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Yesterday was the day that nightmares are made out of, I got up intending to clean house, which gets worse everyday, we just recently found out that we have a rather bad flea infestation. So yesterday we got all the animals treated with frontline.
My daughter asked me to babysit, so their went those plans, while keeping my granddaughter who was in a very bad mood, the phone is ringing off the wall and my son was on the phone, He and his wife are demanding that i come to visit for the fourth, all the way to nashville, tn.
So the grandchild is screaming, we cant find her formula, come to find she is out, i had to use what formula i could find. By the time the parents got home, we were both stressed and figure we might as well go to town cause we got nothing done that we planned too.
So i was ready to admit myself to the hospital to be treated with high doses of ativan. We go to walmart and then to wendys, while sitting at wendys trying to eat and not talk to my husband who was strangely quiet i look out an see my mil pulling into the parking lot. Wendys is a small restraunt, theres no place to hide.
So she waddles up to us, My husband is a father of twins who are 16, we dont see them much, we didnt raise them. But somehow all their many mistakes can be laid at my feet, i was a bad stepmother. OMG.. what a freaking day.
So i have finally had it, One way or another, it is time for me, Not my kids nor my husband But me. Im tired of everyone needing something from me, or blaming me or bitching and whinning to me.
Im not sure how im changing everything but i am. Before they all cause me to have a nervous breakdown.  All of it is my fault i know, i allow all of them to use me. But it has to stop.

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      Max0125 wrote Jun 19, 2010
    • It sounds like you need to take some time for yourself and also learn to stand up for yourself. No one, family included, should make you so stressed out that you need medication to calm down.

      You might want to check out Cheryl Richarson’s books “The Art of Extreme Self Care” and “Stand up for your Life” My dear, it is time for you to take your life back!

      Good luck!



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      Suzann wrote Jun 19, 2010
    • Wow, Tracy, I know how those kinds of days can be. Yes - can you take a day and let everyone know ahead of time that it will be your day? and perhaps you can be out of the house that day in case people invade your personal boundaries - like maybe a spa day, a day at the library and lunch with a friend, a day sitting in a museum, or even a day at Starbucks writing in a journal?



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      Marlene McCray wrote Jun 19, 2010
    • Hi Tracy I know exactly what you are going through. Yes you deserve some me time!! That’s right.
      My mentor and Life coach Ms. Kim Fulcher states:  

        ” Your needs, your beliefs, your strengths and your values are yours. Once you know what these are, you can create a  life that reflects everything that’s important to you - and nothing that isn’t. Life is all about passion. Or at least, it should be. So why settle for a life built around anything less than the passions that drive you to be the woman you always knew you could be?”

      listen as she talk about Define What Drives You!!
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      let me know what you think!
      God Bless and Stay Divine!

      Marlene


      Mmccray, Your links have been removed, please consider upgrading to premium membership.



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      VICKY CORYEA wrote Jun 20, 2010
    • hey girlfriend!

      You must stop being everyones cheerleader!
      The till is empty........you cant give to anyone when you  are are not giving to yourself.

      I so want you to try to take small steps to some sort of life change. I think you are ready for that. I hate that its up to us to always solve the problems, have the right answer, etc...
      As women we are raised that way.........and it ends up draining us!  Some folks are saying to take a day now and then for you..............I say take some time EVERY day for you.........no matter if it makes sense to anyone.........it matters to you!  take care, and god bless. I am here for you!



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jun 20, 2010
    • Girl take all the time you need. We women tend to over work oursleves and if “we” don’t stop and take out some me time for us we’ll never get it! People think that we‘re robots and we can just keep going and going and going there is nothing wrong with you taking out some time for you enjoy it whatever you do my friend.



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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 20, 2010
    • It definitely sounds like some days that I have..you are not alone.  I follow the three R’s...rest, revel and revamp..take a nap when needed, indulge in a pleasure that appeals to you and utilize some time for exercise..works every time!estaticheart



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      Veggie wrote Jun 21, 2010
    • heart  Hang in there & do what you need to do for YOU.



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