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Just got back from seeing “Ghosts of Girlfriends Past” with Matthew McConaughey.  That man still makes me think some dirty thoughts!  It was a cute chick flick.  The whole scared of commitment speech at the end of the movie hit a little too close to home though.

I am crazy about my guy.  We’ve been together a number of years & I get the feeling sometimes that if I gave him any indication that I was interested in the “M” word he’d pop the question.  But the thought of being with someone permanently ... like in FOREVER scares the living bejeezus out of me.  And I can’t explain why.  But his little speech at the end of the movie did make some sense.  It’s easier to leave someone before they leave you in order to protect yourself from getting hurt.  It’s easier to run than make that leap of faith.

As I drove home tonight I thought about it.  I’ve got a good man.  Why am I so afraid of making a commitment to him?  Then it hit me.  Right now if we were to part ways, yes I’d be hurt but life would go on.  I’d be mad for awhile but I’d be ok.  If I made that final commitment to him and for some reason lost him, I’d be devastated.  Right now I’m raising a pre-teen daughter on my own.  I CAN‘T AFFORD to be devastated!  I have got to keep my head on straight and do everything I can to raise her right.  I can’t take a chance of putting myself into a situation where I could get my heart broken by some man.

Am I crazy?  To have this great guy but not willing to make a commitment to him until my daughter is grown and able to take care of herself?  Luckily he has a son who keeps him as occupied as my daughter keeps me.  Maybe we‘re just a match made in heaven.  Or maybe we‘re just two chicken-shits.

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      Mjmurphy wrote May 25, 2009
    • always hard to tell, isn’t it...

      as long as your both happy, it’s all good



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      Mztracy wrote May 25, 2009
    • if you both are happy and together that is what matters.

      I will say that I have found out that life is very short and never put off until tomorrow what you can do today. Seize every moment. Sometimes it may not work out as we want, but at least we tried.

      We never know when our lives will change, so live each moment to the fullest!!



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      Robinesque wrote May 25, 2009
    • You sure do present a strong argument, bluerose, but, I’m not buying it.  Aren’t we all afraid of getting hurt?  This is assuming a lot on my part, but what if your parents thought like that?



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