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This story is published on AOL Personals.  Lori is living her dream after learning a valuable lesson about what True Love looks like!  I know you will enjoy her story!

Drew and Lori met on and they went on one date. “He just wasn’t my type,” said Lori. “I wanted a corporate guy, who wore suits and lived in Manhattan. This guy was a chiropractor and showed up wearing jeans and sneakers. Although he did bring roses.” According to Lori, the date went well, but Drew didn’t meet any of her criteria. So, she didn’t call him back and continued on with her life.

Lori describes the next three years of her life as a time of transition. Lori began to realize that her “list” wasn’t helping her find the man of her dreams. “Slowly,” Lori said, “I began to date men who didn’t fit the list or what I believed was my type.” Lori began to open up to new people and new experiences and three years later, when Drew contacted her again she was ready. “I hadn’t forgotten him,” Lori said. “He had the same birthday as my sister.” And Lori’s own chiropractor knew about Drew. She had never really forgotten him.

Drew found her profile again on and wrote her a message telling her that he still thought about her and asking her why she hadn’t called him back. Lori responded with a “flirtatious” message and they agreed to go out on a date. The Friday, when Drew came to pick her up, he was wearing jeans and sneakers and carrying roses. Lori laughs at the memory. “He still wears jeans! I can’t break him of that habit.” During their date, Lori told Drew about how she hadn’t felt ready at the time to date someone she described as “the type of man you marry.” But now, the timing was perfect.

Drew was determined not to let Lori go. On their fifth date they went skiing in Vail, Colorado. On their 14th date, Drew took Lori to Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, where he proposed. “We were stuck on the plane leaving New York for almost four hours and when we got there we discovered our luggage was lost, so for four days we had not clothes,” said Lori. “But we still had fun anyway and I knew that this was the man for me, because even stuck on the airplane and wearing day-old clothes, we still laughed and had a good time.” Nine weeks after they started dating a second time, Lori and Drew were engaged.

As Lori looks back on their whirlwind courtship three years in the making, she notes that had they tried to date that first time they met, their relationship would not have worked. “Love is all about timing. I needed time to become the person who I am now.” Since marrying Drew, Lori’s life has gone a completely different direction. She laughs happily when she talks about it. “I went from being a single, PR executive, living in Manhattan to a stay-at-home mom, living in Brooklyn.” It’s a lot of change, but Lori says she was ready for it.

Lori now writes a dating column for SingleEdition and has her own blog at The No. 1 thing Lori tells people who come to her for advice is this: “Lose your list; and if you can’t lose it at least be willing to compromise on a few things.” Lori sincerely believes that lists hold people back from finding the love that is right in front of them in jeans and sneakers. Trust her, she knows.

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      KRIS JULIN wrote May 4, 2010
    • I had a very long list.  I suppose it was because there was no way any man would be able to match what I sought.  In actual fact I was determined never to fall into the marriage trap again. So I had no expectations at all. I had a great time dating lots of men, all much younger... well who needs conversation???I was told by a girlfriend that she was getting married. I actually envied her, the man she was marrying was what I considered perfect.  I said to myself I wanted that. 2 days later I met my now husband. I had opened myself emotionally to the thought of marriage and relationahip. We dated for 3 weeks, having spent everyday together, each day being an adventure, so in dating terms, it would have been 6 months. He proposed to me in Tahachapi, at sunset by a lake. We had put a tent up together with no arguement, that sold him. After we were married, I showed him my list....from the 30 or so requirements, only 1 he did not match, but it was material, so really did not count. I never really had a type, but I had a list of requirements. 3 years later I have never been happier.....and neither has my son

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