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Well I am about to be an empty nester.  My son is in college and my daughter is on her way.  Both of my kids are good kids.  Never had any real problems with them until lately with my daughter.  I think she is starting to hang with a different group of girls (the popular ones) and I have started noticing a difference.  She is taking more chances and her rational level of reasoning is out of the window.  I went to New York on business and I let her stay with my 80+ year old parents.  Well at 5 am my daughter goes to ask my mother if the alarm is on, which it was not.  She then proceeds out side to talk to a boy in his car.  Well she lied about it and said she was feeling sick and went outside for fresh air!! This is the craziness that I am talking about.  We have such a close relationship and she said that if it were just me asking her about what happen she would have told me, but in front of my parents mad her nervous.  I said" Well you lied to them, so you need to explain" Thanks why you had your interrogation in front of them.  So now because she lied to me I am thinking about taking away her prom, and beach week.  Also I am thinking that she needs to be close to home for college because she is just not mature enough..... Help!!! She is a 3.8 student and has always done the right thing.

Signed,

Is it me? Or am I just nuts?




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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Allinet48 wrote Apr 20, 2010
    • Going away to college will give her the chance to make new friends from all over. and no you are not nuts you are a mom!



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      MaryAnne Carrier-Harrison wrote Apr 20, 2010
    • I am going through the same thing with my daughter.  I don’t think there are any wrong or right answers, if your daughter has always been good then you need to remember that.  If she and you have a close relationship then you need to talk to her.  I think after 17 years you know your daughter and what is best for everyone envolved.



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      Mztracy wrote Apr 20, 2010
    • Are her grades dropping?

      I think taking away prom is a lil harsh. It’s a once in a lifetime thing and very important to HS girls.



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      Timbuktu wrote Apr 21, 2010
    • I’m sure I’d done much worse things when I was 17 and I’m a respectable and reponsible person! My daughter had a few escapes too and she is a hardworking sensible young adult. Its’s normal. Kids who never push the boundaries will either break out evntually in a devastating way or will be timid all their lives. This doesn’t sound like either is going to happen to your daughter - be thankful. Kids learn by their mistakes, and it is all we can do to help them see how to avoid the worst errors. Just make it very clear that you disapprove of her behaviour and/of the fact she lied and talk about why she did what she did.

      Timbuktu



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      Marya1961 wrote Apr 21, 2010
    • Older teens always try to push their parents (or grandparents) buttons..we all have been guilty of it in some way..our son is 22 and a wonderful young man, but still has growing up to do as all kids do..if you have a strong relationship with your daughter, then you both will weather the storm together.happy



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