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Is it always black & white? Are there gray areas, and if so where are they?



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      Jenz ~ wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • For me, if I’ve been lied to or cheated on, automatic dealbreaker.
      I guess one (not me) could find a ‘grey area’ if the person who broke the trust came to the lie-ee & came clean on their own, and even then it would take moving serious mountains for me to agree to try to rebuild trust.



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      Inakika wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • Since you posted this twice I copied my answer.....
      It depends on the person.
      My Aunt is the biggest con-person I know of. She used my mothers Social Security number to open bogus credit card accts. for herself. She came clean and made good. Then she did it all over again when my moms guard was down. The credit card company cleaned my moms bank acct. because my mother had a legit acct. with them. She eventually was re-paid.
      My brother and I have disowned her, she is not to be trusted. For her there is no gray area.
      You really have to judge the person based on their actions and if they are really sorry for the drama they have caused.



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      Dee Dee Shaw wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • I agree with Ingrid. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Integrity is the highest character trait in my book. I am compulsively honest, and without honesty there is no respect in my book. It does depend on the person, and what the lie was about though.
      Some areas of trust are sacred - like fidelity, others are gray, especially when the lie is a foolish attempt to prevent you from being hurt more. That question is too vague for me to give more than a vague kind of answer.



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      Inakika wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • AMEN Dee Dee! I try to live right. I am scared of karma coming back at me, I walk the straight and narrow.
      I’m no angel, but what I did in the past has truly been a learning experience for me.
      My Aunt has always been crooked, but when she messed with my mommy she crossed the line. My mother is so sweet, she will do anything for you. To see her hurt, crying, that did it for me.



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      Michele66 wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • I wasn’t sure how to post. so I did it in 2 areas...oopsestatic



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      Michele66 wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • My problem is I want to see the good in people. Well I guess it’s not a problem. But....



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      Inakika wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • No problem, it just confused me for a minute. Either way I appreciate the opportunity to get this off my chest! Thank you!



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      Inakika wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • Isn’t it sad when you can’t trust family? But hey, we can’t choose them, only our friends.



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      Michele66 wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • My brother is also a user. If it’s not nailed down it is up for the taken. Needless to say he is out of my life. So I know what you mean



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      Inakika wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • Michele, I feel you. We want to believe that everyone is good. But reality tells us different. Sad but true.
      My mom, she forgives so easily. I wish I had that ability. Okay, maybe I don’t! LOL!



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      Jenz ~ wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • Integrity. Such an important thing to have or for some, to learn.
      Bottom line, if there is no trust, what is there?



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • In the past, I started off with 100% trust to others, no matter;
      As I tread the life journey a little longer,
      After I was burnt, cheated and betrayed,
      I now started off with 50% trust to others,
      but still very shortly, I gave away 100% almost immediately, my heart outpouring.
      Good or bad? It depends on my luck
      and so far, I have ding good luck here
      and also in my surroundings.
      Once trust broke, then come forgiveness to overcome any self emotional baggage, then come awareness and cautious, self love and such.  

      p.s. I found myself rambling tonight.



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      Michele66 wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • How easy is it to forgive?
      I can forgive, but forgetting is different



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      (華娃娃) ChinaDoll wrote Dec 10, 2008
    • Love till it hurts, forgive till it does not hurt.
      For me, forget may be easier, but forgive is so deep down.



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