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What happens to you when someone asks for your HELP? Do you go the other way? Do you ask yourself how you could possibly help them? Do you talk about them behind their backs and judge why they may have gotten into their situation? Do you pretend to care? Do you help out of guilt because they may have been there for you in the past or do you do the best that you can to HELP them? I don't know about you but recently I have found myself going through some really trying and tough things; however it seems that when things start happening to me there is always someone else who needs help. Almost like I don't have time to think about my own junk, because someone else needs help. I'm not saying that I help people to forget about my stuff, but what I am saying is that I realize that when I am so fixed on my own issues thats when God test me to see how selfish or selfless I'm going to be. I use to live my life thinking that I was superwomen! I had to be the knight in shining armor the sister that was gonna run in and save the day but you know what I wasn't. My heart was in the right place and my motives and intend were pure but I got blindsided by things that I was not prepared for. Things like people being ungrateful. People not appreciating the sacrifices that I had made to help them. Things like people sucking my energy out and never allowing me to draw from them. I became resentful and had plenty of regrets.  It always hurt so bad when I had given and given everything and all of myself to my friends and still came up lacking and depleated. I realize that I was helping in all the wrong ways.  I thought that I was to help to fulfill a need or help them to see the truth where there was a lie but I wasn't. Ultimately what I realized was all I was suppose to do was show them God.  He was the knight in shining armor, he was the one that would save the day and he was the one that was going to change their situation NOT ME! In short what I am going to share with you is something that I believe God showed me and it has helped me to HELP my friends in ways I never thought possible.  Here it is my definition of the word H.E.L.P   H-Always extend your HAND When that person is down help them up. When they are hurting hug them. Lift your hands with them in prayer and worship for this is where the real help is gonna come from. E-Always ENCOURAGE them to seek God. Let them know how powerful and strong they are. Remind them that Greater is he that is within them then he that is in the world. They are more then conquerers and they are victorious! L-Always Show them LOVE and speak LIFE into their situations. God is love and we must allow God to love on our family and friends through us for this is the way that God manifest himself in the earth. In situations that seem hopeless and lifeless we must practice speaking LIFE for what we say with our tongues will be manifested in the flesh. Speak it into existence. Speak Life into that person and into that dead situation. P-Let them know that everything has a PROCESS and they must go through it. We may not like it but we must endure it. To everything their is a season and there is a season to sow and a season to reap. It all happens in Gods time. If you remember these 4 steps to really helping you will never be disappointed. Be encouraged my friends.


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