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If you know much about me, I am just like most other women: A mom, a wife, a sister and a devoted girlfriend to my peeps.  I'm that girlfriend that people come to for advice.  The reason why:  

What you tell me, stays with me.


Ergo, I have heard a lot of things from women --- and to be honest, the majority of the stories have a common theme.  It's one that I'm shocked about.

I suppose the common theme didn't hit me until I read an interesting blog by Bidisha at the UK’s Guardian.  

It was called “Casual Sexism is Nothing but Misogyny,”  and it detailed the ways in which women are subtly degraded on an everyday basis.  Here are some of the comments the author had heard while running errands in public places:

“I have never so wanted to slap a girl as I did then.”
“That Saira, she is the f*$#!g ugliest girl I have ever seen in my life!”
“I was dubious, you know, because it’s a woman author.”
“Who’s that whore over there?”
“You can’t be a photographer and a mother.”
“She looks like a bitch.”

Of course, each of these comments had a context detailed in the article, so it’s not like any of them can just be explained away.  Take a look for yourself.  It really made me consider my own experiences as an observant traveler, as a mother and as a confidant.

Maybe I'm becoming more sensitive about this because I have girls in my family that look to me as a role model.  It's not what we say to our children that really makes an impression from which they learn -- it's how we behave and respond that teaches our girls (and our boys).

On a recent shopping trip I was on an escalator with my daughter.  Behind us were two 20-something guys talking about a woman.  No attempts to whisper, and no regard to others when they chose their many 4-letter words.  

My daughter looked at me with huge eyes & mouthed to me “O-M-G!”  I smiled, winked to her and turned to the guys and asked:

"Do you kiss your momma with that mouth?" ------Read More on My Website HipMix.Net @[Link Removed] 

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      Suzann wrote Aug 20, 2010
    • “Do you kiss your momma with that mouth?” OMG that’s fantastic!!!

      Yes, I agree with you, sexism is alive and well, it’s just taken a different slant than the blatant sexism of the 1950s with the totally accepted woman-as-bad-driver jokes.

      A while back, it was suggested in the general media world that people use non-gender-specific pronouns. Remember the backlash to that? Many men considered this request an enormous imposition - like how hard is it to say “Flight Attendant” instead of “Stewardess“? But back then (was that 10 or 15 years ago?) you’d think we had asked males to jump off the Empire State Building. All we asked was that they make the road sign say “Workers Ahead” instead of “Men Working.”

      Anyway, excellent blog.

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      Dilara Sultan wrote Aug 20, 2010
    • Thank you! so glad you both liked it, and such a wonderful compliment coming from you Suzann I think that you are so amazingly interesting - enjoy the weekend ladies

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