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The struggle to Forgive

Resentment. Rage. Retaliation.  

Ever struggled with forgiveness? Ever thought it was impossible? Every knew you ought to but didn’t wanna? I believe the majority of the us are struggling with forgiveness right now! If you‘re human (which all of us are) and if you are reading this article (which you are), you have been hurt. Deeply and profoundly. And you have faced the formidable foe of unforgiveness.

I get sad when I think of the steady stream of people personally wronged and mistreated by other people from their own family to their church family. From casual acquaintances to close neighbors....from complete strangers to “best friends.”

My heart goes out to the hurting. My heart goes out to those who just want their pain to stop and want to have hope again.

After so many years I come to the challenge myself of forgiveness with tremendous compassion. I don’t want those who are hurting to be further hurt and imprisoned by living with embedded bitterness simply because they don’t grasp the true meaning of forgiveness or they don’t know the “how to’s” of forgiveness.

I come to this topic with more than compassion. I come with experience, having wrestled for years with unforgiveness. Indeed I have felt its heavy weight. So for me, forgiveness is not merely a rhetorical premise...or just a theological concept. Forgiveness is a real-world, nitty-gritty manner of the soul.

Forgiveness is a decision - an act of the will that, when done right, results in true freedom. It is a process - often misunderstood. It took me a long, long time to learn the WHY of forgiveness and even longer to live out the heart of forgiveness. The call of God in Colossians 3:13 has been the catalyst for my journey: “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”

You may have your own catalyst and I invite you to. Although, don’t leave out the Lord. Let him be your guiding force, but also work in the way that you can and at your own pace but by still knowing Him.

Through vivid illustrations and riveting real life experiences, I want to connect you within yourself. Deep within yourself.  

Through my following articles, my hope is twofold: One, that you will learn how to get rid of the boulders of bitterness holding you back - those heavy rocks of resentment - and two that you will experience the freedom of forgiveness - a freedom that only possible when you learn how to forgive....even if you don’t feel like it.

Take care and talk to you soon.

K



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • I like this blog. I recently went through a period of unforgiveness with my dad. But now, seeing how bad his life is, i don’t need to add to that. So I am moving past my anger.



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • I personally thought if I forgave, then I had to love.  Then I discovered, I could forgive, the wound or damage would still be there and I needed time to heal.  (This applied greatly to my divorce).  I forgave my ex that left me.  I was still wounded.  Then I healed and now I can’t say I love him, but I do love him like any other regular human beings that I do not wish ill on him.  (in the past, gee, I wish he would be struck by lightning! Seriously!)



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      Robinesque wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • I had to do this in 1999. That was my year.  I decided that I could forgive (for MY peace of mind and for spiritual reward, really) but, that didn’t mean I had to forget.

      Women NEVER forget.



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      Jenz ~ wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • I forgive for my own sense of peace.
      Karma handles the rest.
      I forgive. I forget nothing.
      When I forgive & let it go then it’s not on my mind or robbing energy from me.

      Sometimes forgiving yourself is harder than forgiving anyone else.



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      Angela 'Cocco' Williams wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • Awesome word! Forgiveness is key in stepping onto that NEW page in your life. It is necessary for you to continue your journey to LIVE! It is also hard and if you try to forgive on your own you will find it hard because you can’t seem to move past the hurt of the flesh. It is important to remember that it is the Power inside you that helps you to forgive. It is that same spirit that was in christ that lives inside us and with it YOU CAN DO ALL THINGS! Keep writing sis.
      Blessings



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Apr 13, 2009
    • I dont know if I quite forgive.  I know I NEVER forget.  The only people that have truly scorned me are relatives from my husband’s family.  

      Not sure if not wanting to have anything to do with them and really not caring anymore is considered forgiveness.  But that’s where Im at.  I know the relationships will NEVER be the same.  Once you tear at my heart, there is no going back.  I know one day I might be able to be charitable as far as saying hello and whatever, but my wall is up so that I can never, ever be hurt by them again.



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      UK Girl wrote Apr 14, 2009
    • I look at it this yes I’ll forgive but no I don’t forget and I don’t get caught a second time ...



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