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After six kids (3 mine and 3 my husbands) our last son is starting high school in the fall.

I must say that this transition so far of the kids growing up and moving out, has been pretty hard on me.  

I started having kids at 20, so I have never been an adult without kids, which is why I think I might be having a hard time with this.  

Maybe too is because I have boys, and everyone knows that they don’t communicate very well.  

I just feel so empty inside and somewhat lost.  I guess I just have to start all over and re-discover myself.  

Anyone else having a hard time??



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      Vikki Hall wrote Apr 21, 2009
    • I have 2 girls 19 and 21 and a step son 19..... I would like them to get on with their lives so my husband and I can get on with ours.
      I love them and love spending time but until they are on their own thye will have no appreciation.



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      Termite wrote Apr 21, 2009
    • Oh Judy, I know this bothers you terribly. Keep your head up. She is a good girl who is doing what is right for herself. She makes you so proud! Just imagine if she was sitting at home not doing anything with her life, you would be even more upset!



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      Ljackson218 wrote Apr 21, 2009
    • I would say it’s a toss up....  On one hand you want the blessed time to just bond and reconnect with your spouse.  Isn’t that what we all wait for when our teens are entering the world of “Adulthood“?  On the other hand; once they are gone, we miss them so incredibly much.  I need to reiterate what termite said - the flip side of our child(ren) becoming successful in life is for them to become unsuccessful and remain dependent.  I don’t think any parent wish that outcome for their child(ren).  So, we somehow must find a way to release the apron and allow our beautiful birds to fly free and soar in life.  It’s so much easier said than done..... ohhhh



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      Laurie Zieber wrote Apr 21, 2009
    • I’ll never forget my youngest’s graduation night. He’s always been the more independent of the two. After the ceremonies were over, his cap and gown thrown in the back of his car he was off to celebrate in some pasture somewhere with every other kid in his class.  

      I was a mess. A completely irrational mess.  

      I had no prior experiences with this child to substantiate my expectations but I really had it in my head that we would all go home together and celebrate. You know, board games and popcorn, right? And I would bask in the glow of having poured myself out completely for my handsome and ever so appreciative
      sons.  

      Alas, my husband, sensing that there was a meltdown in the immediate future, did what any husband with any experience in staying off a meltdown would do... he took me to a very busy pizzeria for dinner. It was loud and there was music and there was laughing and people we knew greeted us on our way to the table.  I’m sure he thought he had it covered.  

      Instead of the “thank you” I intended to come out of my mouth when the waitress asked me if she could get me anything else...out came the gasps of air before sobbing that only teenage girls can do and still look pretty.

      Dan and I BOTH were mortified.  The sweet little waitress sais, “Ohhhh!  I’m so sorry.” and ran to the kitchen.  

      Dan said, “Maybe we should get this to go. Our waitress most likely thinks I have abused you in some way and is calling the law from the kitchen as we speak.”

      Hang in there, you’ll be okay.



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      Tammyjoa wrote Apr 24, 2009
    • let me tell you.. i have gone thru the same thing, my kids are 21 19 17.  and i have my brothers kids who are 6.8.9.  two years ago when i got my neices out of foster care i thought to myself wow. i wont ever feel that empty nest .. then a year later i thought to myself  omg what the hell have i done.. my kids are grown and now at 40 i am starting over again... my oldest  she is 21  she moved out(was thrown out) and it drives me nuts not to see her face everyday.. its good for them to be on there own cause then they see what we have sacraficed for them all these years... living with us  paying rent or helping with a bill is nothing compared to when they hav to do it on their own..



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      Shirlann wrote May 22, 2009
    • Yes I feel the same way has you I have 8 kids the eldest is 28 the youngest 10 and it is just hitting me now that I no longer have a baby in the housefrown



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