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It’s been two weeks since I’ve been on my own, and one alone, while my three kids are with their dad.  Yes, it’s scary, but also somewhat freeing.  I don’t have to answer to someone about where I’m going, whom I’ve talked to during the day, or why I was five minutes late coming home from work.  

I’ve joined a women’s group, I’ll play scrabble tomorrow afternoon with another woman, and have plans that are starting to fill up my calendar in the future.  Amazing.. all I have to do is live in the present, and be the best person I can be.   A positive attitude towards life makes all the difference!  Sure, I could feel sorry for myself that I don’t have the money I once did, feel sorry for myself that I am alone and lonely, feel sorry for myself for lots of things, but, really, who will that hurt?  My soon-to-be x, or me?  Me.  So why do it?

Life now is definitely harder- parenting and working, and paying the bills, and cleaning the house, but you know?  I finally have time to be me.  I no longer have to apologize for being smart, or sexy, or having a career.  I can go see an orchestra, or a play, and finally be comfortable with me without having to please someone else, or pretend that I am not worthwhile as an individual.  Wow!  It took me years to get here, and sure, there are setbacks and frustrations, but they seem to be getting less frequent.  

Being me- what a concept!



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      Stephanie wrote Sep 16, 2008
    • You Go Girl! You deserve to live your life how you want to!

      Get out there and don’t be shy. Smile- you don’t have to answer to anyone...and especially while the kids are away its all about you!

      So don’t worry, don’t think about it as being alone, rather you are free, independent and on top of the world!



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      Ladybug wrote Sep 16, 2008
    • I know just where you‘re at. I don’t have the money I used to have eitehr but I wouldn’t go back to that life for all the money in the world. After taking a really close look at me my cousin, who at first thought I was crazy, declaired me rich. You are finding the riches inside you.



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 16, 2008
    • Good for you!!! I’ve been a single Mom now for over 7 years. I’ve had major and minor struggles...laughed and cried...and yes, sometimes thought “poor me“. When I got out of that mindset years ago, life unfolded. I have GREAT friends in all different states that I’d never have met while married. My children have been exposed to more fun activities because I love doing things...my ex didn’t. We have a great life...much simpler and “smaller” but really fun.

      Yay for you.....keep up the positive attitude!
      Cheryl



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      Evelyn03 wrote Sep 17, 2008
    • Thanks ladies!  It’s nice to know there are lots of women who “have been there, done that“!  I love this site!



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 17, 2008
    • Great support here. I love it...real women. It’s so nice to be able to open up and not feel foolish for doing so.

      :O) Have a great day!
      Cheryl



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