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* Hungry
* Angry
* Lonely
* Tired  

Sometimes I can get irritated, misread what someone is saying (and take offense) or just want to be left alone.

The very first thing I must do is ‘*Check Myself*’ in these extremely important areas.

  •  When was the last time I ate and how healthy was my


  •  Am I upset or holding on to a resentment from an earlier

   situation and carrying it over to anyone that crosses

   my path ohhhh.

  •  Am I feeling lonely?  When was the last time ‘I’ picked

   up the phone to talk to someone that I am close to or

   reached out to someone I know is struggling and needs

   an ear to listen?

  •  Am I getting a good nights sleep?  And if not, what am

   I doing about it?  Go to bed earlier, don’t eat before

   going to be, setting the clock to be sure I don’t sleep

   too late in the morning?

These may seem like things that are not a big deal, but many times when I am not myself, these four things, if addressed, may fix the problem (me) ASAP.

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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Mar 6, 2010
    • I have a friend who is a counselor and she uses this method all the time. Even if a conflict starts within her own family and it looks like an argument can result, all of her family members do this personal check and if any of these elements are present they agree to postpone the discussion. Very effective.

      Thanks for the reminder. I haven’t thought of this in a long time.

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      Rachel Gordon wrote Apr 20, 2010
    • Oh yes, I can relate to this VERY well!!  For the first year in sobriety I had a big problem with remembering to eat.  I believe that eventually the alcohol had done something to the part of my brain that tells me that Im hungry and I just did not feel hungry . . . ever!  For most of my life I had struggled with my weight, but those last couple of years the weight just fell off me in ridiculous and dangerous amounts.

      I used to find myself getting very squirrely and anxious when I forgot to eat and I would spiral into a weird place that is best for an alcoholic in recovery to avoid!

      Now Im a lot better about eating though I dont always eat very healthily because one of the weird things that has happened since I stopped drinking is this (dont hate me for it!) . . . . I can eat what the hell I like and hardly put any weight on at all!!!  Seriously, my boyfriend is a big guy but he cannot eat the quantities that I can, and the poor guy always puts on weight when he eats too much.  I guess it will catch up with me eventually . . . . but for now Im just enjoying being able to stuff my face with sweets and chocolates . . . . Im getting pimples though!!  Serves me right estatic

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