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Just signed up...flipping through Costco newsletter and stumbled across this website’s profile, thought it might be a good venue to get advice...maybe fate...

My husband just informed me that his 16 yr old son is moving back in THIS Saturday. He has been living with his mother for the last 3 yrs because it was the easy way out..she’s a convicted felon several times over for felony fraud and forgery and  hasn’t worked in 19 yrs isn’t the welfare system fabulous?! and men are idiots allows him to ditch school, fail across the board, smoke pot and cigarettes and pretty much do as he pleases. She apparently has found a new boyfriend sucker 2 hrs away and is moving in with him. We‘re supposed to uproot everything...our schedule/house/lives at the drop of the hat for what??? till she takes his identity like all the others, cleans him out and comes back to do it all over again...AAAAGGGGGHHHHHH!!!!!




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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Mar 9, 2010
    • I wish I had words of wisdom but what I do have are feelings of support and understanding. My husband’s adult daughter lives in our cottage. I hope that your husband and you can sit down and set ground rules and he will stick with them. It’s so very important to both be on the same page from the outset.

      Best to you on this. We‘re here for support if you need us.



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      Max0125 wrote Mar 9, 2010
    • I agree with Cynthia’s great advice. One thing I would like to add is this may be an oportunity to try to turn his life around. It sounds like he has had a rough time with his Mom.

      Also, don’t forget about you. Make a commitment to yourself to do something to decrease your stress everyday. Take time out for yourself. You will feel better and it will make the situation easier.

      Best wishes,

      Mary



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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 9, 2010
    • I agree with both Ladies.heart

      Good luck and hope It all turns out well for all of you.



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      Wookiemom09 wrote Mar 9, 2010
    • As a stepmom battling the bad past with the mother and emotionless previous stepmom you have to be the best woman you can.  He wants acceptance by a woman and show him a good example.  My stepson wouldn’t let me hug him for 1 1/2 years.  One day he told me I loved my son more than him. I explained it was hard to love someone that won’t love me back but I did anyway, I just didn’t know how to show it.  It changed our relationship for the better. He also felt like he was thrown away when his mom fell for a man who didn’t want her kids around.  there are no right answers and you will find your path with him.  will keep you in prayer in the days and weeks to come.



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      Anonymous wrote Mar 9, 2010
    • Wishing you the best.  My daughter just spent two months with her dad/stepmom due to various problems she was having in school.  It was good for her to get to know her dad, but I am so glad to get her back.  I hope your stepson appreciates the efforts you all will be making on his behalf.



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      Msj wrote Mar 9, 2010
    • I will keep you in prayer. I say establish boundaries with your husband before the son moves back in and go over these with the step son.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Mar 10, 2010
    • Good luck on this new journey with your SS. I wish you the best and YES you have been given some good advice from the ladies here.



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      Chamogirl wrote Mar 10, 2010
    • Thank you all for your words of support, much appreciated!! I’m doing my best to not be pessemistic...not so easy but I’m tryingestatic



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      Max0125 wrote Mar 10, 2010
    • I know this most be a difficult time for you. Instead of thinking of the worst possible scenario, concentrate on what the best possible scenario could be. You might want to check out some online parenting forums as they often times have great advice. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Good luck!



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