I know i am a dangerous person sometimes.  Dangerous, in that i force people to either admit or deny their genuine intentions.  I pay very close attention (maybe, too close) to a person’s body language and tone of voice.  This drives my husband absolutely wild.  He hates it when i call him out...accusing him of being insincere or, simply put, feeding me a line of bull.  He denies it most of the time but we had a very good conversation awhile back that included his admission that i am typically right when i call him out.  Same thing with my children...i don’t call them out often, but when i do i am pretty certain of my accusation. 
 

Putting my family on the spot like that is not a good thing but what is the answer?  Do i simply buy the load of crap they‘re trying to sell?  There are very few people outside my nuclear family who i hold as tightly accountable...perhaps 2 or 3 of my closest friends and another “friend” whose BS i am so sick of that i actually ENJOY catching him in his own lies.  There’s very little “danger” with him...he knows i’m onto him.
 

Admittedly, i am as guilty as the next person of saying one thing with my words and another thing with my body language or tone of voice.  Perhaps this is why it is so maddening to me when a person denies their true meaning or feelings behind a statement.  I SEE it, I HEAR it.  Do i deny it?  Sometimes...but not often!  How can i expect others to be straight with me if i’m not straight with them?

By the way...my children call me out when i’m trying to sell THEM a load of crap, too!  I’ve created monsters!