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I have had a problem and have been reasearching it for years.  My sister, love her as I do, has been jealous of me for years.  I cant tell you how many times she has caused problems in the family or said I said or did something I didnt to cause a divide, with myself or my mother or children and even husbands.

As a child in school she would come to me saying she lost her lunch money and every day for years Id skip lunch so she could eat, and I found out later she was buying extra food and lying about it.  She would get kicked off the bus for fights and Id have to get off with her and walk miles home because she was so mean.  The bus driver would tell me I dont want to make you walk as your good and Id say dont worry I wont leave my little sister alone.  She is a year younger than me.

I remember calling my mom and she would hang up on me and I never knew why or my daughter comming home angry over something I had no idea about or my husband loving one day and pissed at me the next after talking to her.

Some of the things my sister has caused in my life are never reversable and permanent damages caused.  

Sadly my sister was sooo good at this, and I would hav never suspected her and if I did I wouldnt think she meant to hurt me but she did every chance she could.

My parents believed her as she has big puppy eyes and fair hair, and I guess with my looks vs hers..  

I was the evil one, she was not, when it was the reverse.  I heard they would burn green eyed people as witches and warlocks back in the witch trials, and I can believe it.  They were most likely accused by big puppy eyed women like my sister.

Finally after 40 or more years, my mother finally caught my sister in a HUGE lie.. I was actually glad she got caught in her own trap, but she went into reclusion for a while although Ive always keep my door and phone and heart open to her.  

We were at ladies Tea Yesterday, which she hates because I adore it so much.  And we were talking genetics and about oru Jewish blood line and Indian blood line.  My mother and father both claim the jewish line and I have done geneology charts extensivly and offered her a link via email.  She said I wont give my e-mail to you unless you agree to say nothing mean.

I said, excuse me ?  The person that was mean was YOU.  And I lost at least two husbands over your lies, and had difficulty with my mother and father all my life and you have done everything to try to turn my children against me and you want me to promise to not say anything mean ?

I said, Im sorry, I cant promise what I may or may not say.  I wont accept a Conditional email, and I never want your email on those conditions.

We see each other and this holiday she actually is comming to decorate the center I rent every year for the family Thanksgiving where we have about 80 people.  Im glad about that but still, I cant get over her, after all she has done to me.  And my life has been hard and my sucesses were hard fought and hard earned and won.  She should at least pity me.. but she would be the one to throw the first stone.

I dont understand it.  She has had one husband, both children with one man, one job and only two homes her whole adult life.  

My life is like the Perils of Penelope and James Bond, in comparison. Still a rollercoaster at times I want to just jump off but I cant as too many rely on me.

Am I the only one ?  I found this article below and my sister has been worse as she has destroyed relationship in my life.  

I can just see her evil laughing behind my back as I would give her kisses and gifts as my husband was told WHO KNOWS WHAt.

To make matters worse her husband works for my first ex husband and she said his marriage is on the rocks and he has been asking about me.  What is the DEAL with her ?  What after destroying my marriage, and leaving my child fatherless... she now wants to put me back with him at age 40.. ?  He was my first love and love of my life, and he left me for another woman and forced me into an abortion that took me 10 or more years to overcome.

Please give me your thoughts !  Tell me NICE SISTER STORIEs.. Anything but is there other jealous sisters, brothers like mine.  I found this article below.

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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • wow..I’ve heard of sibling rivalry..but this is crazy..I don’t know Bobbi..best I can say is probably to have as little to do with her as possible..I know she’s family, but to avoid your stress...limit your time with her...

      My sisters and I are pretty close, we are there for each other when we need them..my 2 sisters are not all that close, but cordial when need to be..One of my brothers I adore..I helped raise him and now he has a family (his wife is pregnant with their second son)..I feel proud of the way he turned out..If he’s jealous in any way of me..I don’t know about it...Now his wife has expressed her envy of my marriage and i just lead by example...show her the right way to be happy in hers....



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • Peeper, thank you.. at first I just thought it was just bad luck but Ive had an evil force in my life called my sister.  I never thought it was her,, ever then I started to fit the pieced together, could the sister I loved be the one doing me harm.. noooo .. and then I find out it was a big YES.. I shudder to think I trusted her with so many of my feelings over the years that she twisted against me and caused my life so much turmoil, pain and at one point even suicide early in my first divorce.  

      Ive overcome all the obstacles in my life, and she was the first one to cut me down or point the finger of blame..  

      It shocks me how she can justify herself and pretend innocence and refuse to give me her email ?  What is the deal with that ?

      Im glad Im not alone.  All I know is Ive cashed CD’s for her behalf, Ive been generous to her and her children.. Ive always loved her, but she wouldnt do or feel the same for me at all.  I know it and each time she makes sure that I know she hates me, she is open with it now.

      Im taller, thinner and Ive been told prettier than her, and despite all the hell ive suffered, Im sucessful.  My children are gorgeous and mainly they have handsome dads, and they are tall.  

      I am very blessed but she cant be happy for me,  I wish I was married had one job, one husband, one or two homes and didnt have to go through the hell Ive suffered.  She cant even give me a word of support.  

      Its sad really because Ive always thought she was soo pretty, and dainty and she had  so many great qualities.  But I do remember telling her one day and I meant it.. I feel soooo sorry for your husband when you get married.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • Soulful I do I just barely call her as if I do call her or talk when others are present she twists my words behind my back.. a neat little trick of hers.

      Unfortunately she carried this with her children and they also do this to me, so I try to keep a distance.  Im always good to them but distant.

      Soulful, your so blessed to have loving sisters.



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • I forgive and love her and the more I do, the worse she finds a way to hurt me.  She hides behind a vail of innocence..



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      Denise Alleyne-Hill wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • don’t get me wrong..we do have our momemts...like all siblings do..lol



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      Sunkist wrote Nov 12, 2008
    • I am the youngest of three siblings, I have an older brother who is 3 years older than me and loves me eternally.  We have always been close since childhood.  I think its because we are so alike.  My sister is two years older than me and I feel she has been jealous of me for years.  My sister lives in Washington state, so we see each other rarely.  We are also very different in many ways, similar in some.  

      I could never approach my sister on issues where I feel she has mistreated me, I just take it and hold back and wait until she is gone to unwind.  Because she is my sister and I love her so much I can’t confront her, I think I would feel like I was the bad one and she would deny the behavior that I see her doing to me.  

      So I think it happens amongst sisters probably more than brothers and I would have to say its a part of life.  To try and see the positive side I would say maybe we are better off than our sisters because we are stronger.

      Its tough but you also have to think what is missing from their life that they may envy in yours.

      Best wishes.....



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • Teeky, your probably right.  I am very confident, I look at is as being optimistic and having faith and hope though.. which gives me the confidence.  It comes from above.  When Im with her I try not to be so forthright in front of her as she does seem to get jealous.  I remember, I was in Galveston on a famous case of mine, and the media from all over NY, LA, BBC, Mexico.. local channels, 48 hours, etc was there and I remember being there in my long flowing coat and boots, walking down the pier interview after interview and my sister came with my mother and sat in the car.. I was there with a team of divers, and investigators searching an area for a missing head of a corpse.. I remember looking over and she was on a pier with a stick in an area we werent searching Im guessing looking for the head ?  I thought and laughed to myself.. does she really think she will find it before my investigators and divers.  NY Post had a picture of me with my dive team from a distance and on the pier.. you could see her Butt in the photo bending over..   She was soo upset that her but made the news.  When her sister was splashed world wide.  It was funny, but I never laughed at her.  I said well you were helping.

      Sunkist, thank you so much for your blog.  I know how difficult and delicate it is .. your doing the right thing.  

      Bobbi



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 13, 2008
    • Teeky, I know its a big joke in the family she stuck her butt in my business and got it splattered in the news.



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