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Sometimes the little things in life make all the difference. Usually, those little things are trivial.

When we are young we are taught to be kind to others, and most of all to be polite and caring to people around us. Yet when we move into our teens we find bullies, gossipers and users. Everyone learns to deal with it differently, but somehow we all survive the growing pains and move on with adult lives.

Then life happens. We get busy with work, family, bills, responsibilities and chores. We find that we are overwhelmed and exhausted. We are running on low, trying to be all that we can be and than some. We forget to do those nice little things to pay it forward, and than we find ourselves stressed and depressed.

If someone was to ask me "What I Know For Sure?" my first answer would be that when you help others you feel better about yourself. When you make some one happy, you yourself feel happy. I visited Stephanie last weekend, as we were walking on Chestnut Avenue in San Francisco we saw a homeless man sitting in front of Walgreens with a sign asking for change. Stephanie bent down and asked this man: "What kind of chips he liked", she then went to the store and came out with a bag of chips, drink and a pack of donuts. As she handed the bag to them man he smiled and I saw him blink away his tears.  We continued walking in silence, then Steph said: "Mom, it's so easy to make someone happy, why don't more people do that?" I turned to her with tears in my eyes and said, that "They do", we just don't see enough of it.

So last night I sat down thinking that tomorrow will be Friday, when we have our happiness hour, and it would be a good idea to write down few things that can make someone's day, put a smile on their face and in return make us happy. Here are some of mine ideas and I hope you will add yours:

1. Sending a card with a note to let someone know they are in your thoughts.
2. Calling someone you haven's seen or spoke to in a while to tell them that you've missed them.
3. Letting someone in the grocery store in front of you because they only have few items to pay for.
4. Cooking a meal for someone who is lonely or not feeling well.
5. Giving a gift, just because to someone that rarely gets them.
6. Complimenting someone on their outfit while waiting for your coffee at Starbucks.
7. Sending flowers to your parents or grandparents.
8. Calling your aunt or uncle to tell them you've missed them.
9. Sending a book to your friend or family member with a note: "This book is special, and sare you“.
10. Telling a friend that you are proud of her, will boost her spirit and make her day.
11. Making a cake for a co-worker's birthday who doesn't expect it.
12. Helping someone you barely know just because.
13. Spending a day together with someone much older that doesn't get a lot of visitors.
14. Planning a surprise party for someone who never had one.
15. Recognizing someone for work well done, whether this is your employee or someone else's. Writing a note to their supervisor giving them praise will get them a raise or recognition and will put a smile on your face.

Spread the love, and don't forget to remind your kids, grandkids, nieces and nephews, that little acts of kindness go a long way.

I look forward to your comments, add your ideas and suggestions to my list, alone we can only do so much, together sky is the limit.

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      Vikki Hall wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • That is a great list! I am going to have to think on it to add something different.happy



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      Denise Richardson wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • I have to ponder a bit and get back to ya! great list so far though!



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      Jo46 wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • This is a wonderful idea!  My son learned from his 2nd grade teacher that it is better to “fill up someones bucket, then to take from it.”  Thank you Yani for your kind words this morning.



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      Mzd3 wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • I love your list, there are endless things we can do to make someone feel good. I do things for others whenever I can.



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • That really is a good list, Yana. Great suggestions. Maybe if we made a point to do one thing each and every day it would start a chain reaction. I like it.



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      Mztracy wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • estatic



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      Yana Berlin wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • Here is what I recommend.

      If each and everyone of you just add one little thing you can do for others, I will compile it in one list and will distribute it through out all of the social media.

      The list will be called  

      Little Goes A Long Way By Fabulously40 & Beyond Members.

      Come on ladies, start writing estatic



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      Coachmombabe wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • Wonderful idea, Yana!



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      Mariana Calderon-Thornton wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • HI
      I am a caregiver, and you can’t imagine how dofficult sometimes is to believe that just a little detail like the ones Yana wrote can make a lot! sometimes people dont realiza that one minute attention make others so happy, so keep doing it please we can help lonely people like you have no idea! and put smiles in their faces! and make their lives better!



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      Anne Lyken-Garner wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • This is a really awesome list, Yana. I wrote two entire articles about making someone else happy. The response from my readers showed the one thing that we all have in common (like you said). Making someone else happy makes us happy too - maybe even happier.

      Actually, I had listed buying something to eat for a beggar in my article so I’ll add, cook for someone who’s just lost a family member because the last thing they want to do is cook for themselves.



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      Janie Emaus wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • Great list, Yana.  I always let someone in line in front of me, if they have one item and I have a hundred and three!  BTW, Cynthia makes the best truffles in the entire world.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • Im always good for #3!! It makes me feel really good but moreso....the people I let go ahead of me feel even better!..that in and of itself makes my day!!!!!

      xoso



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      Oxsanawellness wrote Nov 20, 2009
    • Yana, your story got me teary too frown. It was very sweet of you and Stephanie to do that for that homeless guy. I often help them too (never bought food though, I usually give them money, next time I’ll probably buy them something to eat). what I would like to add to your list is helping homeless dogs (or cats), they need our help too, often times more then people... you can go to nearest shelter and take some dogs for a walk, or bring them some food (better to call shelter and ask what kind of food they eat), etc. Yana, it was very good idea, especially now in the spirit of the holidays.



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      Termite wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • I love this idea!! Great list!



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      Venus 7000 wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • I like your list Yanna.  Wanted to add a few more.

      ~ buying an extra happy meal and giving it to the homeless  person on the corner;

      ~ Sending cookies to your neighbours just because

      ~  helping an elderly person rake away the autumn leaves from their front yard (ask first);

      ~  Sharing your umbrella with someone who is suddenly caught in the rain.
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      One reason why the internet is so great is because it allows us to keep in touch with those we care about.  Even when we have nothing to say, a forwarded joke or inspirational message lets others know that we are thinking of them.    

      Have a great weekend.



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      Paris Mano wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • Whenever I am out and about and encounter someone who is not very friendly or seems distressed, I look for something to compliment them about. For instance, a grocery clerk may be having a rough day (and believe me I would be too with all of the hubbub and unhappy customers at times), I compliment her on maybe a piece of jewelry or how pretty her hair is or her nails. Anything to get her to smile and maybe include her in an uplifting conversation. Usually works.



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      Njsheila wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • Give until you cannot give any more...and then give a little more.



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      Melody Doran wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • I like your list this is so true. I have helped out and have been helped. It gives me a good feeling to give and recieve. I love this . Melodyestaticestaticestatic



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      Janet Wooley wrote Nov 21, 2009
    • I smile at strangers. I tell cute young men(box boy) they are handsome and pretty girls(cashier, ticket taker) they are pretty. I make faces at babies to make them smile. Start up a conversation with an elderly person.



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      Anne E wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • Great list!  I also suggest leaving a flowering plant anonymously on someone’s doorstep.



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      Renaehartson wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • This is a fantastic list and Stephanie’s heart is an example of what you’ve shown her through example. I remember when I was a little girl my Mom would randomly buy bags of groceries and take my sister and I with her to secretly put on the steps of some needly families, knock on the door and then jump in the car and take off. We didn’t have much and she, as a single Mom of two little girls really didn’t have “extra” to give. Her heart light shined bright by doing something special for others in need and we’ll never know the rippling effects of that small deed. happy

      Renaehappy



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      Geralyn Schulkind wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • Great list and suggestions from all!!  Thanks for getting us started Yana!  Why not invite someone to Thanksgiving dinner with you and your family?  Or as mom always said, if you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours!estatic

      Oh and another good idea is carry in your car some fiber bars or something like it to hand out to those people at the red lights who are in need!



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      Flycoupon wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • Smile and the world smiles with you!



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      Bobbi Bacha wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • Add kissing a baby, feeding a baby and hugging a baby.. its been my lifeline.  I love being a NANA !!!!!!



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      Yana Berlin wrote Nov 23, 2009
    • You ladies ROCK!!!

      I’m compiling all of your thoughts and comments and will post complete list soon.

      So keep posting new ideas so I can add them to the list.

      Thank you.



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      Samib wrote Nov 23, 2009
    • When I’m walking my dogs in our neighborhood, I stop and chat a bit with elderly neighbors who happen to be outside, even though I don’t really know them.  It brightens my day as well as theirs, because I enjoy the exchange.



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      Faye43 wrote Dec 12, 2009
    • Ok now my glasses are wet. Wonderful story!!! estaticestaticestatic



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      Anointedtoday wrote Dec 16, 2009
    • Are your getting credit for the clicks on the advertisements of our articles and our posts?????



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      Anointedtoday wrote Dec 16, 2009
    • So Yana basically you are making money from our blogs and posts, because of the clicks on the advertisements. Yes, I am familiar with the pay per clicks.



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