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These past few weeks have been very trying for me...and it is finally taking it’s toll...

A little background on my situation...My eight year old grandson Steven has been living with me this past year...his mother had been going through a rough time so I moved from out west to here and took him in...

The first thing I noticed was his behavior...he was very rude...didn’t listen...and angry...I tried talking to his mother and telling her this but she was so wrapped up in her own thing to even take notice...so I took it upon myself to get child services involved...I didn’t want my grandson to fall into the cracks...be lost...I want him to have a decent life and at least a fighting chance at a good life...

I got myself a family support worker....she does wonders...steering me to programs and resources that she thinks I may need...we got him into a special school for kids with behavior problems....and he is seeing the Child Psychiatrist that works with the child services clients...recently I learned that Steven is possible ADHD that would explain some of his behaviors and also may have a defiance disorder and for sure THAT explains a lot of his behaviors....

So with his anger...ADHD...Defiance Disorder...I have been on an everending roller coaster ride with him...He is just so busy and I am finding it harder to control him and keep up with him....I am at my wits end with him...

I talked to his mom the other day and we have agreed that she will be taking him come spring break...this solves my immediate problem...a bit of peace and quiet...but what about him?  Will she keep up with his treatment? Give him that extra attention that he needs?

I am constantly worried about what the future holds for him...for he is my little man and I love him with my everything and I want what’s best for him...



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 5, 2008
    • 8 years old has already set his way
      It takes awhile to change behavior so he can behave
      Your love and patient will be his light
      Do the best you can and let go of all the rest worries and heavy weights.



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      Karyn Olson wrote Dec 5, 2008
    • Thank you girls...Sometimes that is all I need...is someone to tell me that it is going to be alright...it makes me feel like there is some light at the end of the tunnel...

      Teeky...my daughter has moved to a larger city and just recently gained employment...she is a welder by trade so money is not an issue...she will be able to support him...my worry is his emotional well-being...will she be there for him?



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      Linni wrote Dec 8, 2008
    • Hi Karyn..

       as i told you before, you are an amaizing lady! and like it was already mentioned, God will bless you! ABUNDANTLY!

      like you my concern is that your daughter will be able to provide the emotional support that your grandson needs, and to keep up with his treatments and such..

      i will keep it in prayer for you
      Love you
      Linni



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Dec 8, 2008
    • Nana, my son has ADD. He was never rowdy or defiant, but like you said, it was one of the hardest things I ever had to deal with.
      He is 16 now and we still deal with some issues, but as long as the stability is there, he does fine.

      Karyn, you are such an angel. You grandson will at least know that he needs these things in his life to help him progress.
      Let him know, that if, for some reason, his emotional needs are not met in the future. All he has to do is reach out and let someone know.



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      Linni wrote Dec 8, 2008
    • my 2 younger children are AHDH.. one is ODD/ADHA, the other one is ADHD/ODD..



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      Karyn Olson wrote Dec 8, 2008
    • Thanks everyone...I think if he wasn’t in the position of being separated from his mom it wouldn’t be so bad...he feels angry and doesn’t understand why things are this way...so he is lashing out at those who are close to him and that would be me and his auntie...



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Dec 8, 2008
    • Karyno, you are such an awesome and nurturing person.  Thank God your grandson had you to start the initial ball rolling and get him the well deserved help that he needs.  I don’t have any grandchildren and probably is not the best person to voice my opinion, but remember that pray avails much and with God’s help, your daughter will do what is expected of her for her son’s sake.



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      Karyn Olson wrote Dec 8, 2008
    • Thank yous all for the kind words of encouragement...it is much appreciated...I have faith that things will all work out in the end...
      And Jacquie...grandparent or not...I value your opinion...as we are all here for the same reason...and that is the support, the encouragement and the fellowship....Thank you....happy



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