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As some of you may know, i am fairly experienced in social outlets on the Internet.  I signed on in May of 1997, discovered a chat room within minutes and thus began my online social life.

In every online venue where i have spent any time, there has ALWAYS been the presence of negativity.  There is always someone who is looking to stir the pot, to cause dissension, to get attention even if it’s negative.  Every chat room, every message board, every social networking site...there is going to be someone(s) who gains some perverted sense of superiority in his/her ability to get under the skin of others.

No matter how bored i become with these individuals, the urge to try to reason with him/her used to overcome me and i have attempted to engage them in some logical conversation.  Unfortunately, logic is not something these angry, lonely, and neglected people have.  What they DO have is bitterness, resentment, jealousy and some notion that their unhappiness is somehow not their fault.  My father used to say, “happiness is an inside job.”

So, here i am...part of a pretty awesome social networking site with an overwhelming membership of pretty cool women.  I have interacted with many on a personal level and felt a connection with others who share the same struggles that i do, whether it be in parenting, relationships, career, or some other element of life.  I feel that i have represented myself very fairly within this community and have provided no false impression of my life or who i am.  No matter how long i am part of a social network, i will never understand how a person can find joy in being unkind to others for the sake of being unkind...or simply because they can.  How sad it must be to realize that one’s only method of exercising “power” is to bully others online.  Instead of looking inside one’s self and using one’s energy to find peace, these online bullies use their time to learn ways to be sneaky and hurtful.  I’m sorry...but this behavior is a choice.  These bullies are not victims.  These people are choosing to perpetuate what i consider to be one of the MOST cowardly behaviors of human-kind.  It’s easy; it requires no discipline, no conscience and no social grace.  

As much as i dislike bullies, i also pity them.  I strongly suspect that the online variety of bullies are people who don’t have the kahunas to impose their bitterness and unhappiness on others while face to face.  Perhaps my approach isn’t as Christian as it could be, and maybe i’ll work on that...but this is where i’m at right now.

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