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Well, Jon is in the news again, looking plowed again.  Wow.  What happened, right?  I mean, here was a family that looked really strong together.  And all of a sudden Jon is the town jerk.  Or is it Kate?  Is she the controlling monster the media is making her out to be?  Did he just snap under her endless pressure?  Or is it something else?

Whenever I see celebrities acting poorly, my first reaction is to judge.  Who wouldn’t? But then I start thinking.  How strong would I be, if I were the famous one?  If I was so powerful and rich that people stopped being honest with me?  If the people in my inner circle were only there to promote me and help me make money?  If my circle of support was about ratings not values?  Well, if I am going to be honest, I just don’t know.  Maybe I wouldn’t be as fabulous as I think I would be.  Maybe it would be hard for me to keep my balance.

Maybe the Gosselin’s aren’t so different from all of us.  Maybe they just got lost in the path to wealth and celebrity, forgetting to keep it simple and keep it real?  

And how hard is it for us to keep it simple?  How often do we lose our way?  Getting caught up in image or things that just don’t matter, spending our energy and time on things that don’t add meaning to our lives?  

What do you think?  Are the Gosselin’s jerks?  Is is tough for celebrities to keep it real?  How about us?  Do we struggle to stay honest, to keep is simple and be true to ourselves?

What do you think?

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      Mztracy wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • They are both jerks! IMO

      Not all celebrities act like this.

      My hubby and i were discussing this the other day. I asked him about certain actors and if he knew how they were in ‘real’ life and on the sets.

      I was surprised that some I thought would be cool are not really so nice. Most likely they were jerks before ‘stardom’ and still jerks after it. All the attention did was bring it out into the open.



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      UK Girl wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • True Mz T ....... once a jerk money don't change a thing just makes them a more expensive jerk.
      I have known people who have made money and good for them but then they have gone from mildly obnoxious to just obscenely obnoxious ...... one person I know we refer to "I got more money than you" that's his opening conversation starter .....can't understand why when he comes to London I don't want to "hang out" with him I have explained I would rather gnaw my own arm off .



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      Maria Murphy wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • Great feedback.  I am a therapist and one study I was always fascinated by was that “senior citizens” don’t “get” mean in their old age, just that as they age, their ability to cover up their flaws is compromised.  Mean seniors are just mean adults that can’t hide it as well.

      Interesting.

      Kind of what both of you are saying here.  I guess with celebrity and money the stakes are higher or at least more transparent?

      Thanks for your comments!

      Maria



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      Maria Murphy wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • That is so true.  Kids really suffer in situations like this.  Thanks for your comments.

      Maria



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      Yana Berlin wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • My two cents on the subject:

      We as a society are to preoccupied with celebrities, what they do, wear, eat, and how they act. I think if we paid less attention they would not have so many issues. They would be like us, real people, and than we wouldn’t be wondering who they are really...jerks or not.

      I know that money changes people, usually for the worst, but I also know that people that have integrity will always act accordingly, even if they get rich and famous.

      If we started ignoring all the talk about celebrities that are not even worth talking about, Jon  & Kate would be concerned about how to make enough money to support all the kids they have to feed and maybe actually try to make this marriage work, instead of sitting in the bar drinking with their buddies and trying to figure out their next publicity stunt.



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      Janet Wooley wrote Nov 16, 2009
    • My 2 cents, Kate has always been controlling. Jon was ok w/it until people started pointing it out and he rebelled. He started wanting to spend money on “stuff” sports cars, going out and Kate tried as she may, could not “tell” Jon what to do anymore. I think they still both love each other but their pride is soooo inflated to apologize to the other and there ends a marriage and 8 little kids will suffer for it for the rest of their lives. They both are equally “Jerks”



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      Daphne wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • They both have ownership in this train wreck.  Kate is overbearing and has imposed her will on John from the beginning.  He was happy and fulfilled with his two daughters...it was Kate who pressed for one more pregnancy...and let’s face it, a person is just stupid to think that a pregnancy by artificial means is going to net you ONE child.  It happens, but odds are, you’ll have multiples.  Kate is/was greedy.  By no means am i implying that John doesn’t love and want ALL his children...i’m just saying that he caved under Kate’s pressure...and that was just the beginning (or was it actually the middle?).  Kate hammered on that man relentlessly...without respect, consideration OR kindness.  How could John NOT find her cold and contemptuous once he finally grew a pair and said NO MORE!

      Kate has admitted to being the rude, disrespectful, bossy wife.  Big deal.  John has decided that he somehow deserves all the “stuff” he’s been buying.  That’s simply proof positive of his immaturity.  Growing that pair didn’t help him grow up any, it just got him away from the source of his aggravation.  He did need guidance where the kids were concerned but he didn’t need/deserve to be emmasculated in the process.  

      I used to get a kick out of the show because of the six little ones.  The twins are bratty, if you ask me.  Kate has never appealed to me one bit.  For the most part, I sympathized with John.  He was busting his butt to keep everyone happy and no one was the least bit interested in his needs/wants.  It was ALWAYS about what Kate said was going to be done.  

      We all have needs that can be squashed for awhile, but at some point if there’s no deposit, there’s nothing to withdraw!  John was empty after 8+ years of constant demands be made on him.  If Kate had made John a priority for even a few minutes/day, perhaps he’d still be running around like a chicken with his head cut off, at her beck and call.

      John’s running around trying to feel important/necessary.  Kate’s a publicity whore.  She talks out both sides of her mouth.  On the one hand, she hates the papparazzi, yet she continues to seek the spotlight (talk show appearances, book signing, etc), even admitting that she hopes to become an actress!  You can’t have it both ways...either you want to be a public figure or you don’t.  After the circus she’s created, she doesn’t even have that choice, anymore.

      They‘re both idiots.  Since the show began, the best interest of the children has NEVER been the primary concern of those two parents.  It was about money, plain and simple.  At the end of last season, John was admitting that he wasn’t interested in another season yet Kate said, she and the kids would be back...once again, who cares what John needs or wants?  Just dismiss him and carry on.

      How lucky are those 8 kids that they get to watch the unravelling of their lives and their parent’s marriage on DVD for the rest of their lives?  Charming, don’t you think?



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      Maria Murphy wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Yana-

      You are so right.  It sounds like supply and demand.  If we just refused to show an interest would it all go away?

      Thanks for all your feedback, fabulous women!

      Maria

      Also, Daphne- great insights into how important it is to keep putting “money in the bank” of our relationships!



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      Zena Coleman wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I do think they still love each other, but let the cost of fame interfer with there personal life, if only they would stop talking to the media and start talking to each other,they are the last couple in america that should be divorcing.



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      Allthingsnatural wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Jon and Kate both asked for this lifestyle. They wanted it. I’m going to give my 2 cents worth on Jon and Kate now, lol. I can sympathize with celebrities up to a point. But I don’t even see them as celebrities. I think that if the truth be known, both Jon and Kate are very boring people. Outside of their children, whom are the only ones at all that receive my pity with all of this. They never asked to become celebrities whatsoever, but were born with cameras in their face. Jon and Kate, on the other hand, well, I think Jon is a jerk and Kate is so whiny. I really wouldn’t give 5 cents for neither one, but they are in the limelight so I guese we are stuck with hearing of them



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      Liveinthenow545 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • It takes two to TANGO!!  I think they are both jerks.  They need to get out of the spotlight and focus on these precious children and what will be best for them.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • In my opinion the Jerks are the people that actually watch them.

      Ive never watched the show, dont care to and can only hope their children can be allowed to have some type of normal life, if possible.  

      Ive only read articles and seen new reports about this couple, and cant imagine what would be so great about a show.  

      They are not an attractive couple, and it seems like the only thing they have done is take fertility drugs gone wild.  

      I heard Octomom is also having a TV show.  I pray NO ONE would watch that train wreck.

      When Anna Nicole Smith had a show, I think I tuned in one time to see her tongue kissing her dog and I got sick.  I remember how shy her son was and thought how much he must love his mom to allow her to exploit him that way.  That as we know was documentation of a tragic train wreck and now they are both gone, leaving only a little girl with out a mother, or brother, to be raised by her father and an attorney that appears to be implicated in her mothers death.  

      I wont watch.



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      Kpulcastro wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • I am sooo sick of hearing about Jon and Kate!



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      Kimmycat wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • My concern is for those children..unfortunately no body gets the opportunity to decide who their parents will be..Nothing takes God by surprise. I pray that His grace is on the children and that they grow up to productive members of our society. May they learn from their parent’s mistakes.



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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 23, 2009
    • I think they both are jerks who let fame and fortune go to their heads using their children as excuses for doing all of that.  As I state all the time...it all boils down to choices.  You can choose to participate or do something or you don’t.  They chose this for their lives without thinking of the “what if’s“.  And if they did think of the “what ifs“..then they didn’t think hard enough.  

      I’m with Yana on this.  As long as we watch the show...read the magazines...tabloids..etc...the more we are giving in to their so call celebrity life.  In all of this...the children are the ones that have suffered and will continue to suffer.  

      And I will add this....when the day comes for us all to die...they will not have a celebrity status where ever they end up eternally.  In other words....they are no better than me.



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      Lori Daniell wrote Nov 26, 2009
    • What a great blog :)

      I do not know them personally, so I will refrain from being too judgemental. Opinionations and judgements are not my cup of tea, either on the giving or receiving end, and those people who choose to live and view in that manner are definitely people who’s company I choose to not seek. It just creates too damned much negative energy!  That being said, I think that everyone’s ooogly side comes out when faced with stressors!  

      The court of public opinion is really the harshest.  I feel for Jon’s inability to deal with it.  I also empathize with Kate’s desire to continue.  Who really knows unless we walk in their foot steps.

      I think the only thing I know is that the show was a really interesting study of human behavior.  LOL!



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