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I have learned to "never-say-never." Not because I'm super smart or know it all, but because I've lived long enough to know better. Life is a journey, so you never know where it will lead you. I’ve learned you have to be open to where this journey called life will take you. Life has many twist and turns, and you have to be flexible and willing to step into unfamiliar doors. That means stepping into doors that do not always make sense neither are they comfortable. That is why you cannot say what you will "never" do, because you do not know where your life journey will take you.

In 1996, I stepped away from a major bottling company to pursue my own interest. I had been an administrative assistant for 7 ½ years, and if I stayed at the company that is what I would probably always be. When I walked away, my goal was to become a software instructor. Had I ever done it before? No. Could I do it? I thought so. So I pursued it. After one week I landed my first software instructor contract. I didn't have any experience, but I had a lot of confidence. Before I knew it I had two different contracts going, one in the morning and one at night. Seven months later I was pregnant with our first and only child. I got into a car accident and decided to stay home and not work. However, one of my clients hired me to work full-time and start their Career Services department, from home, as a Career Services Consultant. Did I know anything about being a Career Services Consultant? No, but I learned.  

In 1999, we paid off our first home and I quit my "wonderful" job to spend quality time with our daughter. I started my business to work around her schedule. When I leave a company, I never go back. That hadn't necessarily been a rule; it just seemed to be what happened. So for the last 10 years I've worked for myself. Never considering working for someone else. However, spoken or unspoken "never say never."

In late September 2008 business got extremely slow. Matter of fact, it got so slow it almost stopped. Amazingly, my old employer from 10 years ago, out of the blue, sent me an email asking me if I was interested in a position at their company. I went on the interview. It wasn't the right job for me, but it opened my mind to actually working for a company. Two weeks later I got on the phone and started cold-calling for work. The next day I had an interview set up, and I was working the next week as a communications & development manager at an executive consulting firm.

The second week in December, I received another email from my old employer. They had created a new position especially for me. We ironed out all the particulars over the phone, and my offer letter was emailed to me. I accepted the position, resigned from my contract position, and on January 6th I'll start my new position as the Regional Director of Career Services. The great part, I’m still doing finanical coaching on the weekends. Plus on my new job, I’ll manage, coach, and train a team of 6-8 people. I feel like I have the best of both worlds doing what I love –coaching and training.

The lesson I've learned: you never know where your life journey will take you. So never say never to the possibilities known and unknown in life.

Have you ever said you would "never" do something, and then you turned around and did it?

Sharman Lawson a columnist on Fabulously40, and a financial coach, speaker, and author of the book 12 Steps to Eliminate Debt Forever! Visit her website: [Link Removed]

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