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I THINK MY HUBBY IS WATCHING EVERYTHING I DO ONLINE FROM HIS OWN COMPUTER... I SIGNED ON TONIGHT AND IT SAID SOMETHING BOUT MY PASSWORD BEING ALWAYS ON.. YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?  WHEN YOU CHECK THAT LIL BOX TO KEEP YOUR PASSWORD SAVED TO THE COMPUTER... I NEVER DO THAT SO I KNOW IT WAS NOT ME.... AND WHEN I TRIED TO CHANGE MY PASSWORD IT WOULD NOT LET ME  SAID THEY DIDNT HAVE ENOUGH INFO.. WHATEVER THAT MEANS.... ITS NOT THAT I HAVE ANYTHING TO HIDE AND I DONT DO IT TO HIM SO WHY DO IT TO ME... I DONT FEEL LIKE HE HAS A RIGHT TO DO SO.. I DID MESS UP ONCE IN OUR 10 YEAR MARRAGE BUT DID NOT HAVE SEX WITH THIS MAN AND WAS VERY HONEST WITH MY HUSBAND ABOUT MY FEELINGS I THOUGHT I HAD FOR THIS MAN.. I NEVER ONCE CYBER SEX WITH ANYONE I DONT EVEN TALK TO MEN ON HERE..I USE MY COMPUTER AS A OUTLET BUT NOW FEEL I CAN NOT CAUSE HE WILL BE READING IT ALL..  I KNOW NOT TO EVEN ASK HIM ABOUT IT CAUSE HE WILL LIE OR SAY HE KNOWS NOTHING BOUT IT AND I MUST HAVE DONE SOMETHING TO MY LAPTOP.. OR SAY HE KNOWS NOTHING BOUT IT...  I AM NOT GONNA CHANGE ANYTHING... BUT I FEEL REALLY SICK TO MY STOMACH TO KNOW HE DONT TRUST ME THIS MUCH HE WOULD GO BEHIND MY BACK AND DO SUCH A LOW THING....

 JUST NEEDED TO GET THAT OFF MY CHEST.

                TAMMY



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      Vikki Hall wrote May 4, 2009
    • I hope you feel better now.  If I were you I would just talk to your husband and ask about it.

      Good Luck!



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      Marie66 wrote May 4, 2009
    • Tammy, sorry to hear that you are going thru this, but I’m with vikki..Just talk to him and ask him..

      Good Luck...

      Gilda (marie)



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      Leeann wrote May 4, 2009
    • I talk to my hubby about everything !!! Why don’t you put a pot of coffee on and  ask him to sit down and talk with you.   Good luck !!!



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      Jenni0811 wrote May 4, 2009
    • Tammy...I had BIG issues with my almost-X reading everything when I first started here. I quickly learned that this is the World Wide Web.....and that is what it is. Best lesson learned is to not say anything that you wouldn’t repeat to your worst enemy....



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      Karyn Olson wrote May 4, 2009
    • Yes...it’s better to talk to him and get it out in the open than to hold it all inside....you are just gonna make yourself sick with worry...hope it works out for you...



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      Marie66 wrote May 4, 2009
    • Me and my husband talk about everything even when it is something we don’t want to hear, but we talk..

      Gilda (GM)



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      Polly W wrote May 4, 2009
    • Even though I had nothing to hide, I would change every single password in one minute if I even thought someone was looking in on what I do....think of it, we sometimes use the same or similar passwords for things—including checking accounts and savings accounts, and this could lead to a huge problem for you one day. Trust me. Protect your passwords with your life, from everyone.



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      Jenni0811 wrote May 4, 2009
    • Changing passwords doesn’t help.......anyone can read any post or blog, without membership, with the exception now of the private groups.



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      Polly W wrote May 4, 2009
    • I think my comment was for private messages and emails more than blog posts. Obviously if there is something you don’t wish to share with the world, a blog post or conversation within any forum is going to be public. I never post things I would be ashamed to say to my parents..of course they can see them now from up above, but still—
      I also share very little public information online at all—I was stalked for a period of time when I was younger. It was unnerving, and it can happen to anyone at anytime, for no apparent reason. Just saying, if it’s a password security for private emails and accounts online, including the password for my social networking sites, that’s something I would protect.



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      Mjmurphy wrote May 5, 2009
    • I would feel very betrayed by this too. Ask me and I’m an open book and will tell or give you anything you want. But try to take something from me without consent and I get very upset.  

      I hope you get this worked out so that you can both feel trust again.



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      UK Girl wrote May 5, 2009
    • Tammyjoa- I think you should talk to him as this is going to eat away at you all the time - you will also start looking at other things and before you know it will snowball ....

      Sorry to hear this



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      Organizeddiva wrote May 5, 2009
    • Since you haven’t got anything to hide then he will probably get bored with spying on you and let it go.  

      It also sounds as though you know from experience what he will do or say if you confront him.  If it were me, being a spiritually focused woman, I would pray to know what to do and which direction to follow with the problem.  

      I have found that sometimes, somethings are not worth the argument while others are.  It’s difficult to discern which are worth it but the best test of that is if it has caused a divide between the two of you whether acknowledged or not.    

      I hope you are able to sort it all out and move forward.



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