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I GUESS I‘VE WATCHED TO MUCH ‘GONE WITH THE WIND’ OR READ TOO MANY ROMANCE NOVELS....
BUT I THOUGHT WHEN YOU SAY “[I DO, YOU DON‘T]“....

 I HAVE BEEN HURT SINCE 2008, AND AFTER 5 MONTHS OF MARRIAGE I WAS IN A WHEELCHAIR FROM THE INJURY FOR ABOUT A YR. THEN ON A WALKER AND THEN A CANE FOR A WHILE AFTER THAT...

 THEN I FIND OUT WHILE I WAS FLAT OF MY BACK AND ON MEDICATIONS OUT THE WAZZUUU..!!!, THAT MY HUSBAND ACCUMULATED A FEMALE FRIEND THAT HER MOTHER SHARED THE SAME ROOM WITH AT THE NEW RESTHOME HE PUT HIS MOTHER AT....

 WHILE THE CAT IS DOWN SO IS THE CROWN..!!!
SO MANY THINGS HAVE SURFACED, HERE AND THERE, IN BITS AND PIECES SINCE THIS PAST YR, THAT WE HAVE ARGUED REALLY BAD OVER IT 3 MAJOR TIMES... THIS LAST TIME WAS ABOUT 1 WEEK AGO, WHEN HIS MOTHER GOT PUT IN THE HOSPITAL... HIS OLD CELLPHONE GOT CUT OFF AND WITHIN ONE HOUR OF HIS MOTHER GOING TO THE HOSPITAL HIS NEW PHONE RANG AND IT WAS HER.... SHE ONLY CALLS DURING THE DAY WHEN HE ISNT AROUND ME, BUT SHE HAS CALLED A COUPLE OF TIMES WHEN SHE DIDNT KNOW HE WAS WITH ME IN THE PAST.. SO NEEDLESS TO SAY HE LET HER KNOW THAT I WAS THERE AND GOT OFF THE PHONE QUICK... MEN ARE JERKS... IF I KNEW THEN WHAT I KNOW NOW, I WOULD HAVE NEVER PUT HIS NAME ON THE LAND WE ARE ON WITH ME... BUT I AM KINDA STUCK IN A BAD SITUATION AND WILL HAVE TO TALK TO AN ATTORNEY OR PARALEGAL OF SOME KIND TO MAKE SURE HE CANT TAKE ME FOR A RIDE IF HE DOES LEAVE ME...
GOD GIVE ME THE STRENGTH TO GET THROUGH THIS ONE...




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      UK Girl wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Oh Linda I’m so sorry I knew you had been ill but all this while your ill is not on
      Well you know you have your Fab40 sisters and I’m really sorry and I hope you get some good legal advice about the land



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      Mztracy wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Linda... I am so sorry you are going through all of this.
      You do have the strength inside of you.
      Find good legal consulting!!
      heartheartheart



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      Linda Joyner wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • I APPRECIATE ALL YOU GIRLS.. I KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE IN THIS WORLD THAT HAS PROBLEMS OR HEALTH ISSUES.. BUT I THOUGHT OR HOPED THAT AT LEAST I WOULD BE LOVED BY THE MAN I MARRIED.. I WILL NOT EVER DO IT AGAIN, I KNOW THAT TO BE A FACT...I WILL NOT LET HIM GET THE BEST OF ME THOUGH...
      I LUV ALL MY FAB FRIENDS...
      YOU GUYS R LIKE SISTERS TO ME AROUND THE WORLD... LJ



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      Angelcart wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Sorry your are having to go through this.frown



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      Mzd3 wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Linda, Im sorry to hear you have been going through so much... we are here for you...((hugs))



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      Kerri1985 wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • Linda,

      It is with deepest sorrow that I have for what you are facing. My prayer for you is that you find peace in your current situation and trust in what you know to do is right. I’m sorry this person has treated you this way when you’ve needed him the most.

      Be encourage and sore through your pain and you will see how God can bring you through...

      HUGZ...Kerriheartheartheart



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      Jenz ~ wrote Mar 8, 2011
    • I am so sorry you are contending with this and sincerely wish you the very best. Remember honey, karma really IS a bitch and she WILL show up in her own sweet time and deal with them swiftly, I’m svre of it. ‘She’ always does.

      I know that probably isnt helping right now but DO know you will come out of this as they say, ‘smelling like a rose.’ As for them, you know what happens to people who meet under dishonest or shady circumstances. They’ll do the same thing to each other too and be miserable.  

      Many blessings and hugs to you!



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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 9, 2011
    • Linda, I know what you‘re going through, we‘re like sisters in this strange “Worse Divorce Situations Sisterhood Club“. LOL  Karma has taken a chomp on the (Almost) X’s butt, and it makes him meaner to me. It’s is a hostile divorce situation here and I just hope to come out of it with enough to move on. I’m not the one who cheated or dumped him, but he’s pissed that he couldn’t just toss me out like the garbage and keep every single thing we had accumulated during our marriage like it was rightfully his only.  

      I’m sorry you‘re in my sisterhood club and hope the best for you in your resolutions.

      Cathie



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      Linda Joyner wrote Mar 9, 2011
    • thanks to all of you for your support..!!!

      • it means alot to me..//*

      and also to CATHIe.!! i know girl, men are jerks, especially when it comes to money and possessions.. but i willl not go down without a fight and he knows it.. but he is a snake in the grass when it comes to these types of things, and he will pull out the big guns on me for what he wants.. but i am the one that has brought the money to the table [ injury settlement ] and he wants it.. but hopefully it wont work that way... hugs to all you girls,.. time will heal all of my pains and yours i hope..
      hugs LJ heartheartheart



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      Frannie1964 wrote Mar 13, 2011
    • Linda, I’m sorry your going thru thisfrown and so sorry for responding to your post so late. I have been slow at doing things lately. I am here for you girly and always got an ear to listen. Your one of my good fab friends on here and I luv ya dearly!heart



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      Tuliplady wrote Mar 13, 2011
    • Linda, I’m sorry you‘re going thru all of this.  I must have missed this post earlier in the week.  Just know we‘re here for you and wishing you the best possible outcome.



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      Linda Joyner wrote Mar 30, 2011
      •  HEY EVERYONE, JUST CHECKING IN TO UPDATE ON THINGS....*
        I HAVE KEPT MY HEAD HIGH AND I AM NOT GIVING IN....
      • I HAVE GOT MY FEET FIRMLY PLANTED ON THE GROUND AND I KNOW WHERE I STAND... TALL AND PROUD TO BE A 46 YR OLD WOMAN, AND HE CANT STAND IT... BUT HE IS TRYING TO  SNEAKY AS USUAL, AND ACTING AS IF NOTHING IS WRONG...  BUT I KNOW BETTER... I WILL SURVIVE AND HE WILL PAY IF HE EVER LEAVES...   I WILL KEEP YOU POSTED...*
      •    AND JUST KNOW THAT I LOVE ALL YOU GIRLS AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR DEVOTION TO ME  .....*
        HUGS LJheartheartheart


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      Cathie Beck wrote Mar 30, 2011
    • What, Linda? You still have to live with the snake? The court gave me sole use of the house and him sole use of his barn sized shop that has an apartment upstairs. I had a new dead bolt put on the door so he can’t get in.  

      My advice is get yourself a Good attorney and do not talk to him about the divorce at all. I
      know the X has tried to get me talking because he’s in the dark about my rights. I’ll leave him in the dark!  

      Wishing you all the best!  

      Cathie



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      Linda Joyner wrote Apr 26, 2011
    • HEY GIRLS... JUST TO UPDATE ... I TALKED TO SOMEONE AND THEY SAID I HAVE THE RIGHTS SO HE IS STILL TRYING TO KEEP HIS LITTLE SECRETS AND I HAVENT BEEN GOING FOR IT... WE BARELY TALK TO EACH OTHER ANYMORE,... BUT HE IS STILL HAVING TO PAY THE HOUSE BILLS FOR ME .... I GUESS LIFE HAS THEIR  REASONS AND THEY COME IN DIFFERENT SEASONS... HE HAS BEEN MORE LIKE A ROOM-MATE FOR THE LONGEST TIME NOW, SO I GUESS THAT IS WHY IT DONT HURT SO BAD NOW..... BUT THAT B#$%^@!!!! HE IS STILL FRIENDS WITH HAS NOT GOTTEN HERS YET, BUT SHE WILL...!!!!

       I CAN PROMISE THAT... LIKE YA'LL SAID KARMA COMES BACK AROUND... ESPECIALLY WHEN HER HUSBAND FINDS OUT .....!!!estaticestaticestaticestatic



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      Cheekymonkey wrote Apr 27, 2011
    • This just plain sucks! I’m so sorry you were betrayed especially when you needed him most. That S.O.B !!! I’d give karma a hand! Get an attorney. I’d start by pulling money out and to the side. Jerk doesn’t even begin to cover his description!!!
      As for his whore in waiting well karma comes in big packages!!!
      Start protecting yourself now and let him flap in the wind!!!
      I’m really sorry.
      Be strong and know we are all here to support you
      Cris



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      Denise Richardson wrote Apr 27, 2011
    • Linda, just know that leaving him is NOT the end of your world, it will a new beginning and sounds to me like a better one with out his sorry a**. Look I know it hurts, been there a time or two my self and you will not be the last one to go through this, but you can and shall survive this. Right now is NOT the time to sit on the pity pot, get up and do what you need to do for YOU! Trust and believe he is doing what he needs to do in secret because he know he’s wrong and his sorry lazy whore is probably helping him along with his mom or anyone else that knows of his cheating so my dear, get it together, get all yours/his money together get an attorney and finish taking his a** to the bank, trust me he is going to try and play dirty so make sure you‘re three-four steps ahead of him, my prayers and blessings are with you.



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      Cathie Beck wrote Apr 27, 2011
    • Hiya Linda,  

      Of course you have rights! Get yourself an attorney and if you haven’t filed for divorce yet, now is a Good time to do so! I wasn’t quick enough to be the plaintiff and now we wait for him to take action. And he tries to go renegade and not go through our attorneys which is another trip to the courthouse to get this divorce back on track.  

      As Neicy pointed out, your husband is likely getting motivation from his girlfriend or someone else that is selfish instead of legally educated. It will cause you some grief, but it is most likely limited to their mentality, so... keep that in mind. And don’t try to do this on your own!  

      Also, you really should open your own bank acct and move as much as you can to it. If
      you live in a community property state, you won’t be at fault for taking half of a joint account or of his account. Talk to your attorney about tying up the rest of it before he can funnel it off, and Please tell me he can’t sell the property out from under you unless you sign too!  

      I just want to tell you something. Being angry and rightfully indignant is intended for a short term solution for survival, it’s not meant to keep us going indefinitely. It’s wear & tear on us body, heart and spirit and eventually will erode us to that level of Being.  

      I’m here for you.  

      Cathie



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      Tstreets wrote Apr 27, 2011
    • I am so sorry for your pain.  It is a roller coaster for you right now.  Get all your ducks in a row first.  The courts do have free and legal aid available.  You will be suprised on how much you can do on your own.  There are also attorneys available to help on a sliding scale. My first attorney took almost everything I had and I resent him for that. He knew I had a settlement and that was all it took for him to become a shark. Be careful and try and settle out of court as much as possible! Trust me, you will come out with a lot more if you can keep as much out of court as possible. Mediation is free as well.  Having attorney’s present is not. You know what I mean. I had an attorney with the first X which made us HATE each other and became a competitive game (attorney’s won and I think they were part of the cause and I also think they liked it in a sick way).  The second X no attorney’s and we divided everything equally, were happy about it and are still friends.  I helped him with his paperwork. Just other options for you to ponder on. Good Luck!



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      Linda Joyner wrote May 12, 2011
    • HEY GIRLS, JUST WANTED TO POST UP TO DATE...//
      THANKS FOR ALL THE IN PUT... U GIRLS ARE A LIFELINE FOR ME... HUGS TO ALL OF YA‘LL....////
      HIS MOTHER JUST GOT PUT BACK IN THE HOSPITAL AGAIN TODAY... JUST GOT THE CALL A LIL WHILE AGO.. SO I KNOW HIS ‘FRIEND’ WILL BE UP HIS ASS AGAIN...AS USUAL...///  

       AND HE WANTED TO KNOW IF I WANTED  TO GO... // AINT THAT A BLIP..!!!  I AM NOT GONNA  LOOSE MY TEMPER OR GET MY NOSE RUBBED IN IT AND STAND THERE AND NOT SAY ANYTHING ,.. I HATE THIS... REALLY, REALLY DO... I HAVE NEVER HAD TO  GO THROUGH SOMETHING LIKE THIS, BUT I HAVE TO HAVE PROOF AND I DONT HAVE IT YET..  AND I QUOTE[ SHE IS MY MOTHERS FRIEND] HE SAID .....
      I WILL KEEP YOU UPDATED ... HUGS,LJ



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      Cathie Beck wrote May 12, 2011
    • Hi Linda,  

      Well... stay strong, and I hope you can get over being angry with him. It’s one of the first moves for you being able to let go and move on. Emotionally, it’s healthier for us to let all the anger go since it won’t do any good for us. Your husband is a Jerk! I hope you are not waiting for him to love you again since it sounds too late for that?  

      Wishing all the best for you.  

      Cathie



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