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What Bugs You About People?

Maybe it's my yearly rant coming up about the summer heat and my husband's insistence about only using the a/c during moments when we could die from non-use, but I'm feeling mighty cranky on the subject of people who just bug me.

These are some of the things I wish others would consider:

1-When out among the living and exercising-why do some people think it's okay to go topless? I don't want to say this is a "man" thing only, but I guess I have too.

Case of reference-when I was a girl a neighbor, who was also a cardiologist, had a great physique and he would run (jogging was not the usual choice in keeping fit in those days). Not just run, he'd run in short shorts, no shirt of any kind and swing barbells up and down in a bird-like fashion. We all referred to him as "the bird man".  

I can't tell you how many accidents this man caused because drivers couldn't believe what they were seeing and would lose sight of what their main focus was supposed to be.

I was reminded of this when I was driving to the market the other day and saw a similar vision.

With this said-PUT ON A SHIRT.

2-If you have a family member who never learned simple everyday rules about how to behave in public places or how to treat others-why do you put up with them?

Case in reference-if the person makes you cringe at the thought of spending more than 2 minutes with them because they snap fingers at the wait staff in a restaurant, demand to have the "floor" (whether in your home or in a public venue) and not consider anyone else as having a right to speak and/or use foul language stating that they think they're so wonderful that everyone should just sit back and enjoy their garbage, instead of letting them act however they want, why not shift to giving them what they deserve?

After all, what really is the worst that could happen? They'd tell you they don't want anything to do with you? Either way, it's win-win. They will either apologize and find a good thorough course on good manners or you don't have to deal with them anymore!

3-When in doubt my mantra is "just ask".  

Case in reference-Whether you are planning a menu, not sure about what guests have what allergies or hatred of certain foods, going to a party and haven't been informed on what the dress code may be or time and place hasn't been determined, don't guess, ASK!  

After all, even after you do ask, something derogative will be said, but at least you've covered the lists of "maybes" that could arise in your mind. No sense not being able to eat even a bite or show up in a totally inappropriate outfit because you didn't want to ferret out some information.

5-People who don't offer to lend a hand.

Case in reference-Now this is probably my own problem, BUT: When someone comes to your home for a party, a meal, coffee-I think it's just good manners to at least ask if there's anything you can do to assist. Okay-not just ask, MEAN that you want to help.

It's okay if the person declines the offer. But even me, miss "power" will accept help after I've put together a meal. It really is the little things, like scraping your plate, bringing it to the sink, help put the food away, etc...

I'll accept that kind gesture! What bugs the heck out of me is the person who has no intention of actually doing anything and as the host/hostess is tired and exhausted and would love to take the offer of some help-the person adds, "NOT" or something just as ridiculous along the lines of "I asked but I'm not doing a darned thing."

And now, for my absolute biggest and most irritating "BUG":


When someone is picking you up to take you any place or bring you back home-this is called DOING YOU A FAVOR. You should be extremely grateful that they are doing this for you, especially with the price per gallon on gasoline. Same idea if they've invited you to be a guest in their home or any other activity.

Don't keep them waiting. Be uber-considerate by being wherever they've asked you to be as soon as possible. Don't make them late because you think you're too special for words. Make sure you show your appreciation in any appropriate way possible.

Not doing so is called "rude and crude". As one person told a perpetually late and selfish individual, "This is it, you think of no one but yourself. This is the last time I'm inviting you to my home. You made me late to not one but several business appointments; you never clean up after yourself and treat me like a hired hand in my own home. My friends have told me they won't visit me again until you are long gone. Go home and don't come back."

Now's the time and place-what are your biggest pet peeves and why? How do you handle them?

And now, back to my regularly scheduled rant on the lack of a/c flowing through the poorly installed vents of my home.

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    • 0 votes vote up vote up

      Diane17 wrote Jul 14, 2011
    • I have a friend who will call multiple times in one evening.  She will leave a message on the voice mail but then will continue to call the house repeatedly.  Last Saturday she called something like 7 times in two hours, it was RIDICULOUS!!  And it wasn’t anything important, it was just to say hi.

      So I called her on Sunday and asked her not to do that and when she calls, to just leave a message and I’ll call her back and not to continue calling.  Well, she just laughed and that further irritated me.  The call didn’t go well after that and well, she hasn’t called since.

      My other pet peeve is people who don’t return phone calls like ever.  Particularly since these people are supposed to be friends!  I’m seriously considering not calling these people anymore.  I figure if they care, they will evenutally call, right?  But this is very annoying.  

      Carine - Your first one is funny!  Your number 2 reminds me of my mother in law who cusses like a sailor, even in front of the kids!  But I really don’t deal with her much.  However she is driving my husband crazy!

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      Anne E wrote Jul 14, 2011
    • Love your Pet Peeve List!

      Some of mine are people who never get back to you when you ask them if they want to do something!  Is it that hard to say “thanks, but no thanks“?!

      People who don’t acknowledge gifts (okay I’m specifically referring to a certain nephew of mine.) His sisters are great.  Am I allowed to cut him off at age 19 due to perpetual rudeness and still give my nieces gifts?

      And a brief run down:
      People who hog 2 parking spaces.
      People who don’t signal when they‘re turning right in front of you.
      The consistently late.
      People who promise they‘re going to take you out to a movie or dinner as a way of thanking you for things you’ve done for them who never actually do it!

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      Frannie1964 wrote Jul 14, 2011
    • I agree with all your rants Carine.

      The jogging without a shirt unless your Matthew McCounghey, then don’t do

      There’s many things that bug me about some people but the most that really bugs me is people invading your personal space!  

      I was at the Sizzler last night with hubby and it was our turn to walk up to the lady taking orders at the counter and this other lady who’s in line behind us thought it was ok to stand right next to me.worried as if she was with us. Hello!!? really? guurrrrrrrr!!!heartbreak

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      Mztracy wrote Jul 14, 2011
    • well honestly lots of things about people bug me...

      But, life IS short and petty things do not really matter...

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      Vikki Hall wrote Jul 14, 2011
    • I could create a list of hints that bug me but then that would force me to focus more on them. So aside from Memphis drivers I can’t list any frown

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      Cathie Beck wrote Jul 15, 2011
    • I must be surrounded with some really Fabulous people. ;oD  

      I can shrug off most people’s moments of thoughtless quirks, but the X has his gall to pretend I didn’t leave a message and get mad at me for then going through my attorney. He didn’t care to talk to or with me for years but could write a 5 page letter to berate and manipulate me ... now that we are coming into the final stretch of the divorce.  (Ha ha, it isn’t working!)  


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      Carine Nadel wrote Jul 15, 2011
    • ok, the “birdman” did have a physique like Matthew, but it was still dangerously distracting!

      Diane-I do have told dh, due to mil’s crude and quite rude behavior that b/c I do love him and can’t stand the way she treats him-it’s best to keep her FAR, FAR away.

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