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My Mom passed away on September 14th of last year.  I miss being able to talk to her on the phone.  I still have questions that only she could answer.

My Mom had Parkinson’s disease.  I never heard her complain as her body failed her.  Not even once.  She is a hero to me.

She was always up to a challenge...at least ones that many of us take for granted.
Two years ago, maybe three, she had my Dad bake Christmas cookies.  She invited my girls to her house to help decorate them.  The girls later called me crying.  They had finished decorating all of those cookies and my Mom was still diligently working away at the first one she had picked up.  She was trying so hard to do something that she loved to do.

My Mom was an awesome cook.  She was always in the kitchen before her body made it too dangerous for her to be in there.  She did‘nt complain!
I am not looking forward to the day that I can no longer be in my kitchen because my ms makes it too difficult. Believe me...I will complain loudly!
We had to watch my Mom slowly not be able to do the most simple things...never complaining...just doing the best that she could.  Which in the end was nothing.

She was lucid the first two days in the hospital.  The most she had been in months.  It was nice to be able to express our “I love you’s” and talk to her about God.  I did‘nt talk to her as much as I would have liked.  It seemed that every time I opened my mouth a sob would try to escape.
You see...she had a look of fear on her face because she knew she was dying.

We sat with her for two weeks.  Talked to her and prayed for her, rubbed her arms and feet and played a cd of hymns.
Her favorite song was “In the garden“.
I know she is with God in heaven.  Two weeks after she passed away I had a dream.  She sang every verse and chorus of that song and she was WALKING while she sang.

I miss her voice, her laughter, her jokes, and when I walk into Dad’s house I miss seeing boxes of things that she ordered from QVC!  I think she had them on speed dial!  

I miss my Mom!!!!



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      Sandy Ochoa-West wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • Oh how I can relate. It has been 12 years since my mom passed away, and I still miss her. Oct 5, 1996. The holidays are very hard for me because she made such a big deal about them. I dream about her sometimes and she’s not sick, she’s healthy and happy. I know too that she is in Heaven and that I will see her again. This is the hope I hold onto.



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      Raysa Santana wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • I lost my mom on February 14, 2005.  I’m an only child so it was extremely hard to see her slipping away and not having someone to share the pain with.

      My life is in such a good place right now and it breaks my heart that she’s not here to see it.  She would have been so proud of her grandkids.  Especially my oldest.  She always had a special place in her heart for him.



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      Merryheart wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • I’m sorry you miss your mom.  I miss mine too.  She died March 15, 2001 after my dad 4 days earlier.  I find my strength in God.  take care



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      Marie Hempsey wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • Jomi,
      My mom passed way too young on March 29, 1990. She had an extremely aggressive form of breast cancer. She was my best friend. I still miss her terribly, i hate that my kids that were already born do not remember her and that the younger 3 never got to know her. She was an awesome grandmother.
      Just say your prayers and keep your faith that she is up ther in Heaven singing her hymns! Becasue that is where she is and what she is doing. I am so sorry for your loss!
      God Bless,
      Ree



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • She is with you.  Just watch a leave fall and that is her, or a gentle breeze or a bird that flys to greet you, she is there.. she sees you and is with you.. she is the wind in you hair, and beneath your feet.



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      Inakika wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • Jomi,
      I’m so sorry for your loss. I can’t even imagine how it feels to lose a parent.
      I lost my oldest son on July 22, 2005, that pain I do know. I still grieve a little everyday, but I have learned to cope.
      AJ is my mariposa, my butterfly. It seems that every time I’m down I see a butterfly and I know it’s him letting me know he is still there for me.
      (((((Jomi))))) hugs to you



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      Jomi wrote Nov 22, 2008
    • !http://images.fabulously40.com/uploadedimage/2627/thumbx120/hpim0703.jpg!  It‘’s time to move forward!
      I have been doing a lot of thinking and praying, praying and thinking....I was looking in the paper last weekend and found that they are looking for volunteers at our county hospice. This got me thinking! I have a background in nursing, which I miss. I can’t work a regular job due to my MS, but I could surely volunteer some of my time to do something for someone else.
      I will be working with patients, nothing strenuous. But I have been where the patients families will be and can understand all of the feelings and emotions that they are feeling. Plus I have experience with what the patients will be going through.
      I know that this would make my Mom happy! She was also a nurse and even though I am not “nursing” I am doing something with what I have learned.
      I am looking forward to this new chapter.  I love to help others and hope that someday someone will be there for me!


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      Dennie05 wrote Nov 27, 2008
    • I miss my mom too.  She died Dec 2007.  As I was preparing my turkey this morning..I thought of her.  I would always call her up with questions on how to do this and that.  I never have gotten the knack of preparing a big holiday meal.  She always made it look easy!  And the gravy and dressing....none compares to hers.  I can’t make gravy.  I miss her for the little things.



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      Jomi wrote Nov 28, 2008
    • !http://images.fabulously40.com/uploadedimage/2627/thumbx120/hpim0703.jpg!  I understand!  I am constantly wanting to call my Mom to ask her a question. Now I call one of my sisters and hope they know the way Mom would have done it!
      I have found this holiday season that if I wear a piece of my Mom’s jewelry or make one of her favorite recipes I don’t feel like I’m leaving her out.
      I hope that all of you that have lost your Mom’s can have a happy holiday season. Keep her in your memories!
      Love to all!


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