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How many times in your life have you been disappointed about the choices of someone you care deeply about?
What have you done?
How often is our first reaction, criticism? Maybe you feel better momentarily but if you damage the relationship by your words and push that person away, is it really worth it?
I have tried the criticism thing a lot, feeling justified, especially if it is one of my children. I’m the “Mom” I have to teach them, right?
Anger doesn’t teach, it hurts.
All those times, more than I’d like to admit, getting upset did very little except raise my blood pressure and multiply the negative emotions.
Defensiveness is the first to respond and when one feels attacked and backed in a corner the focus, is on escape. They are not in a frame of mind to produce sincere and lasting change.
We are all created in the image of God and within us lies unlimited potential. His love is constant and unconditional, always.
Loving a person despite their weaknesses and choices is a powerful way to initiate change, if and when they are ready. Maybe they never will, but if you want them to be a part of your life - it’s all about love.
diony, you are right on! I had to learn this the hard way too, and occasionally I revert back to old ways. Love, sometimes warm and fuzzy, sometimes tough, and the wisdom to know the difference! Sometimes it’s me I have to be tough with! ;)
Sometimes its hard to distinguish love from fear especially when you are talking to your kids. 
What I tell myself in those moments is- IF I am feeling like I MUST control their situation; it is out of fear. (I am afraid that they are going to screw it up or that they are going to get hurt or that they are being unrealistic).
Then, I take a deep breathe, and just tell them what my fear is and ask how would they handle that?
I must admit- this is a new development for me. I used to never adjust to anything without having to have complete control.
Well my daughter is now living in her car so she showed me.
Oh if only I could redo it.
Thanks to all for sharing such heart-felt thoughts. You’ve given me something to think about.
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