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Ugh...my 19-year-old daughter just showed me her tatoo...her “first“.  She’s been talking about getting a tatto for many months, years even.  While she was underage, i simply ignored her once i told her that she was NOT getting a tattoo on my “watch“.  Once she was 18, she began talking excessively about the tattoo she was going to get. I ignored her, her father ignored her.  I’ve known Jax a long time and i can tell when she’s gearing up to take action and about 2 months ago, that’s just what happened.  She was working my husband and i in an effort to desensitize us to what she was going to do.  Neither my husband nor i supported the decision to get a tattoo at the age of 19.

I believe that a tattoo is something that does not belong on a person who is still discovering who she/he is.  I believe that if a person wants a tattoo, a very major requirement is to know who you are and have a very firm footing in your life.  This way, the tattoo fits in and does not run the risk of being an obstacle in your life.  

Jax’s original idea for a tattoo was a small (50-cent piece sized) hello kitty outline on the inside of her wrist.  I learned this bit of information from my younger daughter.  When it became evident that the tattoo was happening sooner than later, i made one simple statement to my daughter; “If you get a tattoo in a place where i can see it, i will be very angry.  You do not want me to be that kind of angry.”  Fortunately, she took what i said seriously (good thinking on her part) and came home yesterday with a Hello Kitty tattoo between her left hip bone and belly-button.  It is bigger than i thought it would be (about 3” in diameter) and higher than i thought it would be.  Jax is not a big girl...only 115 pounds of 5‘7“. It looks too big.  

I hate it.



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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • I don’t blame you for hating it.  She’s going to feel ridiculous having a hello kitty on her hip when she’s 40!

        I feel the same way about piercings.  Our oldest went and got her eyebrow pierced as soon as she moved out of the house.  we had forbidden her as long as she was living under our roof.  First week gone from home, pierced.  Ugh!!!!



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      Lazylola wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • My son has 3 (that I know of) and I also protested to no avail. I don’t think he gave them as much thought as he thinks he did, at least your daughter listened to you and didn’t get it on her wrist. I do hear from everyone that has gotten them that getting tats is addictive. estatic



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      UK Girl wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • Yes, been there and got the badge and t-shirt last year we had the three stars and heart on wrist tattoo ...I HATE IT.

      But at 22 what can I do I have said my mother will kill her and cut it out when she spots it ........ so over to my mother next week.
      She had it done while I was away on holiday and the anniversay of her fathers death ....



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • Ugh is right! What’s a parent to do these days with defiant and independant stubborn young adults? I wish there was an accurate word to describe these younp people who are not teens anymore but not really an adult either.

      My Kylie has Carpe Deim (sp?) on her back surrounded by flowers. It is 6 in high and shoulder blade to shoulder blade. Ky isn’t a big girl either. She also has her belly button pierced twice and her nose twice and her ears have 5 holes in them. Of course she is the one living on her own currently too.



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      Daphne wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • Vikki...i think we raised the same girl.  Jax has her nose and belly-button pierced as well as 5 other holes in her ears.  Such pretty girls...what are they thinking by punching holes into and permanently inking their bodies????



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • I wonder when they get older if they will admit that any of it was a mistake?

      I just love my children......



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      Cynthia Schmidt wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • I like the Married for Life title because I understand that tattoo removal is not a picnic. I don’t understand why these young people feel the need to decorate themselves with permanent ink and piercings. Can’t they just go buy some jewelry?



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      Angelcart wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • My 19 year old son got 3 tat’s.  I preached til I was blue in the face about not getting them.  I explained the work issues such as peepers.  He got them and hid them from me.  I discovered his first one on his back left shoulder when I went to wake him up.  Best not get me started on how I feel about his 3 tat’s.worried



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      Coachmombabe wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • All of our children have multiple tattoos, but our daughter has the largest and most conspicuous of all! A geisha angel on her right calf. It is a lovely piece of art, but I would have preferred her not get it. Oh, well. It’s her body. She also has Faith inside one wrist and love inside the other, and two sets of cherries on her lower back.

      The boys have some strange stuff, including one has a coffin. What’s a mother to do? Most of our volunteers at Shiloh have tats too. it’s a tatty world! estatic



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      Laurie Zieber wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • You do not walk this road alone, my friend.



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • Coach I love “it’s a tatty world” !!!!!



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      Janet Wooley wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • As much as we love our kids they are going to be adults and we do not love them any less no matter what they do to their bodies. My husband is covered w/tattoos. I have none. I thought my sons would take after their dad and my older son waited until he was 25 and has 2. My younger son does not want one. I was disappointed at the older one but he’s still my baby. I don’t know what it is but they seem to be very popular now adays with the younger generation. What can we say we gotta love em tat’s piercings and all. They say it is an expression of themselves, some that I have seen are beautiful and some are NOT. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.



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      Tuliplady wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • I think any young person who wants a tattoo should go visit an 80 yr old man who got his first tattoo at age 18 when he went into the navy (army, whatever).  After seeing those aged tats, I bet a lot of kids would think twice.



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      Doreen XoXo wrote Aug 5, 2009
    • People nowadays are more forgiving and accepting of body art.  Years ago, it was looked at like only sleazy cheap people would mark their bodies up.  I do agree that in the workforce, tattoos, or people who have them, are still looked at that way.  

      My dad has 13 of them, I always liked the idea he had my name and my sisters’ name tattooed on him.  Every one of them has meaning. I, myself, have three of them and love each of them.  My son and my daughter both have tattoos.  I am not a hypocrite so therefore I accept them.  To each their own.  Their bodies, their life, not mine.  

      xoxo



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      Vikki Hall wrote Aug 6, 2009
    • I don’t have a prob with tats. My prob is that my daughter at the age of 18 got one (she is 20 now). I would have preferred for her to wait a little bit longer to be sure that is what she wanted. And of course she can have it removed later but like I said it’s BIG, REALLY BIG!

      Please don’t make me pull out the pic of the naked tattoo lady again.....estatic



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      Daphne wrote Aug 6, 2009
    • Here is the tattoo...(sigh)



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      Tammy Slater-Kendrick wrote Aug 7, 2009
    • Oh, how I can relate to these posts! My younger daughter loves them (got her first on her 18th birthday). The older daughter (who is now 30) agrees with me - that they‘re an unwise decision.

      Believe it or not, Katie (younger, tattoo’d daughter) works in a law firm and they seem to be perfectly OK with it. Though I’m not sure if they’ll hold her back from getting promotions in the future. She’s young and still working on her Bachelor’s degree, so we’ll have to see how that plays out.

      On the positive side, ladies, at least there are SO MANY young people getting them that they are becoming more and more acceptable. It’s like longer hair in the ‘70s, pierced ears, not wearing stockings with a dress....  

      Let’s just hope that tattoo removal procedures get perfected enough that they’ll later decide that it’s “cool” NOT to have them again!



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