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I just did a post on our community under “All Things Current” which is our all things ‘provocative, wee bit controversial and downright rant’ forum at the CONNECTION STATION.  I did it after reading & commenting on a thread here.  It was a perfect time to point out to our women why we don’t do highly political or controversial posts at the Station.  

We are about relationship!  I’m sure the same is true here, but I mean we are REALLY about relationships.  As I’ve grown more ‘chrono-mature’ I’ve come to know that nothing is more important than relationships.  Especially when they are between ‘believers‘.  The relationship means more than anything else - even differences of opinion.  Most importantly where differences of opinion can split a relationship apart.  What we’ve said is that we will “agree to disagree respectfully, politely and with deference to the other in our differences.”  It’s one of the things that sets us apart & why women say we are a very warm & welcoming group.

Now that I’ve done the ‘commercial’ for our community (tongue-in-cheek of course), I want to say something serious about the need to be respectful when we encounter others with whom we are bonding - whether face 2 face or ‘virtually‘.  First of all, there are many woman of our vintage (us over 40 gals) who are still somewhat timid about putting themselves out there in such a public way.  Doesn’t matter than only the members see what they have to say.  To them, it’s the “public arena“.  When they do get the courage to post something. . .the last thing I want is to have someone intimidate them because of a difference of opinion.  You know sorta’ like the ground hog seeing his shadow. . .oops back in the hole she goes!

I also believe that more than anything, the bond between two or more individual is more important than anything else.  As I’ve read before. . the “3-ply cord is not easliy broken“.  And never it should be.  Many folks have very strong opinions & feel at a deep level about certain subjects; and are not willing to see the “other side of an issue“.  That attitude causes many levels of hurt when it’s abused or appears to be shouted in the faces of others.  

I happen to believe that woman as a whole are among the world’s most intelligent beings!  We are multi-talented, thoughtful, highly skilled & very perceptive.  But many corners of the world haven’t realized it.  Or they have and simply don’t want to recognize us for it.  When we don’t pay attention to what we say and how it might affect others. . . we don’t come off well.  And it gives those who are just looking for something that proves their view of women as “men without a penis” (sorry, but that medieval perception is still around in some circles.  And I become enraged with anyone - male or female - who creates a less than positive image of us who are the “stronger gender“!

While controversy may bring in the numbers & keep the dialogue going & be sweet music for SEO. . . it’s not what builds relationships when it is so controversial that the expression of ideas, opinions and viewpoints demeans others & destroys relationships in the process.

If that’s how one ‘sells’ social media to a broad-based populace. . . I think I’ll take a smaller, warmer, more well connected place anytime.  Bland?  Maybe.  Safe?  I certainly hope so!

May your day be filled with nothing but kindness & consideration.

Linda, a fellow journeyer


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