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Every now and then I get overwhelmed by how dramatically times have changed.  When I stop to think about how much of my life now revolves around technology, I can't help but think about how different life was just a decade ago.  I am grateful for how easy communication has become, which makes keeping up with my grown kids and long-distance friends much, much easier than before.  But, like everything, the ease of communication speed and accessibility is a double-edged sword.  

I recently wrote a blog reminding everyone that the Internet isn't a safe place for secrets. We love sharing information with others; stories and photos about our lives. Sometime I even think we share too much and find ourselves regretting those decisions.  It's one thing to get carried away about documenting our kid's birthday party, but when you carelessly badmouth your boss, you might find yourself in front of a review board or in your boss's office the next day. Sometimes deleting your post doesn't make it go away. Google searches and activity processed through its server will remain imprinted there until Google changes its algorithm.  

We all know that social networks can often provide women with a community of like-minded peers who can share stories and know the other members can relate and give kudos, sympathy and encouragement.  Recently, a young woman from Minnesota shared her child birthing experience with thousands of on-lookers, through the social network site MomsLikeMe. If this possibility had even existed when I had kids, I know I wouldn't have had the guts to share such a personal moment with anyone outside the hospital room.  But maybe I'm just old school, who knows, maybe one day when my daughters have kids the idea of sharing their childbirths online for the world to see won't be so strange to them.  

But as I write this, my inner voice tells me that I'll never change....I guess to me some things are to private and to precious to share even with my dear online friends.

Would you give birth on line while the whole world is watching?

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      Divafabulosa wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • I think it must have been a courageous thing to do for this young woman. I am not sure what inspired her to do this. What was she thinking?

      I don’t know if I should be commenting here since I never gave birth but, I am old school as well in some ways. This is not something that I would have done.

      My inner voice would have stopped me from filming this:)



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • Im old school as well. It is much too intimate and private to be sharing with the world.

      xoxo



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      Karyn Olson wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • I think that whether it be right or wrong it would be a personal decision...I personally would not do it but maybe for not the reason you may be thinking...I think for me it would be because I lack the balls to do such a thing..
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      As for sharing intimate and personal details of myself...I do have a blog online and I do not hold anything back...my attitude towards this is I have been stepped on, used and abused for most of my life...what more could happen to me that hasn’t been done before...kind of sound harsh but the truth.

      My blog is a form of therapy for me...what I write in it is truthful and from my heart...most of what I write pertains to me and no one else...having said that I would never intentionally hurt anyone.

      So I guess what I am trying to say it is a personal choice that one has to make and with choices comes consequences...



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      Encee wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • Agreed.  When I was pregnant, my hub and I went through birthing classes at the local hospital.  We saw a video of a woman  giving birth and that’s when you should see it - not on a website.



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      UK Girl wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • I'm sorry but I do feel life has now become some form of reality TV show and lots of folk need their 5 mins of fame regardless of the circumstances .......where is their dignity.
      I would never do this also me being me if I had suddenly thought this was a good idea due to pregnancy hormones I would have been more worried about having bikini wax and making my hair looked good and what slippers and night dress I had on ........besides when I had Alice I have a booked C- Section so who would have watched me sleeping with a tube down my throat ?



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      Coralee Flug wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • yikes - private for me



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      Mirtha wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • No way, that is my moment, nobody else´s!!They have taken everything else away from us. Not that!



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      Plusstyle wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • I am not sure why someone would want to share such a wonderful intimate experience with a world of strangers you did not know.



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      Mzd3 wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • No , that is for the mom and dad only...



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      Deefna wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • I would never have chosen to do this but for someone who is comfortable doing this it may be great for someone wanting to know what it may be like to give birth.



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      Deprogrammed wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • No.  No.  Nyet. Uh-uh.  iCan’t. Oh hell to the naw.  Ain’t happening.  TMI.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • I don’t know.  As for me, I am such an open book on here.  I really do not know how far will I go?  Be warned!tongue out



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      Yana Berlin wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • Reality Show is what America craves for. The problem I have with reality shows is that it never depicts a “normal family“, portrayed families are always “screwed up” one way or the other. Of course I understand that who wants to watch a reality TV with a family that has “no issues“, it’s boring. Having said that, ALL families have issues, we all have  things that we deal with. I wish someone would just target “real episodes“, challenging times that parents and children go through, and not that garbage like sisters dating god knows how many different guys all on live TV, being rude to their parents and shopping around the clock with their mom, seriously....

      Today I was working out in the gym and stood in front of a giant screen but no sound, it was the Inside Edition or Insider, or what ever those shows are called, but Jon Gosselin and Levi Johnston (Sara Palin’s daughter x boyfriend and the father of her grandson) are now famous. There was a live poll who would you rather date Levi or Jon, give me a break, I’d rather be single forever, both men are sleazballs, who are basking in fame neglecting their children. Wake up America, stop watching this trash, let’s stop fueling their ratings and making them rich.



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      Laurie Zieber wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • Oh. No.  

      I wouldn’t have shared my labor and delivery experience online- and anyone who wasn’t in love with me or professionally required to be there is thankful for that!



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      L J wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • i would not... sorry but i am shy!!!!
      LJestaticestaticestaticestaticestatic



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      Maryann Rhodey wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • Personally, I wouldn’t share that experience with anyone else but my hubby.  

      If someone else feels comfortable showing their child being born then it’s their right I suppose.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 12, 2009
    • I have the doctors turn the mirrors in the room so I cant see or Ill pass out, and I still managed to pass out during child birth.. Blood makes me drop to the floor.  Anyway.. the answer is No because Id pass out if I saw it and I couldnt even watch medical channels or doctor 90210 or even my kids getting shots.  My oldest daughter is same way.. we cant stand blood.  

      As far as todays technology, its really brought Millions together as one world.  Yana your site is the same thing.. its technology bringing us all together, with out it .. we would not even be discussing this topic.

      So I think that everyone has a story, everyone has a life to share if they chose and internet is the media.  When Iran had the election, it was the internet that revealed the revolution of its people.  

      Everything can be exploited.  My agency is William Morris Agency in Los Angeles and they told me that they tell all thier clients Even Elvis Presley.. once you become public in any way.. you are exploiting yourself.  So ladies.. listen to what my agent said as your all doing it.



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      Paris Mano wrote Nov 13, 2009
    • No I would not make the birth of my child public by going online with it. I think that as a society we have gone too far with our lives being online. Finding old friends and classmates is wonderful and keeping in touch with the world is fine. Everyone is looking for that 15 minutes of fame and as you can see by the media and newspapers, people are going way too far. This is just my opinion. Yes I love the internet and enjoy communicating with newly found friends and old ones. It is also nice to know that there is someone online in case there was an emergency in your life and that was the only way you could get help. There is good and there is bad. JMHO



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      Marya1961 wrote Nov 13, 2009
    • My birth experience was extremely difficult and our son went through a lot being born (should have had an emergency C) so definitely not!



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      Lori Daniell wrote Nov 13, 2009
    • !!

      Wow..personally I would not, yet I won’t throw stones at someone who felt it was important and meaningful on some level to do so.  Brave lady!



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      Anne E wrote Nov 13, 2009
    • Never in a million years.



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      Esther Bloom wrote Nov 14, 2009
    • No effing way!!!!!!



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      Tethatsme wrote Nov 15, 2009
    • I would not do it.
      When telling my almost 13 year old daughter about how much she should share with friends on line blogs or photos, I told her to think of her self in front of a large group of people/strangers giving a presentation, if you would not tell the group or show photos to them of what you what to post on line it is a good thing not to put out there for the world to see.  

       I do not think many women would be willing to get up on stage, live, in front of 1000's of people and give birth, which is just what they are doing.
      Tina



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      Anonymous wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • Was she showing the birthing canal???



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      Samib wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • Not only would I not film it and put it online, I also would not allow all the various onlookers in the delivery room that so many people do today.  I view this as a special private time for the mommy and daddy only.



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      Mariana Calderon-Thornton wrote Nov 17, 2009
    • Hello Yana
      I totally agree! I am old fashion too I guess, I feel that way when I read in the social networks private things that I consider they should remain private!!! I would never share some information like giving birth, I know is a wonderful moment, but just for the family, I guess !



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      Mztracy wrote Nov 17, 2009
    • Well, I would not, but hey if she felt comfortable doing then good for her.



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      Joanne Root wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • To each their own.....



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      Njsheila wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • The birthing experience is considered by most to be an intimate experience (which by definition is “very private; closely personal“) and in my opinion should remain intimate. Imagine this child’s embarrassment when he or she is 10 and friends find this video out on the web!  

      I love technology but believe some experiences should be held closely to our hearts and shared with our loved ones only.



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      Buckeyebren wrote Dec 3, 2009
    • If it would teach others, yes. I have seen many births online and on television and have only seen a few which were similar to the births of my children. I find that sad. The doctors hand out drugs like they are candy, give pitocin to SPEED up labor instead of letting it progress naturally and in one  case on film let the patient CHOOSE whether she wanted a C-section or vaginal birth.  

      I feel young women truly need more education about childbirth because OB/GYNs feed them misinformation that they claim is the law to scare them into many times having unnecessary tests and often giving birth in a hospital when they do not want to, nor would there be a need to.

      For example, if your sister is a neonatal intensive care nurse, and best friend a paramedic (and both will be present at your child’s birth), and you live 4 blocks up the street from a one of the best hospitals in the country, why would you need to deliver your baby in the hospital, especially if you cannot afford to do so?

      So yes, definitely...to teach others that there are many options out there.



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      Faye43 wrote Dec 12, 2009
    • I so agree! I wish it was more private. I am squeamish, never had a child. I would rather not see someone else have one. I think they do this wayyyyyy to much on the Health channel. It should be private. I do not want to see your baby until he/she has been cleaned up and is in that cute little outfit your sister bought at JCPenneys. happyhappy



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