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As if maintaining a successful business partnership for over a decade isn't enough for two people, Fatin and Aja Dantzler have also maintained a loving marriage. Known to their fans as Kindred the Family Soul , the Philadelphia duo has traveled the world and raised children as smoothly as the sound of their silky vocals.

Currently celebrating the July 26 release of their fourth studio album Love Has No Recession , Fatin and Aja are able to reflect on their three previous albums and years of hard work with good spirits. UrbLife.com recently caught up with the talented twosome to get some of their hard-earned advice on how to keep a marriage alive, when kids and career often take the front seat in daily life.

How long have you guys been together and how long have you been married?  

Aja: We've been together about 14 years, and we've been married 13 years this September [2011].

How many kids do you have?  

Aja: We have 6 children. We have three school-aged children, ages 12, 9, 6; 3-year-old twins, and a 17-month-old baby.

What are your Top 7 tips for keeping a marriage happy?  

1. Patience is optimum.  You have to have a lot of patience because when you work together, your work life will impede on your personal life quite a bit. You'll have to deal with certain things that happen unplanned, last minute, and lots of things that will require your patience.

2. Be flexible. Be able to embrace your situation and life as a couple and a family. If you embrace it, you don't feel flustered by it. Nobody else will. They will embrace it and feel comfortable with it as well.

3. Prayer. Prayer is important. Whichever way that you feel, you need to pray. I definitely think having a spiritual faith is very important. Moments of reflection, whatever you need to feel centered, do that. You and your husband should definitely be in the same place together.

4. Passion.  You have to get your love on! You can't cut the love line.

5. Mom is in charge. [Fatin:] Fathers, let the mother's know that they are in charge, because that will keep your home happy. Let the wife be in charge, it makes the home run smooth.

6. Dad is the man of the house.  [Aja:] As women, a lot of us have Type A personalities. We know how to run it, how to do it, and we're great at it. But I think that it is important, especially if you're doing business with your husband, to understand and surrender the fact that your husband is the man of the household.

That is important to understand and respect that. It's not an indication of your inferiority or "old-think." It's important for him to understand and embrace his position, as well as you celebrate it.

7. Laugh together and have a lot of fun. I think that we do get an opportunity to really enjoy one another's company. Be sure with each other, laugh, joke, and just enjoy each other. That keeps us centered, happy, and in a good mood. A lot of times just sharing a laugh and smiling. I think that really helps to keep things bright and upbeat.

When you make time for yourselves, how do you do it? Date night?  

Aja: Unfortunately because of our lifestyle and the amount of children that we have, we're not able to have a lot of planned kind of thing. We have to get it in where we can fit it in. Sometimes because we have a unique work situation where we get to travel a lot together, that's our opportunity to catch a movie, have dinner together, lay in bed and watch TV, or whatever the case may be. Those are times when we are able to fit those moments in.

When we are home, I think that we really tend to embrace our family life. When we spend time together, we really try to incorporate the kids. You have to go with the flow; you can't make it be something that it's not. If we go around mourning the fact that we don't have any privacy, I think that it brings negative energy into your life.

The kids are a huge part of our life; we try to have fun with them. Sometimes that ends up being quality time with me and him as well, just a different kind. Not necessarily romantic or physical, but its quality and it feel good and definitely feed our relationship.

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