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I asked that question out of frustration.  Im sure most of you know that I love my wine.  I drink it daily.  Some days more than other days and sometimes with a martini of some sort thrown in.  My husband is dry and always has been.  My son has had his share of wrongdoings (Im sure you can guess where Im going but would rather not disclose) and so has my daughter.  Long story short, they both have kicked whatever they were doing except now my daughter has taken up drinking right along with me.  My son claims she does whatever I do and he feels she is addicted and should go to group and counseling and whatever else comes with addictions. He may have a point about group and such. I say if she does what I do, why the hell doesnt she have at least one job??  I have 4!!!!  I do everything I do and then some.  Why in hell do I have to justify and answer to this kind of nonsense?  Subliminal message is that I should stop drinking because of my daughter.  Maybe I am being selfish but at this point, too bad.  I have given my life entirely to my family and now I am turning 50 and I will be damned if I give another day to anyone but and for myself!!



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      UK Girl wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • Hey honey how old is your daughter - old enough for her to know her limit etc;

      So why does this stop you from having a drink or two ... I have friends who are either married or living with full black belt AA memebers and they drink - individuals have to take responsibility for their own actions..

      You’ve earned your drink - so cheers my dears ...



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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • How old is she?

      As for your vino consumption, that’s for you to decide. No one else. Enjoy.  



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • She absolutely is!  She will be 28 this year.
      And yes you are 100% right.  We are all responsible for our own actions.  I guess it’s just easier to blame/justify your actions on someone elses.  

      Im toasting you right now!!  Im having a glass of red.  Still havent found Goats Do Roam frown

      xoxo



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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • 28? Old enough to assume 100% responsibility and accountability for her own actions. Period.

      And YOU have 4 JOBS? CHEERS!



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • Thx for that Jen....so inviting :)  Im enjoying that in real time.  estatic

      xoxo



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      Jenz ~ wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • You‘re welcome. I should send you a bottle of this WI Blueberry. It’s actually made in our state up in Three Lakes. It’s heavenly.

      I haven’t tried ‘Goats do roam’ yet either. What is it?



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • Teeky swears by it. She turned so many of us on to it.  Alot of theladies here have found it but Im having a problem  here locally in New York.  Its a red wine...not sure if it’s Merlot, Cabernet, Shiraz or the like.  But everyone who has gotten it has loved it!!  

      xoxo

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      Doreen XoXo wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • She does assume responsiblity.  It’s my son that is the problem.  He hates that she drinks like she does.  I probably shouldnt say but she’s had a xanax addiction that she recently kicked on her own.  It was not a pretty scene by no means.  My heart was wrenched so tight these past years.  My son is a sensitive soul and doesnt want to see his sister go through that again.  He is trying to help her and feels that if I dont drink, she wont.  But that isnt the case.  He cant see that.  

      Nobody told me it was going to be this hard being a parent.

      xoxo



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      UK Girl wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • Sorry Doreen but 28years old she should get a life and get a grip and you should grip your bottle tightly to yourself!!

      Enjoy your drink and tell your kids they are not babies anymore.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • I hear ya Vicki.  Im trying.  It’s so easy to blame me for everything I guess.  I just dont want to end up like my mom.  My younger sister still lives with my mom after living a life full of addictions and wrongdoings.  My sister is 40 and I could see that situation replicating itself here with me.  I am trying so hard to not let that happen.  frown



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      UK Girl wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • Oh, Doreen it’s hard but rewarding.
      I’m sorry you’ve had these problems one day they will just sort out their problems.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • Im hoping for that.  Thx for your kind words and thoughts.

      Love my ladies here  

      xoxo



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Feb 8, 2009
    • The both live with me.  I dont HAVE to have it...I choose to.  I work everyday either one job or two, do everything I am “supposed” to do et al cook, clean, and take care of my husband’s business and the household bills.  I do the banking and shopping and the list goes on.  I will be damned if I am “told” by my children that I cant have a cocktail or two whether it be every night or whenever I feel like it.  So....it’s not a problem or a factor in anything.  It is what it is.  Im not the cause nor the answer for anything my children chose to do in their lives.

      xoxo



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