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Because you gals are very caring and supportive—I believe this is a good time to let out some mental toxicity.  

Here it goes:  

Shamefully, I must admit that I’ve been conned a few times in my younger years.  This left me traumatized and on guard for a long time and trusting people had become too difficult!  Because of the emotional turmoil,  it was important that I do extensive research on “sociopathy“. that’s exactly what I did!  

I wanted to make sure that my “gullibility” didn’t happen again.  Also, “Red flags” were highly important to recognize. I became a regular reader on the website:
I was now an “expert“.  

Anyway, to make a long story short and believe me; this is only a tiny bit of the story, otherwise, it would be too long!  

I worked with this VERY wonderful gal who was very pleasant and cordial.  I felt so bad for her, because she was a victim of domestic violence for many years and was molested as a youngster.  She had four kids, divorced and was not doing too good financially and emotionally.  

I befriended her and was very happy to meet someone new.  We talked for hours about life and the terrible things that have happened to us during our lifetime.  We had formed an intense bond.  She was in dire need of surviving financially with 4 kids. I reached out to her the best that I could.  

Unfortunately, she was fired from work, because she wasn’t able to function too well—Her personal life got the best of her and her work performance deteriorated.    

She desperately had to look for job and I helped her immensely!  I found her some good leads, but she wasn’t interested. I helped her financially to make ends meet;   paid for all of her dinners whenever we went out to eat and some groceries.      

Luckily, she found a good job and was happy. During Xmas time she suggested that we exchange gifts and for two years—I gave her some nice jewelry for Xmas and her birthdays.  And she’d always “forget” to bring my gift.  (To be honest with you, I really didn’t want one.  It was just weird that she would request and not participate.  

I realized that she would NEVER call me or return my calls.  I would be the initiater.  I also realized that she would only get in touch with during holidays—(ie: gift exchange, etc. . . )  In addition, she was not compassionate toward my needs.  She was always the center of the attention. Always the victim.  

The last time I heard from her, it was during Xmas time two years ago.  I told her that I was busy.  I never heard back from her since then.  Not a “hello” . . . Nothing!!!  

Well, I learned from her ex-friends and acquaintances that they also felt terribly bad for her and lavished her with elaborate gifts, money, etc . . . One lady spent nearly $10,000 on her and never heard back from her and they were “best friends“.  

Now that I look back—I ignored the “red flags“!  I felt so sorry for her that I would have done nearly anything I could for her, NEVER anything illegal.  

Once again . . . “CONNED“!!!!  Don’t let this happen to you.  Sometimes, my heart is too big and my brain is too small and hollow!!!!!!!!!


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