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It used to be that the older the woman, the longer her hair.  

What happened?

I remember when my mom turned 40 and chopped off her hair.  Now twenty years later she still maintains a short haircut. I grew up believing that as we women get older, our hair should be shorter.

Apparently that attitude prevailed for a long time and was dictated by our society.  

Jane Seymour doesn't agree. She has always had beautiful signature hair, and even now in her late fifties her hair is as beautiful as ever.

If you are looking for a drastic change, you can chop off your hair and have a cute, sassy look like in this video, as for me- I am growing mine out.

What are you doing with your hair?

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      Amy L. Harden wrote Sep 25, 2008
    • I believe that it really is up to the shape of one’s face and if long hair drags down your look.  As for me, I had to chop off my long locks several years ago....my dark hair only excentuated my wrinkles and made me look old, tired and drawn out.  I didn’t have time to take care of it anyways...I was always french braiding it or putting it up in a french twist or bun.  My kids you used to call it my “Mommy hairdo“..the braid...I mean.  Now, that my hair is pretty much grey or white...I have turned to highlighting it blonde and cutting it in to my sassy short cut that takes next to no time to style.  My husband loves it and so do I...that is all that matters to me any ways.  My H says it makes me look like Joey Heatherton...if anyone remembers this little spitfire of a dancer.  She was considered extremely sexy!!!  I’ll take sexy at almost 52 years old!



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Sep 25, 2008
    • Both of them looked cute with short hair. But, then there’s Jane Seymour as Yana said. She is just gorgeous no matter what she does. I agree with Shepherdess, it depends on a person’s face.



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      Sherri Tarran wrote Sep 25, 2008
    • I too believe that it depends on the shape of your face, some older women can carry it off (having longer hair) with some it just drags their face down making them look older.  Personally, I used to have hair past my shoulder blades til I was about 36 or so, I did like the option of being able to pull it up off my neck, but I decided I needed to try something fresh so I got it cut to my shoulders and started flipping it up - my husband LOVED it and I got comments all the time on how many years it took off.  Since I turned 40 I just seem to be going shorter and shorter - my husband says it likes it best and it is soooo much easier now!



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      Tuliplady wrote Sep 25, 2008
    • I know of women who cut off their gorgeous long hair just because they‘re over forty. I don’t get it.  A couple numbers doesn’t mean your hair isn’t still gorgeous.  

       My own is getting close to waist length again.  Three years ago I had it grown out down to my waist and donated it to locks of love.  I wouldn’t cut it short again. I felt just naked with short hair.

        One of my little teenage friends who is in beauty school just asked me to be her hair model.  She can’t wait to color it for me. My husband likes long hair and he’s very good about braiding it for me. (Shhh, don’t tell him I gave away his little secret.)

      I know a woman who is seventy five.  She has hair the most beautiful gray hair that come to her butt.  I’ve known her for probably 20 years and I’ve only ever seen her with her hair down once.  She’s worn the same up-do most of her adult life.  I think it all boils down to what you are comfortable with.

      Tulip



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      Ali68 wrote Sep 25, 2008
    • I have thick hair that is half way down my back. My goal is to grow it down to just above my but in long layers. It is getting harder and harder to maintain though and gets tangled easley. I am thinking about getting it braided, but I am not sure.

      ali



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      Deb Link wrote Sep 25, 2008
    • God blessed me with naturally curly hair.  As a child my mother did not see this as a blessing.  I guess I cried whenever she combed my hair.  Anyway, she cut if off short.  It was short throughout my time living w/ my parents.  I have always fought the hair I have thinking something was wrong with it because of my mother’s way of handling the situation.  I’m the only one in the family with curly hair.  My sisters both have straight hair and wore it long most of their life.  My older sister still wears hers long.  She’s 51.  I finally decided to stop fighting the curl(I noticed women paying to have what I had)and I decided to grow it long.  This is the first time in my life that it is past my shoulder blades.  I’m lovin’ it.



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      Cheryl Phillips wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • I’ve had short hair for all but 3 of my 45 years. I hated it when I was younger...I looked like a boy. I wanted long hair SO badly...then I grew it when I was close to 20. I only got it to the above the shoulder stage and it never felt like “me“. I’ve sported messy, short hair since 1985 and probably will never change. It’s a trademark I suppose—and I feel younger with it. However, some women in their 40s look OUTSTANDING in long hair...I just don’t have that kind of hair!



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      M2pjulie wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • When I turned 40 I considered a shorter cut but opted to leave the length. At 42 I revisited the question. I still have my long hair. The reason was simple. I look in the mirror 3, maybe 4 times a day; however, my husband looks at me all day and all night. He prefers my hair long, so I keep it long for him. He’s promised that he won’t allow me to appear to be searching for a 20-something look, and will encourage me to cut the locks should that ever occur. Until then, since my heart beats for him, I’ll keep the look that makes his heart beat for me.



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      Deb Link wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • My spousal equivalent feels the same way as your hubby.  He loves long hair.  He mad me the same promise however...the same one your hubby made to you julie.  I’m really enjoying the long hair.  I can “change it up” whenever I want, I’m not stuck with the same look every day.  :)



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      Donette Mullen wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • For me personally, I don’t like short hair (on my that is).  I have naturally wavy hair (tho I’ve been straightening it lately) and have always had long hair, except for a short time that my mom cut it very short when I was young because she was tired of “messing with it” and prefers hers very short.  But that didn’t last long.  I’ve tried different lengths, but for me, I prefer it just below my shoulders.  I get a little length cut during the summer then back longer in the winter.  Perhaps someday I’ll go shorter, but that day hasn’t come... and my husband too prefers long hair.  I definitely think it depends on the person and their face and personality.



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      Carine Nadel wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • as everyone can see I wear my hair in quite the pixie cut.  It seems to suit my baby fine waviness.  I like it.
      When my hair was long, it looked exactly what it was-thin, and straggly.



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      Angela Cooper wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • I think it’s up to the individual.  I’ve been through all phases with my hair but not I’m short and I love it.  I have 2 girls with long thick hair and after getting them ready in the morning I don’t want to have to deal with mine. I doubt that I’ll ever go long again.



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      Pharmagirl wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • It’s so true that it depends on the shape of your face. My mother always had my sister and I in pixie cuts when we were younger and if we weren’t wearing dresses, strangers would always comment on us being such cute boys!

      My hair grows quickly so I’m always experimenting with styles. I’ve gone from long to short to long again and just recently went back to short. Many of my girlfriends say they’d love short hair but their husbands protest too much. Funny, my husband adores me in short hair and whenever I’m in a long hair phase, always asks when I’m going to have it cut off. I love the ease of short hair; wash and wear suits me well. But I’m not ruling out that I’ll grow it out again. Isn’t that just part of the fun?



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      Tuliplady wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • Debra, I have two daughters like you who are blessed/cursed with naturally curly hair.  Both of them have run the gamet of hair styles, and both settled on long. Long is waves instead of curls and is much more manageable.  

      My mother inflicted the “pixie” haircut on me thru most of my childhood, so I promised myself I’d never make my girls were their hair any certain style.  I cringed when one of them, at age seven opted for a very short haircut (made her face look very fat), but I let her go ahead with it and she’s never gone short since.  

      Mine is very, very straight and I don’t fuss with it.  I’m strictly a wash and wear type.  I do go thru gallons of conditioner, but hubby buys me that.  I told him that’s the price he’s got to pay for having a wife with long hair.

      After my beauty school friend has had her way with my head, I promise to post pics.  I don’t seem to have a single current picture of myself.  Heck, I’m a mom, I’m always the one behind the camera.

      Tulip



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      Belisima wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • long hair is always guys preference. there something in the length that they always connect with femininity, grace, sexiness...never fail!



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      Belisima wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • long hair is always guys preference. there something in the length that they always connect with femininity, grace, sexiness...never fail!



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      Tamara47 wrote Sep 26, 2008
    • not too short....not too long....neither work for me, but rather somewhere in the middle



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      Okie428 wrote Sep 28, 2008
    • I have short hair; I look best with the “messy, choppy” type cut.  I have tried to let it grow out, but it weighs it down and makes my face look longer.  My husband likes long hair, also, but not on me.  The hair has to fit the person.  However, there are very few women over 40 that can wear it below the shoulders.  Like someone said above, it comes from the inside.  And, as long as you keep your hair healthy....



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      Mary Clark wrote Sep 28, 2008
    • I’ve always had shorter bobbed hair...and for years kept a perm in it.  Everyone for years thought my hair was naturally curly.  Well I’ve let that perm grow out and my  hair is longer now than it has been in a very long time.  I’m kinda of liking it...but not the time I have to spend on it.
      For now...I“ll just keep it like it is until I get tired of it and then I’ll cut it myself.  It’s just hair...it will grow.

      It’s longer now than it is in my picture.  I think it depends on the person and the shape of their face.  I would love to wear mine really short...but with my round face.....ummmm..NO.



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      Momtobe06 wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • I always had short hair as a child and I hated it, but now I understand why.. it flattered my baby fine hair texture. I grew it long and struggled with it just for the sake of having long hair. Finally I was sick of the tangles and just throwing up in a clip. I am all for long hair if it looks good.. that is the key.

      We have all seen Ladies with Long hair that just looks horrible

      There is no doubt that a variation on the classic bob is best suited for my face and hair texture.



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      Barbara Ayres wrote Sep 30, 2008
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      Short or long.  That is the question

      I have always had short hair.  Even as a little girl, my mother insisted that the dutch boy cut was the easiest to manage and so I was always a “Dutch boy”  

      Sadly, I have not been blessed with soft wavey curls.  My hair is poker straight and never lays smoothly. However, when my son was a baby, many years ago, I tried that Veronica Lake,long,straight look.  You know the one men always like. I found myself always combing through it with my fingers in the hopes that it would lay smoothly.  That never happened and after two years of fighting it, I opted to once again go short. Then I tried permanents to get that feminine, curly look I so longed for.  My husband at the time commented, “What happened?  Did you put your fingers in the light socket?”  So much for curls.  

      I’m very jealous of the many midlife women who have beautiful, full, long, even cury hair; and if their face can pull it off, great.  I always say “I think I’ll let mine grow long one more time before it turns gray.”
      Actually maybe it is already gray.  I wouldn’t know since I have been coloring for many years.  

      I have come to the realization that my hair will be gloriously short forever.  My hairdresser knows my hair and together we try whimisical, young haircuts.  Some work.  Some don’t.  Thankfully it always grows back.  

      My current husband also admits to liking my short hair preference so we are good unless I go a little “too short.”  Then together we agree,we agree “it will always grow back.” So I suppose I will go to my funeral with short hair.



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      Gloria Alice Dipiiro wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Hello Ladies

      Long vs Short hair for me: I love my hair long. For me I feel Fabulously 42 with it. However just as I have seen here on this site there are Fabulously 40 something and up in short hair.
      Do Whatever makes you feel beautiful  



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      Kirby Carespodi wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Would love to have long, sexy hair, but I’m not blessed with the texture that makes it possible (too fine and straight).  I LOVE looking like Rosemary’s BabyMama.



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      Jojobeav wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • My mom always had me convinced that once you are over 40 you should have short hair.  I started growing my hair out at 40 and I think it makes me look younger.  Longer hair has to fit your face, and it has to be healthy looking.  There is nothing worse than long hair that is over processed, dry and frizzy.  I go to a high end salon and spend a fortune on highlights and cuts, as well as good products to keep my hair healthly...and I have FABULOUS hair, if I do say so myself!!



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      Yana Berlin wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • Thanks to all of you for great comments.

      Here is something else to ponder:

      Light Vs. Dark

      My mom always said as you get older you go shorter and lighter. Well two weeks ago I colored my hair dark, and since then I got so many complements.

      I’ve decided since I look younger with dark hair I should grow them longer.

      I’m such a rebel....



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      Gwendolyn007 wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • It looks so nice!!  I am so bummed because I went to get a trim & the hairdresser butchered me!!  Keep growing your hair, it’s very pretty.



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      Dianne67 wrote Sep 30, 2008
    • I have been keeping my hair longer.  It has grown a lot in a year.  I went from being more blonde to dark brown.  My parents don’t like it dark; but it has kept me from having to color it for 6 months now.  I actually find long hair easier with my illness because I can keep it straight or put it in a pony tail.  My arms were hurting too much when I styled it.  My boyfriend also loves it long.  

      I am going to post some photos on my site to get an opinion of color and style from others.

      Hugs-
      Dianne



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      Gloria Alice Dipiiro wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • Keep It up rebel.. do what YOU feel is Right for YOU...

      That is all that matters



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      Tuliplady wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • I don’t think age or color matter a bit.  Some of the most drop dead gorgeous long hair I’ve seen has been beautiful shades of gray.

      When I am old, I intend to wear my long hair in braids wrapped around my head.  It’s not quite long enough to do that yet.

      Tulip



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      Desi~lu wrote Oct 1, 2008
    • I have always had long hair until five years ago.  I cut it off and donated it to locks of love because I thought I was getting to old to have long hair.  I missed it terribly, after having it cut three different times for locks of love, I have decided to grow it out waist length again.  I have always had very thick, full of body hair.  I hope I can carry this look without it making me look older.  My husband likes my hair longer and thinks it looks good on me.  I love my hair and at the moment I think it looks good as well.  I guess that’s all that matters.  LOL



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      Denise46 wrote Oct 3, 2008
    • I just cut my hair very short.  Posh short.  Actually I cut my hair a week before she did.  It is exactly like hers.  I cycle my hair every few years.  I grow it out to just below shoulder length and then little by little it gets shorter and shorter until-VOILA!- it’s gone.  I really love it short.  It used to take me 45 minutes to blow dry my hair.  It is thick and wavy.  Now, 5 minutes.  Life is good.  I know I will grow it out again and cutr it off again.  It’s all a part of being a woman...I have pictures of one recent short cut but it is even shorter now.  I think I’ll take a picture tomorrow and post that one too.  this one is with my beloved Sasha.



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      Momogirl wrote Oct 3, 2008
    • I personally like longer hair on me for my face shape. I think when a women gets older, she should go with a lighter shade of hair color.
      Too dark of hair can be aging.
      -Meri



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      Chrisdih wrote Oct 3, 2008
    • I’ve kept my hair at should length since my 20s. I think women should not be compelled to chop off their hair as they age. Ask your stylist what best suits your face and frame. Many women look amazing with short hair, but it’s not for everyone.



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      Jacquie6363 wrote Oct 3, 2008
    • Long/short, doesn’t matter to me.  In my online pics that’s the usual length and color.  I do not use dyes in my hair.  If I am feeling shorter or different color, then I buy a wig:..haha.  Me in a wig, shorter, different color



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      Tina Norton wrote Jun 3, 2009
    • I too thought that hair should be shorter for older women, but my hair is long and I think it looks good.  It’s not brittle or dry looking.  So until it starts looking unhealthy, I’m staying long.



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      Bea Kunz wrote Jul 27, 2009
    • WOW...so many interesting opinions about hair.

      I was blessed with a lot of hair and always comfortable with long and tousled look...I could actually go for days without doing anything except washing and finger styling...pile it up and let it do it’s own path-finding.

      I’m now 67, and while age should not be the major factor in the way we wear our hair or clothes...age does bring changes that have to be considered for our best overall look and comfort.

      I love my hair short, no curl and no color...it has turned a sparkling white and so easy to care for.

      I live on and my business is a farm life...so this plays into my choice of short.

      My hair was the color of Jane Seymour’s before the changing of the guard.....she has always been a favorite lady in my world.

      My nickname was for many years “Red.“...can’t answer to that anymore !

      One of the very special blessings in life is to be able to move from one season to the next with style and ease.

      I love stepping outside the box and reinventing myself from time to time.

      For me...it’s totally about what I feel good with, has nothing to do with my hubby. Love me, love my hair.

      I’ve enjoyed reading all the post and think you all are beautiful, the hair is just window dressing.

      To your most special day~

      Bea Kunz
      EatWell-BeWell~
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      Renaehartson wrote Nov 22, 2009
    • I just found this blog and it was perfect timing for me. I just got most of my hair cut off. I loved my healthy long hair, but found myself wearing the “mommy bun” every day. I wanted something sassy and more professional, so I even had highlights put in for the first time in my life. I’ve never had so many comments on my hair. One guy I went to high school with posted on my Facebook that I haven’t aged since 10th grade! Talk about feeling good at 40!  

      Think outside the box and be the BEST YOU for YOU. Do what makes you feel good. My 7 year old insisted we take pictures and she did a great job taking the pics~

      Renae



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      Whtshdwpanther wrote Nov 24, 2009
    • Hello everyone!  

       I have had both short and sit-on-it long hair.
      Either one works. Its the mid-length that drives
      me crazy. I have curly/wavy/fuzzy hair so it either
      has to be super short or very very long. Keeping it
      short is too costly for me, so long it is! Also, my
      hair is almost completely silver/white. I love it.
      I’m enjoying my full 45 years! Thanks for the blog!



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      Faye43 wrote Dec 12, 2009
    • I like both and change back and forth. I have donated my hair to locks of love twice in the last 10 years. My hair grows very fast. I am letting it grow long again!! happyhappy



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      Allnatural wrote Mar 10, 2010
    • I love long hair.  Unfortunately, when my hair gets any length on it, it looks stringy.  I remember as a child, my Mom always asked me if I had brushed my hair.  It always looked messy, even when I had just brushed it.  So, for me, the short, messy style works best.  My niece has long, red, curly hair...the kind I’ve always wanted.  But, we have to do the best with what we have.  My husband & I talked about it a while back and agreed that I shouldn’t have long hair just for the sake of long hair.  I should wear what flatters me and works with my hair type.  

      Audrey



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