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Hello ladies! Sorry to not be my cheery self...LOL..But sometimes our men get us this way!
Ok...here is my gripe.

This morning I got a phone call from another Realtor saying she would be faxing me an offer today on one of my props she took a family through this weekend for a second look! YAY! I was so psyched. Another deal fell through on this prop in November...my sellers and myself are very anxious to sell this. Ok..
My husband says....in an oh-so-negative almost nasty tone...
“It will probably be a really low offer”
That gets my Irish up and I say.....
” Well with a negative attitude like that...how do you expect things to work out”
He says..
“Hey Ree, I am not being negative, I am just being realistic, We ALL can’t look at the world through rose colored glasses” ( it was inferred that this is what i do)
I said...
” I am not unrealistic, I just CHOOSE to be positve about things and make the best out of every situation”
He said....
“exactly, that is not realistic...there are some situations that ther is not a best situation for”
I told him
“You can always make the best of any situation...anything is what you make of it”
he told me again
” that’s not realistic”

Ok skip to a few hours later ...
The Realtor faxes me the proposal...and i almost choke it is such a low offer...i am obviously distraught and what did my hubby say within seconds of hearing the bid...
“I TOLD YOU SO”
What the F$%#????

I got sooo mad  we started yelling at each other...he said I told you you weren’t being realistic. And for the first time...ever  I told him to SHUT UP and walked away. Left it at that...he never apologized, I will not apologize and that is that. We were talking when he left for work but I am upset....isn’t he supposed to be the ONE person who is supposed to support me and encourage me???

Thank you for letting me get this out! I appreciate the “vent time”



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • Ree, it’s ok to vent! Men can sometimes be exasperating. Here, I’ve got one rose colored glass just for you, my friend!



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • Sigh!  Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars.  I am sorry and especially when anyone say something like “I told you so” or “Didn’t I say so.” add extra oil to the fire.  I hear you lady.



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • “HEY SIS!” chalk this one up as experience. You‘re going to have miss understandings in marriage but hey it matters not who says sorry, honestly you both need to appologize to each other both of you are acting out like babies playing the blame game (see I told you so) stuff then you say shut up! Just except this glass of red wine from me seeing I can’t do a things with it because red wine gives me horrible headaches lol, but in all seriousness grin and bear it put on your big girl draws and tell him you‘re sorry and mean it life has bigger issues and trust me you both need and love each other and this is just one misunderstand of many to follow so girl gone and tell your man sorry talk it out and give him some to seal the deal ; )



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      Jenni0811 wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • Keep your ROSY ATTITUDE Marie ....I am always dancing through life with nary a care and most everyone has thought me quite daft at one time or another.....But I close my ears, and skip away.....
      You are SOOOOOO right that any situation can be changed with the right attitude!



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      Almostfive0 wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • I understand exactly what you mean and how you feel Marie.
      Your husbands sounds like he has the same attitude as mine.
      He often makes remarks about my philosophies on life.
      It annoys me that people feel you are out of touch with reality or “look through life with rose colored glasses” because you tend to look for the positive outcome and try not to dwell on the negatives.
      There are negative things in the world and bad things happen but we can have concern for a situation and not be constantly be worried about it.
      Be true to yourself girl. This will pass.



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      Jomi wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • ree...keep on being optimistic!  Men seem to enjoy being pessimistic.  I’m sure that’s one of the reasons that he loves you even though he didn’t express it that way today.
      Remember,, your friends here support you!!



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      Linni wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • Hey Ree...

       im sorry you had this blow up with hubby today! it really stinks! HOWEVER! you need to cool off, and apologize.. life is too dang short to be hurt and angry with those we love..besides, you will feel much better when you do!

      Love you!
      Linni



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      Robinesque wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • Yeah, witty, my husband seems to actually resent the fact that it takes a village to get me all riled up.  He lets a lot of the small stuff grow and the big stuff hits him hard, but just because I react and handle things DIFFERENTLY, does not qualify me as unrealistic.  My husband would call it “oblivious“.  (Doesn’t make him right!)

      I wouldn’t define my views as “rose-colored” but I have come to realize that I’m more “que sera sera.



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      Coachmombabe wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • Ree, it’s interesting that I was just having a conversation with someone last night about being an optimist. My husband also calls himself a realist. My take? I see the possibilities for good and bad, then withhold judgment until all the info is in. Keeps me peaceful. I figure, you just never know so why spoil things expecting the worst?  

      You keep your bright and cheerful perspective! Maybe he’ll catch some of it someday!!estatic



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      Robinesque wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • WHY are the posts out of order?!!!!!!



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      Wittymom wrote Jan 13, 2009
    • Somebody said (I’d have to look up who it was):
      “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. That little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.”

      Keep your rose colored glasses on and let your husband voice the opposite. Believe it or not that is his way of balancing you out.  Breathe, and keep going.



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      Susan Sullivan wrote Apr 29, 2009
    • In my household, I’m the negative or “realistic” one - Jessie is the positive one.  It caused a lot of issues at first, but over the years, we’ve learned to let it be a positive thing (most of the time).  See, I’m so negative that I am too cautious that way and she’s not cautious enough - so when one of us voices an opposite view, we try hard to use that to pull us back closer to the middle. Some days we disagree like you too but you have to just remember that a different point of view isn’t always bad.

      I wish I were more like you..you need to keep that outlook cause it provides good balance for you two.  I don’t like being so negative “realistic” but my upbringing and life experiences have bent me this way and it’s taken a lot of time, effort and self-awareness to even realize that it’s an issue.  Don’t give up on him.



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      Ameena wrote Jan 14, 2012
    • I guess I am going to be the odd one out on this one. My husband is considering a business venture and to make a long story short I told him that I did not think he could do it. He of course was upset but I was being honest. My husband sees other people with business ideas and thinks that he can do it without realizing that his philosophy is quite different than others and he may not be able to set those differences aside. Needless to say we have not really spoken since I said that. Should have I supported him, maybe but if I am not honest about things what’s the point. It is tricky and I don’t have all of the answers but sometimes being a realist is best but it may appear to be not supporting or being a pessimist. There is definitely a fine line and I don’t know where to draw it. I apologized but I was just being honest. He is hurt and I get that but I can’t take it back. Apologize to your husband and move on.



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