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Fear is the number one reason people never reach/achieve
their dreams  

I have been reading and hearing alot about the fear of failure on various blogs, books, magazines and television talk/news shows. Most experts believe that it’s the fear of failure that keeps many people from stepping out of the box, taking the leap...moving forward toward achieving their dreams.  

This is NOT my problem...I do not fear failure...I fear success!  

Success would change my life dramatically, while failure would keep me right where I lifestyle wouldn't change, my time would be filled with the same would still go on at the same level...same old, same old!  

Fear of failure is an ego or self-esteem issue. If you beat yourself up for not achieving...the risk may be far too great in light of your own self image and the image you project to others. If you fail, you risk your lovability...your perception of yourself or from others will be negatively changed. How many times have you heard that "No one likes a failure"? It all depends on how you percieve the is a growing experience or it knocks you back into last week...depending.  

The fear of primarily logistical matter or a fear of change...success will change how your life works. Sucecss means that the whole family would have to change, make adjustments...accommodate the pursuit of your dream. Yet at the same time, you would achieve the things you have always dreamed of doing, set an excellent example for your children, created something that your husband, family and yourself could be proud. The logistics shouldn't matter...the change will be for the good.  

At the end of the day or your life, you could look back and say..."I did that!...I made an impact...I used the gifts and talents God gave me...I didn't waste my time in "woulda, shoulda, coulda-land."  

So....if success was guaranteed...What do you dream of doing? How are you getting there?    

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      Dana Arcuri wrote May 12, 2008
    • If success was guaranteed, I dream of starting an inner beauty ministry with pampering spa events to provide fun, fellowship, inspiration, motivation and a life-changing biblical message to promote inner beauty, self-worth, confidence in finding identity in Jesus and reigniting a relationship with our Heavenly Father.  

      Dreaming is the easy part. Getting there is the most difficult part of the dream. For ten months, I have been praying about this dream, seeking God for answers to my prayers and waiting on God to bring this into reality.  God has literally opened up some new doors for me because now I am literally writing about topics relating to inner beauty, finding identity in Christ and renewing our body, mind and spirit. Although, I am in the beginning stage of organizing and planning this inner beauty ministry, I have gradually moved further step by step.  In reality, I am not guaranteed success, yet, I am taking a step of faith that if this dream is part of Gods divine plan for me then I am confident that God will bring it to completion.

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      Mara wrote Jul 14, 2008
    • This article is talking about me.  I fail because I fear success.  I have so many things I want to accomplish and the fear is what keeps me from achieving them.  I wish I had your outlook and could take the first step.  Thanks for sharing this story.

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