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It may be wintertime, but your relationship doesn't have to reflect the cold weather outdoors. We all know it  takes two to tango. Compromising is the key, and planning ahead always pays off. Men in general are not great planners, instead of getting bent out of shape that your husband isn’t taking the initiative, take matters into your hands..  It's time to get some heat back between you and your man.

1.  Plan a perfect him-date and a perfect you-date.  

It can be really tough to try to consistently plan dates that you both will equally enjoy.  Solution?  Have him plan his perfect date and en you plan your perfect date.  This exercise is easy for you both, and you'll both finally be able to get your perfect night without hints, clues or flat out begging.  If he needs some help coming up with ideas, remind him of his favorite Mexican food joint and the billiard bar across the street.  

2.  Get sensual.  

Part of arousal involves anticipation build up.  A full body massage with oil, candles and rose petals (if you want to go all out) will set the mood for you both.  As for the types of body oil, men are more sensually stimulated by earthy, woodsy scents, not so much perfumed or heavy floral smells.  He'll love the pampering and full concentration on his body, and by the time you're done, he'll be ready to return the attention.

3.  Get competitive!  

Nothing will make sparks of passion fly like some good old competition—but nothing that will leave the loser devastated.  Play some old board games from your growing up years (Candyland anyone?), or go play mini golf or go go-karting.  As the game goes on, you'll find the flirtation, taunts and teasing will work you both into a near frenzy.  To intensify the experience, make a fun bet, like winner gets full body rub or loser has to cook a gourmet meal of the winner's choice the next weekend.

4.  Make it Steamy.

If you've done the massage-thing and are looking for a twist on sensual seduction, try taking a steamy bath together, or if the tub doesn't have room for two, the shower is just fine too.  Spare no expense with prepping the ambiance; candles and a playlist of your favorite sultry tunes will set the tone of the moment.


5.  Create a sexy getaway for the two of you.  

To do this on a budget, turn your apartment into a bed and breakfast.  Tuck a fresh set of sheets down hotel-style, get a copy of his favorite movie, buy gourmet breakfast-makings and putting some scented candles around the room to give it a more sultry feeling.  If the timing is right, plan an amazing, romantic getaway to spoil you both.  Planning the trip of your dreams together in itself will be an amazing bonding experience, and once you get to that cozy cafĂ© in Rome, the bonding will be more intense than ever, and that's speaking from experience.

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