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Hello Fabulous 40 & beyond!

Dating after divorce is NOT easy. Dating after being married 17 yrs is NOT EASY!!!!!
I divorced at 38 in 2006 and decided at that time to take some time to travel and do some soul searching.

I’ve met a few people not worth even discussing but all lessons in life.

Now, I’ve recently joined e-harmony in search of soulmate. So far, so good I date a new person every week. I’ve sort of become a serial dater.

I must admit it is somewhat exciting but at the same time sad that because I married at 21, I missed a huge part of my life. Now I feel like I am making up for lost time and playing catch up with my 20’s and 30’s.

The beauty of 40, is never wanting to be 20 again! For that I am grateful. However, I do have the chance of weeding out traits in people that I find unacceptable; so dating sevral men in a month, is not such a bad thing.

I do yearn for that special person in my life and don’t give up the hope of finding him.

Any feedback or similar experiences are welcome.
Please share.



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      Virgo13 wrote Jul 5, 2008
    • Thanks for your message. I completely agree with putting things out into the universe. I’m a firm beliver that the universe always conspires in our favor.

      My dating experience has been a quite different from yours because I live in a large, cosmopolitan east coast city; where everyone is too busy, too harried, 5 minute attention span and jaded with the luxuries a big city offers.
      The ratio is 4 women to 1 man, so they are in no hurry for committment or even establishing meaningful, purposeful relationships.

      I also don’t have children and find myself meeting men that are NOT SURE they want any; men that share custody with their kids or my all-time MY AGE that want a 25 year old trophy girl.

      This is not the general consensus and I can only speak from my personal experiences. I’m sure some of them are just guilty by “gender” association and not because they feel/act this way.

      I am at times tempted to leave my beloved city.

      Funny thing you should mention this letter to the universe.
      I have written a letter myself; a checklist of sorts I will call it.
      I call it my: Added Value. I use this term to define experiences, people and things in my life (and OUT of my life as well).
      In this letter to the universe I have listed the emotional, spiritual, sexual, physical and financial values I need in partner. The last two being last on my list since money and beauty will never sustain any relationship.

      I trust the universe will manifest itself and send my way exactly what I’m looking for.

      In the meantime, I am enjoying dating and meeting new people. They all teach me something about myself and what are deal breakers and deal makers in my life.

      This list serves as a barometer of sorts and a checklist. I go back to it often and sometimes even after my dates.

      I guess I’m not alone!

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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Jul 5, 2008
    • hello———I am separated currently for 2 years after a 30 year marriage. I am 51 and this freedom has been unbelievable. What I have found is there is a lonliness after being married. I have decided that there will be no toxic people in my life. My friends have literally saved me at the worse times and I believe I am doing ok. Everyday seems to be a struggle financially, but even that is something I am dealing with. I have 2 teenage sons, 20, and 23. They get a bit outspoken at times as they live with me. I told them they are allowed to have an opinion, it doesnt mean I am listening to it. If you are successful with the dating sites, thats great. My advice is to be careful. Let us know how you are doing!  vgirl

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