Let's face it, later on in life we may not be out and about meeting new people as much as we did when we were younger.  So we may feel that our social skills with new people are a bit rusty, or we may feel unsure about how to be on a date.

You will probably feel a bit unsure about how to begin when you join a senior dating or mature dating site. If you haven't been on a date for a long time you may feel unsure. And of course, everyone entering the world of dating, romance and relationships has to face the very real possibility of rejection, so that can increase a person's sense of trepidation. We're not always aware of this kind of fear, but most humans feel it on a subconscious level.

That's why online dating is such a good idea.  When you decide to make contact with someone, even if it is just a wink or a smile, you are anonymous.  You are using a website's email or instant messenger services and this helps protect you or soften the blow from being rejected. It's much easier to approach someone like this instead of in person.  So you can work slowly towards a friendship and possibly meeting for coffee.

Another benefit to dating websites is that you can look through profiles and see who someone is.  You get a bit more information.  But when you meet someone at a party or any other kind of gathering you know nothing about them. On a dating site you can read about a person's interests, their hobbies, likes and dislikes, favourite foods, books and films etc.  That gives you a starting point.

So, if you have not been dating for a long time, and just don't know where to begin, read our columns on setting up a profile.  When that is done you can look through the profiles on the dating site and slowly make contact with people on a regular basis.

Online dating sites ease the transition into the dating game and hopefully will make this challenge a lot easier and smoother for you. Try to enjoy the site without stress or worry, and take a light and easy approach to dating.  Make lots of contact with people you find interesting and in time you will be developing friendships and hopefully dating someone who is special.

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      Mary Clark wrote Jun 21, 2011
    • My sister who is 60 has been back in the single world now for 10 years with very little dating because to be frank..there is nothing around here she would want to date.  She tried an online dating service and when one guy said that his “fake leg” was a turn off...that did it for question is WHY would you say such a thing?  She said it was the best entertainment she had had in a while...but didn’t find anyone.

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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 21, 2011
    • From the different people I hear from I don’t always hear that representation is always accurate. Then there are those that want to marry you sight unseen.

      I probably would try it but I wouldn’t pin my hopes and dreams on it!

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      Anne E wrote Jun 21, 2011
    • My brother met his second wife on  They got married when he was 53.  His wife is really nice-we all love her. heart

      So there are some nice people out there looking.

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      Cathie Beck wrote Jun 22, 2011
    • I tried a online dating site a year ago and it is entertaining, but I decided I would prefer meeting a friend of a friend, or someone I meet “off the street” while out and about.  


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