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I had an epiphany last night as I was shoving ice cream in my face that I wasn’t even hungry for.  I realized that I am BORED!  I am bored with my job, bored with my life.  Ever since my kids left home, the house burned down and I changed jobs, my life has become one big boring moment after another.

I used to be controller of a company with 650 employees. After the house burned down I felt I needed a less stressful job to allow me to deal with the aftermath of the fire.  What I didn’t realize was how much that job was challenging my brain.  How much I thrived on the chaos of that work environment.  How much my life revolved 24/7 around doing stuff for other people.  But now that I am not doing that and trying to take care of myself instead, I am bored shitless!  And the bigger problem is - I don’t know what to do about it!

I can’t join an exercise class until all the procedures are done on my back and I know physically just where I really am.  I have no friends anymore so it’s not like I have anyone to hang out with.  I thought about school but I have no idea what I would take!

Anyone, anywhere have any insight for me?  I think I am going out of my mind!



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      Cassandra Burghdorf wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • I am not sure where you live, but here in flordia there are alot of people who get together to walk.  Im not sure just how bad your back is, but usually walking or water arobics is perfect for that.  As a former weight loss consultant, I know that people eat alot out of boredom.  I have been there myself.  I too am now facing what to do with my life, it has been my 3 kids, and now with the last one graduating this spring from H.S.  I know it is my time.  It is hard because you are so focused on other people that you dont even really know yourself anymore.  What I have found is it helps to just get out there, dont isolate yourself, be it a book club, church, walking group, class on learning german-or another language.  You just have to start something, and you will gain the desire to do more.  Best of luck to ya!  Cassy



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      Lvn4me wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • Sweetie, your going through more than empty nest syndrome.  Do you enjoy any type of crafting?  I sew when I’m totally bored, and whats nice, is there is an end result to be proud of when you are done.  Hopefully you can find something to fill your time.  I’m on your heals with my youngest turning 19 on the 15th, and I anticipate that he will be moving out shortly after that.



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      Karmagirl801 wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • I know it’s more than empty nest.  I think the fire really made me take a good look at my life and I haven’t really found where I want to be yet. My whole life has been doing for others and I have no idea what I like to do anymore. I used to do lots of crafts when then kids were little but since the fire I lost all my supplies and my sewing machines and frankly I’m not sure that’s what interests me anymore.  It kind of feels like the old Terri died and this new Terri emerged but she isn’t sure who she is and she doesn’t know where to look!



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • PM me if you are bored.  I do have a challenging and uplifting idea to do around on this site.



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      Mztracy wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • I can relate to being bored! For different reasons, yet bored just the same.

      I am so sorry about your home. I cannot even imagine!

      Mt parents are in Carlsbad. Is that wherre u are?



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      Karmagirl801 wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • Yes, I am in Carlsbad. I used to come here before the fire as a place to escape to and since the fire, it’s been my refuge.  I hope I can stay here after my home is rebuilt but money may  prevent it.  I do love it here.



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      Karmagirl801 wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • It’s beautiful and quiet.  My body seems to crave the quiet these days.  And I feel safe there which is a big thing for me right now.  Just wish I knew some people there!  happy



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      Mztracy wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • It is so very pretty there. My parents moved from san diego to there a couple years ago.



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      Martinilush wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • Oh, I am so sorry about your home! It sounds like you experienced so much change to your life, in a very short span of time!

      I was just in that bored place about 6 or 7 years ago - I was so BORED with everything in my life. I had always wanted to learn to knit, so I took an introductory class at a local yarn shop. Another woman in the class and I got to talking and realized we had a lot in common - she is now my very best friend and the one person I know I can count on for anything! (besides my hubby, of course! happy )  What have you always wanted to do/learn and never had the time? Start looking at continuing ed courses at local colleges, maybe you will find one of interest.

      You could also volunteer your time for a cause you believe in, since you mentioned that you missed doing things for others, and it is a great way to meet people in your community. Volunteermatch.org is a great place to find volunteer opportunities that may interest you.  

      I hope you can find new, fulfilling things to fill your time! happy



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      Karmagirl801 wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • I’m going to try.  It has been years since I have been out of the house and really done anything and as a result, I tend to be somewhat anti-social.  Not intentionally, just really shy and uncomfortable in social settings so I need to find something that doesn’t overwhelm me to begin with.  I loved your knitting class... I think I’m going to see what kind of small classes may be near my house.

      Thanks for all the support!



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      Martinilush wrote Jan 30, 2009
    • Please let us know how things are going, ok?



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