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heartbreakI am heart broken today, exhausted from a lack of sleep and not coping so well. My boyfriend of a year and 4 months told me last night he didn't know if he could see a future with me.  He has been battling this feeling for awhile and cannot seem to come to terms with it. We had this very same discussion a few months back , mostly centering around the fact he could not say "I love you" to me. That spurred me to tell him I could not be with someone who did not share the same feelings as I did. But he continued to call me and we decided to give it another shot. As painful as it is, I need to break free of this man. I have known for a long while there was something missing; call it a little intuitive sense that he really does not love me. He treats me so well, attentive, affectionate and generous, but it is like we are part of movie, he is the main actor and I his leading lady. A screen play for effect but not real.

We are planning to discuss this further this weekend and I know in my heart I cannot stay in this relationship, I will end up getting hurt. No one wants to be with someone who is not on the same level emotionally. I asked him many questions, whether he wanted this relationship, what he wanted to do, what are his true feelings and most answers where vague and uncommitted. It just feels good to put this in writing and any feedback is most welcome.  

Yours Truly
Heart Broken

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      Mia Folkmann wrote Mar 20, 2012
    • Oh, I have been there too. It was so painful to let go, but I did it - even if the man in question kept coming back. Some months later I met another one - and he is my husband today. We have been married for 34 years...

      There will be another one for you as well, I’m sure... heart

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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 21, 2012
    • Really Macy don’t YOU deserve to be loved? It’s not about him, it’s about you!!! It’s what is right for you. Either he is or he isn’t and only you can decide if you can put up with his indifference.

      No amount of talking will change that frown


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      Macy wrote Mar 21, 2012
    • My partner wants to take the high rode and do this all in person. I know he wants out and I need out, but I am not completely sure I can do this face to face. There is a part of me that wants to write him a letter and place it in his house, with the key he gave me. I am worried that if I see him in person, it will make it harder and more emotional, especially to tell him what I want to say, some of it is based from anger, acutally a good amount of it is. He asked if he could call me last night and I asked him if he wanted out, he would not reply saying he thinks we both deserve to do this in person. He feels he should be there in person to hold me if need be. To which I thought...are you kidding me, the last think I want is for you to hold me, I am angry he has led me on all this time, I would likely pull away.
      Is it out of line for me to leave the letter?

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