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No chance of that though, damn it, you have to push it to help it work!

Didn’t I go through this on Memorial Day?
Bored out of my mind with nothing to do? There is no where to go. I have not been invited anywhere, not that I ever am.
He goes out some time after 1pm, and it is Now 6:40 PM!
He doesn’t call....
He doesn’t come upstairs.....
He goes straight to the backyard to moe the damn weeds!
He Knows I’m Going to be Pissed!
I have such a severe headache today......I’m just going to IGNORE the Bastard!

You know, I realize that I really DO Need to Make Friends, but HOW?
How do you make actual “Friends“?

I socialize.....with Everyone.  

That Doesn’t Make You Friends Though...



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      UK Girl wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Sorry your feeling this way honey ....  

      Hope your weekend gets better



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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Give out of your need. You need a friend be a friend. You need love you need to love. Whatever the need.



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      40andwhere wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Oh well, there does the Friend thing. LOL If I Have to Love ME, or even Like me, First....I’m screwed!
      Can I just get by on being social? Maybe find a lonely, depressed, pathetic, whiner like myself?
      I’m sure they ARE out there some where....I have seen a glimpse of them.
      estatic



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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • You are so funny, stop it!! DO NOT say that about yourself.
      You are loved and YES you have to love yourself first. I know I have been there and have thought those same thoughts about myself BUT then I realized people do not want to be around me when I feel this way, Heck I didn’t even want to be around my own self but could not find a way around that without hurting myself so me being a wussy to pain decided to change how I view myself. I’ll be doggone it worked. Your since of humor is awesome and the gift of making others laugh does not come to all only a select few. You are a very gifted woman take a good look and see what we all see.



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      Mzd3 wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Hi  Faye, Im Dianne. I would love to get to know you and be one of your online friends :)



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      40andwhere wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • That is one thing I can say that my screwed up family, outside my husband, has...a Scense of Humor! My youngest brother is the a pisser to be around at parties, until he gets drunk...he’s also very obnocscious (where is spell check?) My daughter, aside from her own emotional problems, is just as silly. We all LAUGH when we are together.
      BUT, that alone, won’t get me through this shitty life. LOL

      I know, I think about that all the time. People don’t want to be around negetive people. They don’t want to hear your problems, or even assist in ANY way, but FAMILY? I Was there for so many people.....I have done so much, regardless of the complaining my husband did that I do too much. I’m over my mom’s too much....etc.....
      No One is there for ME. I am NOT going to say another word to ANYONE in my family anymore...I am just going to hold it in.....or Sorry Girls....“Bitch” on here. (Until you all Block ME!)tongue out

      I just want ONE person to be by MY Side.....no matter what, as I have been by everyone who has ever needed me.

      Whatever happened to: “What goes around, Comes around“? but in a GOOD way?

      I don’t believe that God gives you what you can Handle.....
      Because if he can hear the thoughts in my head...I’m thinking of switching sides. I’m feeling very pulled....if you can understand that.

      I would love to say that “I just want to feel Happy again“, but I can’t even remember WHEN I’ve actually had that feeling.



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      Mzd3 wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Faye,
      I will be on your side, no matter what.If you just need someone to listen, or to give advice, Im here for you!

       Dianne in Ohio



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      40andwhere wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Hi Dianne, Thanks for the Add, and Nice to Meet You.
      I’m sorry, but I’m still hoping to be able to post Good Things that have happened in my present life, instead of all the upsetting news and thoughts.
      I’m giving myself headaches over all this complaining. LOL
      I look forward to chatting with you....
      Faye in NJ



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      Tuliplady wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • You sound exactly like my BFF.  She complains all the time that she has no friends except me and  her hubby.  I never really know what to tell her except what works for me.  Get out and get involved in the community.



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      Marilyn09 wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • I hope you and your hubby worked things out.



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      40andwhere wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • I don’t like my Community. I don’t want to live in this Town, so that would be out.
      I would only cause trouble, I complain about everything in this neighborhood....my psycho neighbor across the street who walks her dog off the leash, doesn’t pick up the dog poop, and her father: who wears Women’s clothes and stands there picking at his crotch! I think his thongs are too tight! Not to mention the drug deals and speeders! LOL
      I got alot more for the whole town. The crap I see. No wonder why I don’t want to leave this depressing apartment! LOL

      Should I just run for Mayor?
      tongue out



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      Marilyn09 wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • I didnt realize you were still on- how are things going?



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • I’m sorry your feeling this way. Hope your weekend turns out good. It’s good your letting It out Instead of keeping It locked up Inside though, and If you ever need to vent some more, I am here, you can e-mail me anytime happy

      Hugzzzzzzz
      Frannie



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      Mztracy wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Faye, no where in the bible does it say God only gives us what we can handle. I hate that saying! YOU just keep being the good person you are!!

      Anytime you need to talk I’m here. pm me your number if you’d like.

      I’m sorry this is how the weekend is going. Do something just for you! Find a book you have been meaning to read, get your nails done, take a long bath.

      Big cyber hugggzzz coming your way!!



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      Mztracy wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • BTW, complain away... we ALL do it from tie to time!!
      xoxo



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      Owlmaria wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • Tracy is right we all complain so go ahead.
      we may just be strangers across the internet but actually we are sisters b/c we share so many things we have in common. Pains, pleasures, good times & bad and we are all women & can relate to what you are feeling & going through.
      Just know you are loved unconditionally!
      Maria



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      L J wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • I AGREE WITH TRACY AND MARIA!!!!
      I GO THRU THOSE SPELLS OF WANTING TO BLOW UP THE WHOLE DANG WORLD!!!
      I LOVE MUSIC AND THAT IS THE ONLY THING THAT CAN GET ME OUTTA MY SHITTY MOODS SOMETIMES!!!! BUT I CAN'T LISTEN TO COUNTRY WHEN I GET IN THEM MOODS, I HAVE TO LISTEN TO NICKELBACK OR 3 DOORS DOWN!! THEY R THE ONLY ONES THAT GET ME STRAIGHT!!!
      GIRLY, LIFE WILL GET YA IF U LET IT ...
      MY UNCLE USED TO TELL ME WHEN I WAS YOUNG- "IT'S YOUR WORLD BABY-CAKE, EVERYBODY ELSE IS JUST LIVING IN IT!"
      AND I LOOKED AT HIM AND SAID!- WHEN THE H### ARE THEY GONNA FIGURE THAT OUT??"

      *lol// LJ*happy



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      L J wrote Jul 3, 2009
    • AND ALSO IF YOU NEED ME, E-ME, AND I‘LL BE THERE!
      lj



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      Janet Wooley wrote Jul 4, 2009
    • LJ I love nickelback & 3 Doors down too.My hubby plays alot of their stuff. I saw Nickelback before they became famous in San Diego a few years back. I also like Johnny Lang.



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      Laurie Zieber wrote Jul 4, 2009
    • 40andWhere,

      It would be arrogant of me to suggest that there is a simple solution to your situation- especially since I don’t know you or the people in your community.  

      Yet, I hate to "hear" you believing that you are stuck in a situation and have no options. Looking back at at a time when I felt stuck in a situation in my life, I can see that because the same angry thoughts kept looping through my mind (like a playlist that repeats again and again) the noise of those thoughts prevented me from seeing the options that I did  have.  

      You have a great sense of humor,which tells me you are also very creative! I believe you are bright and capable and that you can find a way to make your situation better. And until you believe that too- this is a great place to rant, complain or cry!  

      BTW, the reference to God not giving us more than we can handle: MzTracy is so right- that’s a myth. God doesn’t say that He won’t allow us more than we can handle. His whole point is - you‘re not alone! Other people have gone through exactly what you‘re going through. They came through it- and so will you. And He is there with you,in the apartment, in that strange town. He probably thinks they‘re behavior is  a bit strange too- but His love is for you AND for them.  

      The scripture is 1 Corinthians 10:13 (The Message)

       h3. No test or temptation that comes your way is beyond the course of what others have had to face. All you need to remember is that God will never let you down; he’ll never let you be pushed past your limit; he’ll always be there to help you come through it.  

      Rant on, sister, as long as you need to...
      happy



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      Eli wrote Jul 4, 2009
    • LOL
      I had one of these days a couple of days ago.  I hurled my abused at the birds for so long, that I got sent to the swimming pool with a bottle of Chardonnay to “cool down“. LOL

      I then spoke to one of my friends of Skype for about three hours while I ranted and raged and she laughed and laughed.

      Nothing like a good old rage at the world when things are starting to really get to you.

      eli



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      Lazylola wrote Jul 4, 2009
    • I feel like I am living your rant right now, most of it can apply to me, there are always options and ways out. Getting out isn’t always easy, making the first step isn’t always easy, especially if you already feel alone. We are here for you so you are not alone. You saved me some typing as you pretty much captured how I feel. It sucks, but as all these lovely ladies say positive things I start to feel better and better. Anywho I just wanted to let you know I’m here to lend an ear and offer advice (if and when I have anything useful) hope your weekend gets better.



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      Faye43 wrote Jan 7, 2010
    • Faye, I love your avatar. I feel some of the same things you do. I lost my job several years ago and that is a helpless, hopeless feeling. I am in a relationship where sometimes I wander, "what's the point?" I have physical problems so it is hard for me to work. I went back to school and received my degree in graphic design but still can't find work because so many experienced designers have been laid off. The competition is fierce. New ones such as I do not have a snowballs chance in h...I have no children. That has some good and some not so good points. My saving grace is I have a wonderful hobby; art. I put all of my frustrations into designing pictures and it is a wonderful outlet for me. Find something solitary you like to do, something creative. Trust me it will help you keep your sanity. Also look at some of these profiles of ladies here who have made it in life. It can be a great source of inspiration. It is for me. There are so many wonderful ladies here. I live in a Spanish speaking neighborhood so I cannot understand what they are saying. Actually I sort of like not understanding my neighbors, he he. Please don't do anything rash. Try to hang in there. I keep myself happy with the thought that this too will pass. Another thing that helps me is I am back in school. I saw myself getting in a rut so that is what I decided to do. School and my art keeps me going when the boyfriend says nasty mean things and the world is so unrelenting. I hope some of these things I am saying help you. My condolences to you about your mom. That is something I have never had to deal with. I think maybe you would benefit from grief counseling. Maybe join a breast cancer volunteer group. These two avenues may also help you find friends. People who have gone through the same things as you. Take care and God bless you, Faye



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