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Okay, so I’m not 29 any more... whatever!  But every morning I see more gray hair, another wrinkle and working out to get back in shape is taking much longer now that I am 40!  tongue out

We see our kids grow up and become young adults, and then we realize - hey, wait a minute!  That only means we are getting older, too.  I am a mother for the second time around with a 3 yr old son - the center of my world.  He keeps me young and on my toes.  I think I would feel even older without him in my life.  He helps me to remember the innocent, unconditional faucets of life in general.

I have started a bootcamp work out at a local gym and love it like no other work out!  I religiously by the cheapest box of hair color at the supermarket and put the gloves on and color my own hair (to keep up with the gray, I must complete this ritual about every 6 weeks).

As for the wrinkles... I have recently started applying eye cream by Dermalogica to help diminish the appearance of wrinkles!  Does it really work?  Only time will tell.

So, I have friends that are 40+ and friends that are still in their 30’s.  The younger ones whine about turning 30, 31 or 34!  GIVE ME A BREAK!!! I love them all, but I’m 40 here, show some compassion.  I would love to go back to 29.

So I have come to realize that yes, every morning when I look in the mirror to apply my makeup and style my hair, I have to learn to be more accepting and patient of myself.  I’m just a work-in-progress.  I’m not “old” yet!  estatic

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      Suzann wrote Jun 24, 2010
    • You are - we all are - a wonderful work-in-progress. And it must be such a joy having a 3-year old around. Cute cute cute!!!



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      Anne E wrote Jun 24, 2010
    • I decided to stop coloring my hair for a while to see what my natural color is and I’m afraid it’s half brown and half gray!  It’s time for me to go to the market and pick up a box of hair dye. (The new kind works in only 10 minutes).  Congrats on joining the bootcamp!  Your little boy sounds adorable.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Jun 25, 2010
    • I love being almost 46! I love my 40’s even if it means loving the changes too. I feel like I am just better looking daily fine lines and all.

      I do think you need to find something to keep you young at heart and to keep your mind young and active.

      As for the color..... I fight it and will till the day I die. And the wrinkles.....well using good creams and things is just part of taking care of your skin. Which we should no matter the age. And yes Dermalogica is a great product.

      What’s in the boot camp work out? I think my gym has one too but never checked it out. I have a personal trainer and she is Jillian Michaels all over again.

      BTW you do know there is a certain confidence that comes with the 40’s and beyond that is not there in the 30’s or less?



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      Timbuktu wrote Jun 25, 2010
    • I hate looking in the mirror - but then 40 - oh the bliss of 40 - was a while ago. I can remember it, but only just. But hey, so my skin no longer has that youthful glow, I have to pluck the odd chin hair, it’s harder to lose weight, I use hair colour regularly but some of my friends didn’t get the chance to take on these concerns , they didn’t get to reach my age. I know which I prefer.



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      Michelle05 wrote Jun 25, 2010
    • Thanks for the comments ladies!  It’s so nice that all of us here are going through or have gone through similar phases in our lives!  I love the support!!!  

      My husband doesn’t understand me, and my 18 yr old daughter just thinks I’m old - so she doesn’t give me good, honest feedback on my hair, body or clothes! estatic

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      Linni wrote Jun 25, 2010
    • yes, looking in the mirror isnt the easiest thing for me.. not because of wrinkles or hair color, just for other reasons..
      i get my hair colored MAYBE 2 times a year... its white in the front, and im learning to like it a little more.. the color i use isnt dark, so its not stand outish.. lol

      great post! thanks
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      Marya1961 wrote Jun 29, 2010
    • I love your post, Michelle..and it has taken me a long time to accept my changes, but now I welcome this with open arms and a loving heart and a little pampering along the way.estaticheart



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      Michelle05 wrote Jun 30, 2010
    • I just wanted to add.... we really don’t have a choice BUT to accept the changes we go through, do we?  They always say if you can’t beat‘em, join‘em.  So we women need to graciously accept the change of hair color, skin texture and our bodies for what they are!  We MUST LOVE OURSELVES!!!  

      It was hard for me to turn 40 last year... really hard!  And then to see the signs of aging a bit made it a lot harder.  But now I know that I can easily color my gray, slather lotion on my face & body, exercise as if I was 20 again, and instead of feeling like I was falling apart, I can feel like a confident, experienced and wise WOMAN!!!  No one can take that away from me.  I don’t want to go back to my 20’s!  I like where I am now!



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      Kisbel65 wrote Aug 27, 2010
    • Michelle,

      I have had a hard time with acceptance. I just turned 45 and I have to admit the 40s have been a difficult time for me. I have also gone through a lot of change in the last two years, so that may have something to do with it as well. Nonetheless, I need to embrace aging and your post made me realize that.



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