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We all have our "gifts."  I remember when we were young and silly, my
girlfriends and I would sit and count who is fortunate to posses what gift.

Some of us were very domestic - - we cooked, we cleaned, we baked, while
others were great scholars. They sat on their butts for hours learning and
yearning to get that great education, later becoming doctors, lawyers,
pharmacists and some of them entrepreneurs.

girflriendsSome were creative, some were assertive, some were funny and some were
savvy, but no one was everything in one. That was the beauty of us; we were
as different as night and day.

I was the one that was the cook.  It was expected of me to cook dinners and
bake desserts while all the other girls were avoiding the kitchen at all costs. So as soon as I got married, it all happened in our house and in our kitchen.  

As years passed, and the scholars became professionals and entrepreneurs
began to make money they all learned to order out. As we got older it was
just known that "THEY" don't cook, "THEY" cater.

So let me tell you how surprised I was this past weekend. "THEY", cooked up
a storm, "THEY", learned how to Google recipes, how to stuff turkeys, how to
set the tables and the most amazing thing was that "THEY" enjoyed every
minute of it.

As I drove from one house to the other during my Thanksgiving weekend in LA,
I was pleasantly surprised. My darling girlfriends, who used to ask me if
it was necessary to boil the eggs in order to make an omelet, all of a
sudden became fantastic cooks.

While one made shitake butter for her turkey, the other made corn soufflés.
When I asked if they were using canned cranberries I got "the look" - -"THEY"
were making cranberry jam from scratch, and it tasted delicious.

As I observed this phenomenon, I couldn't help but smile, here "THEY" are,
the ones that never wanted to cook. They were cooking up a storm as I sat
there and watched them with no desire to jump in and help. I guess roles
change even between "US" girls.

I've always said: If you live long enough, you will get to see everything.

Have you seen this shift between your girlfriends?


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      Coachmombabe wrote Nov 30, 2008
    • Yana, what an awesome experience! No, I’ve not lived that long! Oh, wait, I haven’t had the same friends for that long, maybe that’s it. My longest running friendships are with my sisters just younger than I. In that case, perhaps there’s been a slight shift. They were the educated ones with jobs, while I was the stay at home-school mom, and now I’m the one with a career.  

      I still don’t like to cook. Somethings never change!

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      Feathermaye wrote Nov 30, 2008
    • My best friend and I (since we were fourteen years old) have always been as different as night and day. When I got married, she was a college student dating as much as she could; when my son became a teenager, she was just starting to have babies; and when I got divorced and was single and free again, she was mired up to her neck with baby number 2, a house payment and PTA meetings.

      We‘re still very much different (I write, she races cars), but we’ve gotten to be much more alike as well. It’s cool for us to exchange recipes, or stories about homework challenges, and the domestic stuff that we’ve finally both been through. We’ve also ventured into Mexico together on a grand adventure that nearly landed us in Mexican jail! ;)

      Have we lived long enough? Probably not... but I anticipate the next few years will be the most exciting by far.

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      Coachmombabe wrote Nov 30, 2008
    • redslippers, funny you should mention your daughter in relation to this question. I’ve asked my daughter for some easy recipes to serve at our Volunteer Christmas party! Well, in this particular case, I guess I have lived long enough to see our roles reversing somewhat!

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      Yana Berlin wrote Nov 30, 2008
    • redslippers I too think of some of my girlfriends as sisters, heck they have been in my life forever. Julia and I will be celebrating our 30th anniversary next year, our friendship lasted more than most marriages.  

      Feathermaye, of course you haven’t lived long enough, you are still a baby.....but wait...those two years are going to fly with a blink of an eye and then (notice then) will talk.estatic

      Coachmoma, I can’t wait to exchange recipes with my daughters, I hope that one day they will love cooking as much as I do.

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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Dec 1, 2008
    • My best friend, Andria, is someone I call my “real” sister...she is a better friend/sister to me than my own sister who considers material things more important than family.  

      I love, love, love to cook. Of course there are nights when I just don’t want to—but that’s because I do it almost every day. But as far as cooking for an event, a holiday, a romantic dinner for two...or just a really special meal with my kids, I LOVE IT!! In the kitchen is where I feel relieves stress and the aromas are awesome.  

      I have NOT lived enough. THAT is for sure. I have so much I want to do, see, touch, feel....I hope it’s a long, long time that I’m around to discover more.

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      Carine Nadel wrote Dec 1, 2008
    • Yana, good for them for taking your lead!  I have always been “the cook“-for the family, for friends and for work.  Let me tell you-I do love to cook, watch cooking shows, write cooking columns, creating and submitting recipes and articles on food-HOWEVER, IT WOULD BE NICE IF SOMEONE ASKED ME OVER AND COOKED FOR ME!  I have heard excuses (as I’m sure you have) “how can I compete with you?”  “I’d be embarrassed to serve you what I do”

      Excuse me,I don’t judge-I would just like some reciprocation.

      I say “Terrific for your girlfriends”  And wonderful for you!

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