I just finished reading this book. I am extatic!  It is a mirror of your current love relationships and your childhood experience.  The book taught me that my husband is just another “wounded human being“.

We all have instances in our childhood that we use unconciously while looking for a mate.  We almost always choose a mate with postive and negative characteristics of our parents/caretakers.

He talks about an “unconscious” marriage and teaches you how to have a “conscious” marriage.  Some of the characteristics of a conscious marriage are:

You realize your love relationship has a hidden purpose, healing childhood wounds.

You create a more accurate image of your partner. The illusions are set aside and your partner is just another wounded human being who is struggling to be healed.

You become more intentional in your interactions. You behave in a more constructive manner.

You value your partner’s needs and wishes as highly! as you do your own.

You search within yourself for the strengths and abilities you are lacking. You become responsible for your own happiness and seek directly from your mate what your needs are.  

You become more aware of your drive to be loving and whole and united. You begin to love unconditionally. You become spritual and you begin to rediscover your original nature

You accept the difficulty of creating a good marriage. You realize it requires commitment,discipline, and courage to grow and change, marriage is hard work.

Heather Mirassou