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Ok ladies, what’s going on here? A few months ago we started having all these chat’s here and there and everywhere. Wasn’t really my thing as I found it very hard to keep up with.
Now, it seems as though everytime I come on and comment. It’s like everyone goes away and all I have is a page full of my comments. It almost feels like everyone runs from me.
Is this just my imagination? Where is the “feels like home” feeling I used to get every day? Has something happened that I’m not aware of?
I don’t get into the drama filled situations, so maybe I missed something.
Would you be so kind as to fill me in?
Your friend and fab40 sister, Lisa



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      Cindylouwho1966 wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • It’s not you, Lisa, I’ve noticed a lot less activity recently. I myself have just been so busy I find it hard to participate.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • I certainly understand being busy. It was not my intention to make anyone feel bad or as if they need to explain.
      I have a hard time getting caught up most days.
      I may go a week or two at a time without even being able to sign on.
      I can remember a time when we all on here all day long. Most of the ladies I never even see here anymore.
      I just didn’t know if something had changed.

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • This site definately is not like it was a year ago.  Back then, we had blogs and posts and questions that left us laughing hysterical for days.  It was very lighthearted.  Then comes misunderstandings by some, premium membership and there you have the beginning of many changes that have taken place.  There are always the drama queens that like to keep things going and then there are some people that arent very honest.  I guess a lot of “caution flags” have gone up for a lot of us that arent “newbies“.  

      Besides all of this, some of us have branched off into our own friendships which takes presidence considering the time limits we all seem to have lately.

      I miss the old FAB40.  What do you say we just start some quirky questions and laugh really hard out loud!!!

      xoxo



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • Annie, I miss it too!
      Doreen, I’m game! We’ve got to pull this sisterhood back together again.
      I’m not aware of any misunderstandings or any of that, but there are always some bad apples in the bunch. I just kind of avoid those folks respectfully.

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • I’ve always maintained that everything comes down to intent. We’ve had some people come in with only intent to sell us something. We’ve had some come in and very quickly create drama and stir up the pot of controversy. Eventually people with ill intent drop off and things get back to normal. It’s still very worth it to me to be here through anything that comes up. I truly value the friendships I’ve made here.  There are some very wonderful women on this site.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • Cynthia, I agree. I value my friendships here. I speak of you ladies as friends and what wonderful friends I have made here.
      It’s the holidays and I know we are all busy, but I think we should still connect as much as possible. The Holidays are stressful and it would help to have a soft place to fall when we need it.

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      Denise Richardson wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • Hi Ladies, I think I have figured it out. Usually when the weather changes from hot to cold you get more participation from us Northern folk lol, and visa versa for the weather change for those who live in the southern parts, just my own analogy lol.happy
      Lisa you‘re fine honey, no harm done on your part there has been a lot of changes here on the site some people have strayed away because of them but oh well Yana has to do what she has to do to keep the site going and making it better.

      "Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do... but how much love we put in that action Mother Teresa."



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • You have a great point there Neicy, I tend to be inside more when the weather is cooler.

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      Denise Richardson wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • LOL, hi Annie yeah thats what happens here with me I hibernate in the winter so I’m always online here. LOL. I have missed you girls.happy

      "Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do... but how much love we put in that action Mother Teresa."



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      007pouty wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • Lisa,
      I check in on this site every once in a while.  But, as others have said life gets in the way.  For me it’s been partly due to health, but also games that need to be attended and other things dealing with our family relationships.  I miss logging on and talking to everyone.  Hopefully, as everything always does it will smooth out and I’ll find more time.  :)



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      Samib wrote Nov 18, 2009
    • Speaking as newer member, I’ve enjoyed trying out the sight and slowly getting to know some of the members.  I’ve felt pretty welcome up until I read this string.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Samib, I am so glad you are here with us. I look forward to getting to know you better.  

      I don’t think the dyanamic have changed at all. The crowd actually seems a little smaller, actually. But it’s the same wonderful site that we have all fallen in love with.

      Like Neicy said above, I think the cold weather will get us all back in the Fab40 fashion.

      We need to get Yana to have another virtual Hot Chocolate!

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      UK Girl wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Lisa – I think a lot does have to do with weather and people being home more and online ..
      But also people do come and go – but all your old mates are here and new ladies .....
      Samib we love new voices as they add to the beauty of the site ........



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Very well said, Vicki! You always know the exact words to say!

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Good Point Vikki!
      Like I said in the beginning, this was not intended to upset or make anyone feel bad. I was just kind of trying to get a feel.
      There are lot’s of new ladies here that I would love to get to know. And alot of old friends that I really love chatting with.

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      Mary Clark wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Hi everyone...

      Lisa...I understand how you feel.  Believe me...I miss a lot too....so don’t feel left out.  Lately...I’ve been consumed with the remodeling of my bathroom and some other home projects and now getting ready for the holidays that I do good to even get on the computer.  I’m the worst at sending out little “hello’s” or “good mornings“...these days...so please no one take it personally.  Hopefully after Thanksgiving I should be back in the swing of things.
      I know sometimes...something will happen in my day to day activities that will inspire me to blog about it and then...I get busy...and all of my thoughts are gone out the window.  So.....it’s not you.



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      Venus 7000 wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I think that its great that the membership is expanding.  I also believe that in order to encourage more participation from the new members we should make an effort to comment on their blogs when they do post.  There are often a number of blogs on the board from new members that do not attract any comments.  Hmmm not very encouraging.  (I know I am guilty of this too.)  

      It is also not encouraging when for the past three days the same three blogs have been holding the featured spot on the front page.  While I agree that these blogs are noteworthy, I wonder whether there no others that we might wish to see as well?  It might be nice to rotate this a bit more so that others might feel that their contribution was also worthwhile.  

      Just my two cents.



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      Lisa Middlesworth wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • I agree Venus!
      Mary, I know how busy you have been with the remodeling. I have told you before that I think you must be one of the busiest ladies I know. You and Laurie! You both are always into a million things at one time! LOL
      I have been trying to read all the blogs/post and comment in some way.
      I love reading them, it helps me to get to know all of you better.

      estatic*Lcm*
      heartheartheartheart



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      Samib wrote Nov 19, 2009
    • Hi Ladies.  I told Melissa that maybe I should be better about pulling my toes in and move on when I see something that makes me have a non-positive response.  I apologize to all of you too, and want to let you know I don’t want to be the cause of any grief here.  You all seem pretty awesome.  Thank you.



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