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As you know I started a new job a few months ago. It was a bit of a learning curve and challenge which I fully enjoyed. In the process of learning about a new company and learning a new aspect of retail I also needed to hire staff.
Well of course I took the advice of those in the know and hired someone as my assistant manager with womens clothing mgt experience. Right from the beginning I had reservations about her.
I’m not going to say I am the best interviewer but I have interviewed thousands in my lifetime so I have skills. Most importantly I rely on my instincts. Until this time.....

So I hired this woman with experience and almost from day 1 she has set out to try to undermine me, oppose me, and point out my shortcomings. She also has made a point of making it a black/white thing. She also has failed to work as a team player, can be downright rude and has been stern with the staff.

The staff for the most part are old school retail women. They know what they are doing. They were hired because they know how to dress women and how to sell. Thats what I need them to do. And they do ot well. So they really don’t need to be sternly guided. Yes they occasionally need direction but not treated like children

I love my job and I love going to work. And I want to continue to.....

I guess what upsets me is that I have never claimed to be all knowing. I do ask questions of everyone in the store (as well as managers at other stores) and I listen. I take the best of what is said and blend it into what needs to be done.

This is how I have always done business. And have a successful proven track record. Which other than at point of me being hired into this company I don’t talk about my experience.

I don’t understand why there has to be a competition, why it has to be a black vs white thing, why one has to be better than another, why team work can’t a good thing, why each others qualifications can’t balance and enhance each other.  

WHY WHY WHY?????????



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Jan 11, 2012
    • My husband has been an upper level manager within his school for a long time and has had administrators who undermine him. He’s had to take them to task and remind them who is in charge on more than one occasion. I don’t know what you can do about her, if anything, but if there’s opportunity to establish a pecking order with her I’d do it. Also, if she is treating the staff badly she may be someone who needs to be removed from the mix or you may lose some of your hard working and competent sales people.



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      Marya1961 wrote Jan 11, 2012
    • Just curious, how old is this woman?  Is she a younger woman, around our age, or older?  I find some of these under 40 women do have a bit of a chip on their shoulder and really need to be put in their place, in a matter of fact way.

      As Cynthia pointed out too, this could affect the morale of your other sales women and cause further problems.

      Do not understand the black/white dilemma, but she apparently needs to understand that this is a business that needs to be run efficiently or she should find another job...you don’t need the stress!



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jan 11, 2012
    • Thx Ladies!

      I decided to have a heart to heart with her when we are both there on Friday......



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      Denise Richardson wrote Jan 12, 2012
    • When someone can come up with the answer to this please post because I deal with this on daily basis and I am sick and tired geesh! SMH! tongue out



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jan 12, 2012
    • LOL! Neicy I hear ya...... tongue out



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      Brimstone1968 wrote Jan 12, 2012
    • I suggest that you stand your ground and for lack of a  better saying let her know who is boss and just where she stands.  Sometimes they have to be reminded and they cause it on themselves because of their behaviour.  The other workers are looking on so handle it now.   I know you do a good job and they know it as well but I still do not want you to lose good sales associates either.



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      Frannie1964 wrote Jan 13, 2012
    • Good luck with the heart to heart talk Vikki and hope all goes well heart keep us posted as to how it went.



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      Mary Clark wrote Jan 14, 2012
    • I’m curious as to how the heart to heart went!!

      You know everyone has their talents.  Not everyone is great in all avenues of a business.  Sooo...you capitalize on a person’s good points and you go with them.  If she isn’t a team player then she really doesn’t need to be there.  People will work for you a whole lot better when you are good to them, speak to them with respect, and listen to them.  This girl is a tyrant and needs to be brought down to a peg or two...or three.  

      I would definitely NOT lose my great staff that know how to dress women and sell over one gal who is a bully.  

      Let us know how that meeting went....please....happy



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      Marianne Ruane wrote Jan 16, 2012
    • Everything that happens in life is a lesson - an absolutely perfect lesson that is needed. What opportunity to grow and heal is this woman giving you?
      Hang in there - it’s not personal!



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      Jewelrybyirina wrote Feb 5, 2012
    • Hi Vikki,
      is she still warking with you?
      How did conversation go?
      She is obviously having communicating issues. She does not strike me as ‘people’ person.
      Cheer up!  I know you are a great boss!



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